Is it a psychological obstacle that a person can't walk out of feelings and is afraid of future love?

When we devote ourselves wholeheartedly to a relationship and even regard each other as lifelong partners, we begin to think that love is not a child's play, but a prelude to marriage, so it is very important to regard each other. But when this relationship can't continue, I can only choose to break up, but after breaking up, I can't get out of the shadow of lovelorn, even lose confidence in the future, afraid of entering the next love, afraid of being hurt, afraid of not being able to bear the pain and blow of lovelorn. The deeper you love, the worse you get hurt after being lovelorn. So, how can we overcome the psychological barrier after lovelorn?

First of all, you should adapt to life without each other and get used to life alone.

Because in love, the other person is very kind to himself and meticulous to himself. Once lovelorn, he will be at a loss and unable to adapt to life without each other. So, you need time to get used to a person's life. Loneliness is inevitable in a person's life, so try to avoid loneliness. Chatting with friends, shopping, eating delicious food, climbing mountains, traveling, etc. You can take part in group activities as much as possible to feel the happiness of others and let their happiness drive away the inner haze. The world is still beautiful, as long as you open your heart to it again.

Secondly, what is lost is not necessarily the best. What is lost proves that he is not suitable for you, and what is suitable for you may be the next one.

Never lose faith in life. Life will treat you as you treat life, with a mentality. The life you see is colorful, so life is colorful, sunny and full of infinite hope; And once you treat life negatively, life will be gloomy and eclipsed, just like a long dark channel with no end in sight, life is tasteless and meaningless. So treat life with an optimistic attitude, and life will embrace you warmly.

Finally, enrich yourself and let yourself meet the next love that will come at any time.

Every love has its beautiful and bright colors. You don't have to be too obsessed with the past. Looking forward to the future, there will be different surprises. Maybe the male god is waiting for you not far away. So you must always present your best side to the right person and always smile, because you never know who will fall in love with you who loves to laugh. Work hard, enrich your life and become an independent person. Improve your taste. Your height directly determines the height of your future partner. The better you are, the better you should be. No matter how sad life is, live a wonderful life. The world is still there, you are still there, and there are countless possibilities in the future. You should be strong and optimistic about everything. After all, we all need to live a good life, and then the possibility will come to you.

The effect of lovelorn psychotherapy depends entirely on your own mentality, no matter whether it is a big event or a small one. There is no hurdle that can't be crossed, only yourself that can't be crossed. Lovelorn is a very common thing. People in this world are lovelorn every day. No big deal. Just treat it with normality.

Reprint please indicate: The original text is from China Marriage Counseling Portal.