Literally, we mean "getting drunk" rather than "drinking".
For most people, "drinking a glass of wine" has long meant a happy time for friends to laugh and laugh. Based on the different ages of each of us, based on the environment around us when we first drank, we all have all kinds of memories and expectations (sometimes anxiety), which reminds us of a cold beer, a cocktail, gin and tonic water, whisky and beer, a sip of red wine and so on.
Over and over again, in the early drinking process of most people, the expectation of alcohol can always meet the actual needs of drinking.
If every time is just right, we will naturally think that "drinking a glass of wine" is a pleasant experience, which not only meets our own needs, but also does not exceed the norms of religious customs. At the same time, it satisfies our desires, caters to the etiquette of social occasions, and helps us relax, cheer up and realize our various pursuit goals. For example, a 55-year-old Finn, when someone asks him for a drink, can't help but immediately think of the warmth brought by drinking a glass or two of brandy or vodka in cold weather when he was young.
If she is a young woman, she may immediately think of a gorgeous crystal cup filled with champagne, fragrant clothes, intimate friendship and romantic atmosphere, or a young man with jeans, beard and long hair at a rock concert, taking out a bottle of booze from a bag full of bottled wine, with flashing lights and smoke, and everyone screaming and screaming, which is exciting. A member of AA said: "Have a drink" is almost synonymous with eating pizza and drinking beer.
Another 78-year-old widow said that when she was in a nursing home, she often couldn't help but think of the habit of drinking a glass of sherry before going to bed. Although this kind of drinking is very natural in our minds, it is misleading in our current situation, and this is also the way some of us start drinking.
If this is the process of drinking, it is unlikely that we will deteriorate into a drinking problem in the future. However, if we look at the process of drinking fearlessly, we will find that no matter how hard we try, there has never been such a perfect and magical moment in our last few years or months of drinking.
On the contrary, we have repeatedly found that our actual drinking amount is far greater than this, which always leads to some kind of trouble in the end. Maybe we just feel a little guilty about drinking too much in private.
But sometimes it will turn into a fierce quarrel, which will affect your work and even lead to serious diseases, accidents, or legal and financial problems. So, when a suggestion of "drinking" appears, now we try to recall the whole process from the beginning of drinking to the last poor drunkenness and hangover.
General friends invite us to drink, which generally refers to the way of entertainment and a cup or two of tasting.
But if we carefully recall all the details of the pain caused by the last drunkenness, we will not be confused by the long-standing impression of "drinking a glass of wine" in our minds.
Now we can frankly admit that in terms of our real physiological reaction, we are quite sure that a cup of yellow soup means that we will get drunk again sooner or later, which will bring a series of troubles.
Drinking no longer means music and joy to us, but memories of illness and regret. A member of Alcoholics Anonymous once said, "I know that if I go to a bar for a drink now, it will never be the same again, just spend a little time and some money."
This drink will exhaust my bank account, my family, my house, my car, my job, my reason and even my life. This is really too big, too expensive and too risky. "
He remembers the last time he got drunk, not the first time he drank.
Hostility, resentment and anger are always related to our drunkenness, which makes our drinking problem more serious.
"Why are you drunk?" A very common answer is that drinking can increase courage, so you can reveal your worries to others and express your anger and dissatisfaction that you usually find it difficult to face. I don't know how to deal with it.
At the same time, drunkenness is often accompanied by anger. Alcoholics may also enjoy a sense of power over others after drinking.
Anger after drinking is highly correlated with violent attacks and murders. Including criminals or victims, a considerable proportion of them had accidents under the influence of alcohol. Rape, family discord and divorce, child abuse and armed robbery are also often caused by promiscuity after drinking.
Even if we don't commit the above-mentioned crimes, our temper and anger will make others feel nervous and worry about violence at any time. Therefore, we must be aware of the hidden risks behind anger.
As far as human nature is concerned, anger is undoubtedly frequent. Violent acts or verbal attacks in anger not only do harm to others, but also endanger the overall security of society. Moreover, the accumulation of anger also has a very negative impact on mental health. This hostile attitude towards others will seriously damage our hearts and lead to depression.
Although anger is a common problem in all aspects, it is even more threatening and destructive as far as an alcoholic is concerned.
Almost all sober drunks agree that our own anger often destroys ourselves. Feelings of hostility, resentment, jealousy and anger forced us to want to drink again. So be careful of yourself. There should be other better solutions besides another drink.
First of all, let's identify all kinds of angry faces: intolerance, contempt, contempt, jealousy, hatred, snobbery, ridicule, disgust, hostility, dissatisfaction, tension, irony, ridicule, self-pity, malice, distrust, doubt, anxiety, concern, doubt, suspicion and doubt.
In the past, in the process of drinking, we were either stubborn or overreacted, especially when we started drinking again.
Many of us think that anger is the result of inner fear. We are often not sure what we are afraid of, and sometimes it is just a vague and indescribable panic. We often suddenly get angry with people or things without any foresight.
Failure and frustration are also one of the factors that lead to our anger. As far as typical drunkards are concerned, we especially lack the patience and perseverance to accept the test of failure. No matter the actual situation or the imagined situation, in the face of complicated and thorny difficulties, we habitually choose to drink to solve the problem.
Another kind of righteous anger is even more difficult to deal with-we often think that we are just, chivalrous and cynical, and we should stick to what we do out of justice and fairness. But this mentality gradually eroded our hearts unconsciously and eliminated our resistance to the first glass of wine.
Even if we are really wronged and treated unfairly, anger is still a luxury we can't enjoy. No matter how angry we are, we will end up with the first glass of wine again, thus heading for the road of self-destruction.
