0 1.
Record progress and changes every day?
Start training: record the efforts first, not the results.
After raising the flag, we sometimes look for a "strategy", that is, a way to achieve our goals. But social media often brings the illusion that "a touch of a mobile phone can completely change". A few pictures and a few paragraphs save the time and energy needed, and it seems very easy to form a habit.
However, this is not the case. Not only can habit formation not be achieved quickly, but even at the beginning, it is difficult to see the effect. As mentioned in Control Habits, we often want immediate results. If you can't see the results after investing for a period of time, there will be a "disappointment valley".
We are not defeated by unattainable goals, but by anxiety day after day.
draw
Source: Control Habits
The formation of habits has a "potential accumulation period", and there is no obvious change at first, and it will show its full value after a period of accumulation. So at the beginning, we need to pay more attention to recording our efforts and try not to pay attention to the achievements.
draw
In the flag list, write down each flag association.
02.
Blame yourself for being "undisciplined"?
Change the environment: always breaking the contract, really not because of "lack of self-discipline"
When I suddenly wanted to eat pizza one night, I seriously thought about the reasons that might make me feel this way. First of all, I'm not a pizza lover. Secondly, I haven't seen anyone eating pizza today. After careful consideration, I found that the topic of pizza was mentioned in the podcast I heard that day
The same thing happens in daily commuting. There is a fried chicken shop between my residence and the subway station, so every day on my way home from work, I have to face a soul test: Do you want to eat fried chicken tonight?
draw
When you find yourself always breaking the agreement with flag, you may wish to observe carefully whether there are any factors in your living environment that are constantly "tempting" you.
Our decision-making is easily influenced by the environment unconsciously, including the behavior of people around us, as well as the shops on the street, the layout of rooms and the objects on the table. So the first step of change is to change the environment around you and make things related to new habits within reach. If an object reminds us of some habits we want to give up, then hide it.
03.
Looking for the reasons for the failure of punching in?
Overall planning: personal growth is a whole, and so is your banner.
Last but not least, back to "Why should I make a flag?" It may be the impulse to follow the trend, or it may be the result of careful consideration. But in the final analysis, we can't do without our expectations of ourselves. In the new year, we hope to grow and get closer to our "ideal self".
This expectation is not just an increase or decrease in numbers. Behind the weight loss plan is the desire for a healthier body, and behind the study plan is the desire for new knowledge and new skills ... At the moment of the flag, it is related to the improvement of self-confidence and the confirmation of self-control.
draw
Behind the flag is the expectation of an ideal life.
For example, when the purpose is to acquire more knowledge, if reading is a more suitable way for you, you don't have to worry about whether you have to learn new skills. The ideal state is not everything, but finding a way that suits you.
To form a habit is not to deny yourself now, but to stare at yourself in the past and make plans for the future. Therefore, instead of "why can't a flag be completed", we need to ask "why should this flag be erected". Clear up this problem, and the motivation to achieve the goal will appear.
Compared with the beginning of the new year, now may be a more suitable time to reflect on and promote the completion of the flag: we already know something about 202 1, so we have a more mature idea about what kind of record 202 1 wants to leave.