Lu Xiufang Yuchong primary school
Self-confidence is a good psychological quality and healthy personality quality necessary for a person's success. It is also an important non-intellectual factor. Self-confidence is of great significance in children's psychological development. Fully understanding students' potential and respecting students' personality and way of thinking are the basis of cultivating students' self-confidence. Using appreciation and encouragement is the most important and effective way to build students' self-confidence; Treating students' mistakes well is an effective way to rebuild their self-confidence; Being good at exploring students' potential advantages is the need to firmly establish students' self-confidence; Encouraging students to show themselves is an effective way to enhance their self-confidence.
Keywords respect, tolerance, patience and appreciation
Every child has two doors in his heart, one is called "I can do it" and the other is called "I can't". Open "I can do it" and what you see is wisdom, potential, creativity and self-confidence; Open "I can't" and you will see timidity, incompetence and inferiority. The teacher's responsibility is to help children find the golden key to self-confidence. Self-confidence is the product of the long-term development of individual psychology, which reflects a person's personality characteristics and attitude towards life. Children's self-confidence affects their learning activities all the time. This shows how important it is to cultivate students' confidence. How to cultivate students' confidence? There are various methods. I have been a class teacher for more than 20 years and have a deep understanding in this respect.
First, teachers' respect for students can stimulate students' self-confidence.
Respecting students' personality and way of thinking is the basis of cultivating students' self-confidence. Pupils have a completely different psychological world and independent value from adults. They observe the world with children's unique eyes, know the world with children's thinking and feel the world with pure childlike innocence. Therefore, on the basis of fully understanding students' potential, teachers should respect and understand children's unique values and psychological characteristics, neither demanding too much of them nor demanding children like adults, which is the basis for children to develop self-confidence. Appreciate every advantage of students, so that students' innate self-confidence (but immature) will not be suppressed and hit, and they can face the world positively, be confident and succeed. Therefore, respecting students' personality and way of thinking is the basis of cultivating students' self-confidence.
Second, teachers' tolerance can cultivate students' self-confidence.
Understanding and tolerating students is one of the essential virtues of our teachers, and it is also an important factor affecting the educational effect. In the actual education and teaching, we can't ignore the shortcomings and mistakes of students, but we can't simply criticize and blame them. I think that giving appropriate tolerance to students' mistakes can achieve better educational results.
There is a double poor student named Qing Yu in my class. Needless to say, his grades are poor and he is very naughty. He is restless, eccentric, contradictory with the teacher, grandstanding, disturbing the classroom for fun, not doing homework on duty, and his parents spoil him. My former teacher told me that you will feel unlucky when you meet such a student! When I first met him, I was sure. So, I was very cold to him, temporarily ignored him in class, and changed to story class according to the content of Chinese class. The story contains his targeted behavior and is made up, and then the story is discussed. He also felt that the story had something to do with him, so he listened with his eyes wide open. I found his face a little uncomfortable, so I talked to him after class. This conversation is not criticizing him (such a student must have been criticized a lot and can cope), but smiling and telling him to play a game with him: "Stop 1 minute". He listened with wide eyes and played games with great interest. After that, I strongly praised him: you can't violate the rules of the game, which is to observe discipline. You said you couldn't. I thought you were great. You can discipline yourself if you want, and you can observe discipline if you want. Would you like to try? His eyes lit up after listening to my words. After that, I followed suit and asked him to write down everything he did well and draw a smiling face. If not, draw yourself a crying face. He also readily agreed. But it's easier said than done. If he can't persist, I will encourage him in time and mobilize my classmates to do his work together. In addition, parents are also informed of the progress of students in time, so that parents can also join the education team. In this way, I gradually got rid of the bad behavior that disturbed the classroom discipline. This is the second way to train students to get rid of bad behavior habits and cultivate my self-confidence that I can do it.
Third, teachers' patience can build students' confidence.
Students often lose confidence because of fear of failure, so teachers must give correct and patient guidance. This training process is divided into three steps. The first step is to read the stories of celebrities and tell the stories of people you know around you, so that they can understand that failure is a normal trivial matter. As long as the reasons are analyzed and taken seriously, failure can be said to be a good thing. The result of success after failure is more worth cherishing. The second step is to lower the threshold, so that students can enjoy the joy of success (the lowering of this threshold can not be known to students, nor can it be used frequently, otherwise it will hurt their confidence). To improve their confidence. The third step is to carry out some "punishment education" (not corporal punishment education), so that students will be willing to accept punishment if they have confidence. However, don't put too much pressure on students to make them feel that they can't do it and don't try. After the previous stage of self-confidence training, students have been able to accept the teacher's punishment sincerely. However, punishment should find the right time, find the right breakthrough, stimulate students' mental state and go deep into students' hearts. For example, Fan Yuyang, a classmate in our class, lost confidence in himself because of poor grades and lax discipline. After previous training, he has made obvious progress in his subject, but there is still a big gap in his study. It takes two days to recite an ancient poem. According to observation, he is not mentally ill, but his long-term failure has caused him psychological obstacles. So, I talked to him, pointed out his advantages and analyzed the reasons why he would not endorse. Then I asked him to try to recite ancient poems according to the method provided by the teacher. As a result, he recited two poems in half a day. When he came to me, his eyes were red with excitement. I took this opportunity to say with a smile that you still have two texts to recite. Will you recite these two days? Otherwise, you will be punished for telling a wonderful story loudly on the podium. Are you willing to accept it? He nodded shyly and smiled easily.
Students' self-confidence can't be built overnight. The self-confidence that was built at the beginning will be easily lost if intensive training is not given in time. In this regard, while building students' self-confidence, we should continue to strengthen and help training. First, let the students speak loudly. This is reflected in answering questions, giving speeches on stage, telling stories and so on. In class, I let students discuss problems and speak in groups, so that each student has the opportunity to express his own views. Students are also allowed to express their opinions, tell stories or read aloud in front of the platform during self-study classes or other time. Secondly, let them play some challenging games. For example, set a goal to challenge yourself, or find out your competitors and try to catch up with him and surpass him. Of course, these goals can't be too far beyond their capabilities. It is tempting to urge yourself to jump down and pick fruit under certain pressure. Finally, psychological suggestion can be used, which is also called heuristic teaching method. It is called a teaching method of "developing human intelligence and accelerating learning process". Hint teaching can make students learn quickly, remember well, cultivate creativity and improve their physical and mental health. I always say to my students: You are so clever that you can solve such a difficult problem! You're great, you're better than before! How diligent you are! You can finish so much homework carefully! Think about it, and you will come up with a good solution to the problem! You can do it, and the teacher believes that you can do it well ... through constant encouragement and suggestion, students' self-confidence is enhanced and their personality becomes sunny and happy.
Yes, a smile, a trust and a little tolerance are often more powerful than shouting. They can cheer up those exiled hearts, re-examine themselves and others in the kindness and kindness of teachers, get rid of the cage of self-abandonment and get a new life!
There are many ways and means to cultivate students' self-confidence, but no matter which method is inseparable from the teacher's care for students, let's use this love to open students' self-confidence! Students' self-confidence is stimulated, which is a green light for their future success, and it is also a green light for teachers to let students enjoy the infinite light of life!
Fourth, teachers' appreciation can cultivate students' self-confidence.
Psychologist william james once said, "The deepest need of human nature is to long for others' appreciation". The practice of the famous "Rosenberg effect" fully proves this point. Appreciation is the most important and effective way to build students' confidence. Only by showing appreciation to students can teachers increase their confidence. How and when do you perform best?
(1) Appreciation should be sincere.
