(7) The etiquette of entering the temple is to meet the saints and teachers. Some people, the spirits of their parents are also enshrined in temples. What should you do if you want to meet them? You are here to worship Buddha. You can bring flowers, fruits and vegetables. That's all right, but don't bring too much. Dedication is the greatest advantage. You can even offer a Buddha without anything, and you can also go to the temple to help (some people offer a Buddha to push others' offerings aside, put their own offerings on the altar, or casually put them on the altar, and some people just offer a Buddha, go out for a walk and take it down and eat it, saying that it is my own thing anyway, so it doesn't matter if I eat it, it's not as good as the law). When entering the temple gate, the left foot is close to the left and the right foot is close to the right. Be sure not to step on the threshold. After entering the temple, you must first go straight to the main hall. Why? The Buddha is there. Be sure to go to worship Buddha first. Or you can worship all the way from the palace. When worshipping Buddha, be respectful, don't lift your ass too high, and don't put anything in your hand on the mat, let alone on the altar. In those days, there was a double-fruit sage (Stohan) in the Hinayana, who stood his cane on the wall of the main hall when worshiping Buddha. This action made his fruit position return to the first fruit (collapse), and many efforts were in vain. It is particularly important to emphasize that nothing in the temple can be taken away, otherwise it is stealing the monk's things, which is a very serious crime. Some people don't understand. On the surface, these things are not worth a few dollars, but they are ten things. It is a big sin to take them away (for example, the notice in Huguo Temple says: The oil bowl has been taken away, please return it, even if it is for your own Buddha's use).
Don, this is not good. Amateurs who help with cooking must be careful. Raw materials in the kitchen, such as radish, must not be eaten in the kitchen! Master Hongyi wrote on the temple stationery for money. )
(8) The etiquette of meeting a monk in a temple, you will definitely meet a monk. Now let's talk about the etiquette of greeting monks. Meet a monk, maybe you don't know him. No, it's embarrassing to say hello. But as an amateur, you can't just walk past like you didn't see it. You should cross your hands and ask questions. If you meet a familiar or respected monk, you should bow down. It's usually three worships. Master said, "It's no problem to worship once." Then you should worship once, and don't continue to worship by force. Or if the master says "no worship", you don't have to worship. Some people, the elderly master said not to worship, but he continued to worship several times. Finally, the master had no choice but to stand up and help him.
There is such a story. A king went to visit the venerable Bindulu and thought, "The venerable man is so arrogant! I am a noble king. I came to worship him and he ignored me! " The venerable master knew what he was thinking, so when the king came to worship for the second time, the venerable master got up and took seven steps to meet the king. What kind of retribution did the king get? His country was occupied by others for seven years, during which time he could not sit on the throne of the king. Letting the saint return the gift to you will definitely ruin your good fortune. Worship the monk, and the monk doesn't have to reciprocate. In China, people pay attention to reciprocity, and monks sometimes get together. In Southeast Asia, laity worships Buddha and becomes a monk.
Others come over, you respect you, I go my way. This is not arrogance. Your respect, sincerity and merits are all yours, and it has nothing to do with becoming a monk. What do you want to say after worshipping the monk? In ancient times, they said, "Are monks healthy? Less illness and less trouble? Is Buddhism great? ..... "Now, people don't understand, and want to use modern Chinese:" Master, are you okay? Are you healthy? " If the mage is busy and just pleases you, you should blink and walk away. It should be emphasized that at home, women can't touch the monk's body, even clothes, and female laymen can't go near the monk's room alone. Similarly, men at home can't touch the body of Master Er Monk, nor can they enter Master Er Monk's room alone. Men and women laymen can't shake hands and talk at a certain distance. Laity can't sit side by side with monks.
(9) Matters needing attention in support The ancient Buddhist system provided four things for monks: diet, bedding, clothes and medicine. Nowadays, people tend to support things far beyond this scope, such as air conditioners, refrigerators, even complete sets of furniture, precious works of art and so on. What's even more amazing is that there are people who keep houses, and it is difficult for them to become monks. We unruly laymen just dragged them home again, adding a lot of burden and concern to the master's heart. After all, most monks are ordinary monks, and greed comes. How do you think people can practice?
(10) If there are lectures in the temple, you should pay attention to the following points if you want to learn:
First, don't talk, turn off your cell phone or set it to vibrate. This represents a person's respect for others, because we learn Buddhism to decorate ourselves, and we think it is impossible to go up a storey still higher without working hard on ourselves. Otherwise, what's the point of converting to Sambo? The second is to sit in order after entering the door. If you are late, or have something to go out while listening to the Bible, ask questions outside before coming in or going out. The third is to respect others when you quit halfway. It is not impossible to quit the lecture hall halfway, but the important principle is not to affect others. Go out slowly and quietly. It's best to listen all the time, and then everyone will return together. After class, if you don't have time to go to the main hall to worship Buddha, you should stand in the yard and respectfully ask the main hall before you go. There are protectors in the Dharma Council. If you don't pay attention to your words and deeds, you may be severely punished by your protector.
(1 1) Etiquette for reading and precautions for keeping Buddhist scriptures 1. Read the scriptures respectfully. Classics are the words spoken by the Buddha, bearing the Dharma, and you must respect it in order to gain benefits. Wash your hands and gargle before chanting, and put incense on your clothes. Especially after reading the bible, you should wash your hands. Disciples should wash their hands, gargle, urinate and wash their hands in the morning. The ancients used bamboo sticks to turn over books, but modern people don't pay attention to them. A book is badly turned and dirty. I suggest that the famous books you often read be wrapped in books and protected for future generations to read, otherwise you will be guilty. Everyone else is lying on his back, crossing his legs. Aren't you afraid of becoming a snake in the future? 2. Classics should be widely circulated and should not be shelved, otherwise there will be obstacles. Some people are greedy for laws and ask for books everywhere. Most of them don't have time to read them, so they don't let them circulate. You know, these good books are donated by many laymen with their hard-earned money to help print. We should let them give full play to their benefits. Only when some people read and learn Buddhist scriptures, and some people follow them, can Buddhism be carried forward and remain in the world for a long time. 3, the attached book depends on the object, not too casual. In some places, it is reported that a large number of Buddhist scriptures and good books are often regarded as waste in waste collection stations, which is heartbreaking. You know, waste books and waste paper will be sent to paper mills and pressed into pulp, which may eventually become toilet paper, with very serious consequences. Reason analysis: First, in order to promote Buddhism, Buddhist scriptures and good books are attached casually. Some people simply don't believe it or read it, so they put it in the bookcase and sell it as waste paper to garbage collectors after a long time; Second, the old man who believed in Buddhism died, and his children did not believe in Buddhism, so they just disposed of the scriptures and sold them to the waste collection station. What we need to pay attention to is that people who know nothing about Buddhism, it is best not to give it directly. If they don't understand, they can handle it casually. You can give them some simple books about Buddhism. If the other party is not interested, don't force it, indicating that the opportunity is not mature; For elderly bodhisattvas, it is best not to leave too many books at home, but to leave a few classics that they often read and recite, and the rest are handed over to the legal department of the temple or the Buddhist shop opened by Buddhist laymen for more people to read.
4. A layman who has time and heart can go to a large waste collection station and negotiate with the boss of the collection station. If they find good Buddhist scriptures, they must keep them. We can buy them at a slightly higher price, which is equivalent to a magic weapon. Merit is better than donating money to seal the scriptures!
Everyone agrees that Master Hongyi should be punctual. When he was a layman, he once made an appointment with a friend in Shanghai. Come to see me at seven tomorrow morning, and I'll wait for you at home. The man came at 7: 05, only five minutes short. Just tell Mr. Li Shutong that you are late. I have made other arrangements. Let's make an appointment tomorrow or the day after tomorrow. Then he gave the man the door. This is to educate that person and tell him a truth. When you reach an agreement with others, you must be punctual. Buddhist laymen should pay more attention to keeping promises and punctuality. What is the agreement? Rain or shine, we should go that day. Or don't go, then you should tell others in advance, and they will make arrangements early (all three of us have the problem of slow fever and regret).