When we start to lose our temper, it will help to eat some sweets or drink a sweet drink that is not addictive.
If you can start to divert your attention in time and start to deal with other affairs, it will also have immediate results. Like calling for help or contacting other sober members, you can also pause; Consider whether we are overworked, if so, moderate rest can restore our physical strength and eliminate our anger; Similarly, we can also meditate quietly and meditate on the meaning of the sentence "Let others live as well as ourselves", so as to calm ourselves down slowly, or devote ourselves to other unrelated simple tasks, or even enjoy the music we once liked. ...
We can also sort out the source of anger as: things that we can't change (such as traffic jams, weather, queuing for checkout, etc.). ), let us accept it with a mature and rational attitude, without sulking or indulging in wine.
Sometimes we feel a lot of dissatisfaction with the surrounding environment or our own life. If we are faced with the influence of job-hopping, moving, divorce and other things, then when we need to make a decision, we must be cautious and cautious, and we must not be impulsive and make a helpless decision. In other words, no matter how unfavorable the situation is, we should calm ourselves down first, and then we can have a calm attitude and constructive ideas to deal with those things that bother us.
Another effective way to eliminate anger is virtual substitution. Let's think about it. If a mature, sound and intelligent person is faced with the same situation as us, how will he respond and what kind of action will he take? Try it a few more times and it really works.
In addition, we can also get rid of anger through light physical activities-deep breathing, taking a hot bath, meditation and even shouting, all of which help to relieve emotional tension.
We don't recommend adopting a purely repressive, patient, disguised and closed coping style. We must learn to get rid of anger and still do something. If you can't do this, there is a great risk of drinking again in the future.
We summarized some common drinking patterns: 1. We regard drinking as the most important or very important thing in life, occupying a central position in our hearts and never forgetting it. 2. Compared with the initial drinking, the amount of drinking increased gradually. 3. the speed of drinking is getting faster and faster. 4. Often drink secretly alone or behind your family's back. 5. Take wine as medicine to relieve emotional distress. 6. Possession of alcohol. 7. Often forget things after drinking. 8. Unplanned drinking often leads to accidents after drinking. 9. Drinking in the morning, commonly known as "open-eyed wine", some people even drink after waking up at night. 10. Drink before going to bed. 1 1. Like to drink on an empty stomach, and seldom eat vegetables when drinking. 12. Choose the brand of wine if possible. 13. Because drinking and quarreling with family members affect family harmony, or drinking affects work. 14. I once gave up drinking, but it didn't take long for my old illness to recur and get out of hand. Generally speaking, if a person's drinking behavior has more than three manifestations, it is highly suspected that it is alcohol dependence. It is often seen that some alcohol addicts have brought many adverse effects on their health, family harmony and work because of drinking, and even have some illegal behaviors after drinking. Although they feel guilty and regret for these consequences, they still can't completely stop drinking, stop drinking and drink again and again. Do they have no ambition and perseverance? No, this is because alcohol dependence is a disease, and it is a worsening disease. This disease, like diabetes and hypertension, cannot be completely eradicated. But it can be controlled. The reason for drinking again is related to the sensitivity of the body to alcohol and the psychological impulse to drink. No matter what bad consequences will be brought about by drinking again, you can't overcome it by your own perseverance. Like other diseases, there will be some characteristic clinical manifestations. Once you become dependent on alcohol, suddenly stop drinking or suddenly reduce the amount of alcohol you drink, there will be many physical discomfort symptoms, which is called alcohol withdrawal syndrome. For convenience, some people divide alcohol withdrawal syndrome into three stages according to time and severity: the first stage of alcohol withdrawal syndrome: it usually appears 6 ~ 12 hours after drinking, showing tremors in both hands. In severe cases, it can accumulate the whole upper limb or even the trunk. In severe cases, besides common symptoms such as anorexia, insomnia and irritability, tongue trembling may also occur. The second stage of alcohol withdrawal syndrome: it occurs 24 ~ 72 hours after alcohol withdrawal. In addition to the above symptoms, auditory hallucinations often occur, and the content is mostly abuse or persecution, which can lead to impulsive behavior and less excitement. Three-stage alcohol withdrawal syndrome: delirium tremens, which often occurs 72 hours after the last drinking. At this time, the patient is unconscious, has obvious tremor, walks unsteadily, and may have various vivid hallucinations, such as seeing various small animals, and the patient shows nervousness, anxiety and fear. The memory of patients is obviously impaired, and some patients may have epileptic convulsions. Even in developed countries, once delirium tremens occurs, the total mortality rate of treated patients can still reach 10% ~ 15%, and even higher for untreated patients. Therefore, it is impossible for long-term drinkers to suddenly stop drinking. If you highly suspect alcohol dependence, you should go to a specialized hospital for treatment as soon as possible. People who form alcohol dependence can't control their drinking behavior or their drinking quantity, so can they still drink normally after a period of abstinence? As far as we know, no one has ever been able to drink "normally", or just stopped drinking for months or years in social situations. Once a person develops from binge drinking to uncontrolled and desperate binge drinking, there is no turning back. Alcoholics don't deliberately drink to cause trouble, but excessive drinking is bound to cause trouble. Many people who depend on alcohol think that it is okay to drink a few cans of beer or a few glasses of light wine after a period of abstinence. Not many people get drunk after drinking a bottle or two of beer. So I mistakenly thought that I could quit by drinking only two or three bottles of beer every day. Occasionally, they can do it in a few days or weeks. Then it will be concluded that even drinking will be "comfortable". However, they will drink more and more beer or wine at a time, and before long, they will drink as much as before. