First, the current status of family mental health education
Parents often think that children's bad temper and sensitive interpersonal relationships are temporarily emotional, and generally do not take effective psychological intervention, thus burying hidden dangers of psychological problems. Especially under the current family education concept of emphasizing intelligence over psychology, mental health is often placed in an inconspicuous corner, which leads to serious deviation of individual children's psychological quality. Now some parents have begun to see some psychological phenomena of students. But most parents don't realize that mental health will not only affect physical health, but also affect children's intellectual development.
Second, the causes of children's mental health
Overindulge
It is common to overindulge children in material life, especially today when the material living standard has been greatly improved. Parents spoil their children too much, making them feel that they are the center of the world, and everything they get is taken for granted, and they should get whatever they want. This self-centered outlook on life makes children feel depressed after a little blow, resulting in psychological obstacles such as depression. Parents are obedient to their children, and when they find that their children have these problems, they do not take effective intervention measures in time, but only make material compensation. Over time, children's psychological barriers have gradually thickened, which has also triggered a series of psychological problems.
(2) harsh environment
Family is the happiest cradle of children, and parents are the closest and most trustworthy people in children's hearts. Parents' words and deeds have a great influence on their children. Some parents use their emotions to decide how close they are to their children. When you are happy, you kiss and hug the child, and everything is satisfied; If you are unhappy, you will be indifferent to your children and ignore them. It is easy for children to appear neurotic, indifferent, moody and changeable when interacting with other children.
In some families, due to the emotional disharmony between parents, the child can't get enough care and care, which makes him feel lonely and helpless mentally. When parents quarrel, their words and deeds are rude, which not only hurts the child's self-esteem, but also makes him restless and withdrawn.
There is another situation. In recent years, with the general increase of divorce rate, children have become the biggest victims. Lack of care gradually makes individual children become withdrawn and eccentric, which seriously affects students' physical and mental development.
(c) High expectations
Nowadays, many parents have high expectations for their children. The idea that "everything is inferior, only reading is high" has occupied people's minds with the fierce social competition. Parents expect their children to get ahead in the future, so they set goals for their children early and replace their actual abilities with their own expectations, which makes them feel more stressed and lose confidence in the emerging new goals.
Third, the importance of family mental health education and guidance
Family is the first lesson in life, and parents are the children's first teachers and lifelong teachers. Students' mental health education can not be separated from their parents' words and deeds and harmonious family interpersonal relationship and atmosphere. Those students with obvious mental health defects are often directly related to family environment and parents' behavior and personality. If parents can fully realize the status and role of mental health education, they will consciously and actively create a good family environment and pay attention to their own behavior, help and influence their children to form a healthy and good psychological quality, and play a role that schools and social education can not play. It can be seen that it is important to carry out family mental health education and guidance.
Fourthly, teachers guide parents to carry out family mental health education strategies.
First, when guiding the development of family mental health education, we should first help parents change their ideas.
In today's quality education, it is necessary to change the old idea that parents only look at their children's intelligence level and ignore their mental health level and personality development level. Parents should understand that each child's ability and cognitive level are different. Faced with this difference, they should treat their children calmly. Don't be impatient, don't compare with the best students, treat students' academic achievements rationally and pay attention to cultivating students' excellent personality.
Second, help parents understand their children when guiding family mental health education.
To help parents understand the general psychological state of students at this stage, we should not only understand the children's personality qualities, such as personality, ideals, emotions, interests, abilities, etc., but also know that they are good at activities, good at imitation, and also like success, praise, and desire for sympathy and understanding. Teenagers are in a period of rapid physical and mental development. In their usual study and activities, their hearts are often full of contradictions.
Third, help parents trust their children when guiding family mental health education.
The relationship between parents and children is not only the relationship between elders and younger generations, but also the relationship between friends. Children should respect, understand and cherish their parents; Parents should respect, trust, love and help their children. In daily life, when there are differences or contradictions between parents and children, we should adopt the method of democratic consultation on the basis of equality and trust, so as to be persuasive, patiently inspired and sensible. At the same time, parents should fully believe in their children's potential and their ability to deal with others intentionally or unintentionally. Therefore, parents should give more enlightening help to their children's affairs, whether in life or in study.
Fourth, help parents avoid long-term psychological punishment for their children when guiding family mental health education.
Students lack life experience and occasionally do something wrong, which will be scolded by parents or often mentioned every day. If you refuse for a long time, the child will be extremely depressed and even continue into adulthood. Some students have their own emotional barriers, and if parents are impulsive, it will be more serious. Don't put pressure on children in their studies and further studies, and take children's achievements as the main criterion for evaluating children. Over time, children will have psychological obstacles such as weariness of learning and exams.
As an important part of education, family education has a far-reaching impact on children. Especially in mental health education, every parent wants his children to succeed, so let the family and school work together to improve their children's psychology and let them have a good psychological state to meet their opportunities and challenges.