(13) Pay attention to filial piety. The ancients said: the filial piety of all virtues is the first, and filial piety is the foundation of people. Goode said: relying on Buddha is true, completion lies in personality, and success is the success of Buddha. As a layman, we should take good care of our parents. It's not that parents are old and no one is raising them, but that parents are competing to raise them when they are old, which is in line with Buddhism. For parents, in addition to respect, respect, but also support. As a child, you should have this heart. Of course, you can do whatever you want, you don't have to force it. It doesn't matter if you are willing but unable; If you are "strong but powerless", it will be terrible. Buddhism talks about reincarnation, and one day your son will be "out of his depth."
Be sure to be filial to your parents and seek warmth and coldness. Disciple's rules: first, filial piety, and second, believing that ... you love me, why not be filial, hate me, and be filial.
(14) Improving family relations is an important part. People who study Buddhism should handle the relationship with their families. After learning Buddhism, the relationship with family members will be more harmonious, which reflects the interests and benefits of learning Buddhism. If there are contradictions in their family because of learning Buddhism, then we should reflect on ourselves. What's the matter? People who study Buddhism should be tolerant, forbear and do more housework at home, which is also practice. Don't delay other family life because of family affairs, such as attending classes, running and attending the Fa Conference. As a woman, you should understand that your husband is very hard and it is not easy for him to work outside. He may be angry with his leaders or subordinates, and occasionally complain when he comes home. You should learn to listen and enlighten him. A husband should also understand his wife. She has to cook at home, mop the floor, wash clothes and pick up the children ... she has to do a lot of things and it's very hard. Sometimes she complains. Listen! Listen more, think more and understand more. What needs special emphasis is that the old bodhisattvas must do their children's work well in advance, and they must not be hindered when they die. Tell them that observing and respecting the wishes of the elderly is a virtue as children and the greatest filial piety to the elderly. If you can't move your body early, get dressed and send it to the freezer for freezing, you'd better ask a support group to help you. It is a pity that some old laymen have studied Buddhism for decades, but at the last minute they let their children deal with it according to secular customs.
(15) Kindly advise others that we Buddhists should not have too strong a sense of right and wrong, stare at other people's faults, and always measure others by Buddhist standards and act as Buddhist judges, saying that others are wrong. As a result, the grass in other people's fields was pulled up, and the seedlings in their own fields were wasted. Master Yin Guangda said, "A true Buddhist has never been seen in the world", "Take care of your own family, but don't take care of others' families ... just learn from others, not others", and "Others are Buddhists and Bodhisattvas, and you are an ordinary person. "I always see other people's mistakes because I don't have enough inner cultivation, and others do well. That's because people show me positive examples and educate me to see Siqi. Others don't do well. That's what Buddha and Bodhisattva show from the opposite side, reminding me that I can't do this. Disciple's rules: See people as good as Si Qi, go far and gradually converge, see people as evil, then introspect, if there is, correct it, and don't add police. However, for the obvious mistakes in fellow initiates, we should start from compassion and give good advice. Disciple Gui said: Good words, moral construction, violation of rules, both lose. He is wrong because he doesn't understand. If we know, we will tell him. If you don't persuade him, it may make his mistake more serious and lead to greater bitter fruit. It won't hurt him. But persuasion should be skillful and convenient, and it should be said in a way that the other party can easily accept. If the other party resolutely refuses to listen, goes his own way, or we don't have this fate, and we are unable to convince him ourselves, forget it, and don't leave any trace in our hearts (Brother Zhang kindly advised him when he saw a layman sitting on the threshold of the main hall, but others listened, and some people didn't understand the rules because no one told him, so we told him when we saw him.
Doesn't he know). Someone advised people not to listen and said some ugly things, so why not just stop talking? This is not right. Just because he doesn't listen doesn't mean others don't listen. Finally, please remember a principle, be happy and smile. Don't let trouble spread. What is the purpose of learning Buddhism? Far away is becoming a Buddha and transforming all beings. Close, just for fun. Not only be happy for yourself, but also make others happy. Some people are in a bad mood. They don't talk when they meet friends, and their faces are very long. Friends greeted him three times, but he didn't speak. It is not good to bring bad feelings to others. What does your trouble have to do with them? Even if I am wronged, even if I secretly cry in the room, I will let the sun shine when I go out. Why? Because I can't infect others with my pain. We should pass on our happiness to others.