You know, the client Yao Ce was critically ill in hospital, and the foster mother never spoke again. Whether the specific reason is "physical discomfort" or other reasons is unknown. However, judging from the "property distribution storm" spread by public opinion, it seems to be inextricably linked. Of course, in a sense, we prefer to believe that the adoptive mother is also thinking of her son by keeping silent.
After all, in Yao Ce's current situation, whether for himself or the parents of two families, the best mentality is to "live to death". Just as Yao Ce, the client, can't let go of his 4-year-old son, presumably the four old people can't let go of their deteriorating son. In any case, they all love each other, but they are slightly sad because of Yao Ce's illness.
But in fact, in the process of specific events, media public opinion has been unfriendly to the two mothers, pointing the finger at the biological mother for a while and pointing the finger at the adoptive mother for a while. But fundamentally speaking, the identity of the two mothers is not single, which can be described as both "foster mother" and "biological mother". However, the biggest difference is that they are always in opposite positions in the true sense.
And they will eventually be irretrievable because of the illness of the client Yao Ce: "losing the child". They should be aware of this cruel reality, but they will try their best to keep the time for a while before the "last pain" comes. This is a mother's "obsession", but also as a human nature can not control.
However, back to reality, the two mothers have to face the "pessimism" of their son Yao Ce's illness and how to rebuild the normal order of their families after the "last pain". Because as we all know, the real family operation needs not only spiritual comfort, but also material balance, and on these two issues, the two mothers can't avoid their "fear and love" after all.
Frankly speaking, there are similarities and differences about the "fear" of the two mothers. Similarly, they don't want to see their son Yao Ce being troubled by illness, and they don't want to see their daughter-in-law and grandson leave their sight after his son Yao Ce was taken away by illness. The difference is that Yao Ce's adoptive mother found her own son, but the biological mother will lose her own son with great probability.
To some extent, their "fear" is inevitable. After all, if Yao Ce finally dies, his wife is still so young and his children are still so young. From a secular point of view, he has a high probability of entering another marriage. By that time, Yao Ce's connection with the two families will only be the existence of his grandson.
As for Yao Ce's wife, it is out of respect for Yao Ce at most. In her junior year, she contacted two families, but the interaction will definitely be less and less. One sentence is more realistic: "What's the point of eyes without eyeballs?" This is an appropriate way to describe Yao Ce's future family structure.
In addition, there are similarities and differences about the "love" between the two mothers. The same thing is that their love for their adopted son is from the heart. If it is not a misunderstanding of the farce of life, they may always treat their adopted son as their own son. The difference is that Yao Ce's adoptive mother only found the love of her relatives, and her biological mother will lose the love of her relatives forever in the near future.
As far as Yao Ce's adoptive mother is concerned, the reason for the dispute with her adopted son lies in the fact that "the grace of nurturing" will give birth to the heart of "love and kill each other". For Yao Ce's biological mother, even if she knows that her son has her own blood in his body, she may not be so close, so she will emphasize on social media that she is afraid to ask him about going back to her hometown.
On this issue, the knowledge of public opinion is actually very clear, that is, the love of parenting is still in the "first place", and Yao Ce, as a party, should think so, so when he was discharged from the hospital, he told the media that he planned to go back to his hometown to make a will. Although he didn't make it clear that it was his hometown, judging from the context, it should be the location of his adoptive parents.
At the same time, the tragic atmosphere of changing life by mistake will not necessarily weaken with Yao Ce's "last pain", but will go to extremes with "last pain". Although in the secular world, the pure emotional expectation is that the two families are "one family", but in the real situation, after all, everyone is a prisoner of the past years. Because of the expansion of blood relationship, it is too difficult to "please both sides".
Just like Yao Ce, the client, was critically ill in hospital this time, why was his biological parents accompanying him, not his adoptive parents? Maybe the people outside just look at the appearance, but as human nature, the high probability is that his biological parents want to make up for the regret caused by the mistakes that changed their lives in the past 28 years through the last companionship. As the adoptive parents of Yao Ce, they may still be concerned, but we just can't see them.
I have to admit that Yao Ce's adoptive mother is "recovered from loss" and her biological mother is "recovered from loss". Although their feelings are different, the background color is the same sadness. Even on the scale of existentialism, even if the adoptive mother finds her own son, she will eventually lose her "son Yao Ce of 28 years". From this point of view, she deserves more sympathy than Yao Ce's biological mother.