First of all, teachers should carefully observe and understand, accurately and specifically tell the children's performance and achievements, pay attention to the students' good intentions, and then enthusiastically praise the students. In this way, students will not only be sure that the teacher's appreciation is true, so that they are full of confidence in themselves, but also be grateful to the teacher, so that they can work harder, enrich, be confident and be full of vitality. Secondly, we should learn to use the power of celebrities and others, such as using the words of celebrities and other teachers or class groups to praise students appropriately, which will receive unexpected miraculous effects.
(2) Appreciation and praise should be timely.
If you give praise or encouragement at the first time, you will get the most satisfactory results. Because children's attention turns fast, teachers should always pay attention to students' little progress and every little bright spot, give praise and encouragement in time, let children have a sense of success and pride, promote their continuous progress, and thus enhance their self-confidence. We often hear the words "This student is nothing" and "This student is too naughty to stand". Even if students do a little better, it is natural that they attach great importance to mistakes. This makes us miss many opportunities to praise students and hurts their confidence. Qian Menglong, a special-grade teacher, once went to other places to attend an open class. One of his classmates was late, and it was embarrassing to stand at the door. At this time, I saw Mr. Qian kindly say, "Although this classmate is late, he really likes to study hard." You see, he is sweating. " This shows that he is in a hurry and wants to minimize the loss caused by being late. "The students who were late thought they would be criticized, but they were praised, which not only eliminated the embarrassment, but also quickly plunged into the classroom and became the most enthusiastic speaker in the class. By tasting this example, we can see that when students do something wrong and know that they are wrong, it is better to ignore their own mistakes and affirm and praise their positive aspects. This kind of practice can satisfy the inner self-affirmation and requirements, and can strengthen your desire to change careers.
(3) Appreciation and praise should be persistent.
To maintain students' self-confidence, teachers should insist on expressing their appreciation for a long time and avoid being impatient and rude and yelling loudly. Under normal circumstances, teachers and parents will pay attention to encouraging children, but sometimes under the combined action of various factors, it is easy to cause adult behavior to get out of control. When you are in a hurry, you forget to encourage them, but instead ridicule them and loudly accuse them of "being so stupid and not going to school" and "you really have no memory, and you really don't regret it", thus damaging children's self-esteem, lowering children's self-evaluation and having a bad influence on the formation of self-confidence. It is human nature to make mistakes. It is inevitable that children will make mistakes. How to make them sum up their experience in pain and learn wisdom from the lessons, so as not to get angry and make mistakes? It is very important for us to deal with children's mistakes. Edison's mother's tolerance has added an inventor to the world. Similarly, the tolerance of teachers and parents will also make children feel a real love and comfort, so we should be tolerant, kind and patient with our children, and never go too far. Appreciate children and give them hope.
(4) Appreciation and praise should not be excessive.
Appreciation education advocates more affirmation, more encouragement and less criticism for children, but it doesn't mean that children don't criticize when they make mistakes, but they still appreciate them constantly. Moreover, excessive appreciation will lead to children's complacency, conceit and willfulness, and they cannot objectively and correctly evaluate themselves. If they encounter a little bump, they will be devastated. To properly grasp the appreciation, different children have different degrees of appreciation. For example, timid and inflexible children must be encouraged more and criticized less. Children who are naughty, active and have poor grades should be good at capturing their bright spots, affirming encouragement in time, and fostering strengths and avoiding weaknesses. We should appreciate good children and wayward children properly, put forward new and higher requirements or encourage them to overcome wayward behavior.
In a word, it is impossible to cultivate students' self-confidence overnight. There are many ways to cultivate students' self-confidence, but no matter which way, it is inseparable from the teacher's care for students. Let's use this love to open students' confidence! Students' self-confidence is stimulated, so that they can move towards success and happiness!
References:
1. Wang Hua: "Help children build self-confidence"
2. Xiao Longhai, Chen Yunfang and Xu Xiuchun, "Self-confidence education: the breakthrough point of school education reform" (Education Network)
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Commitment: Lu Xiufang.
20 1 1 March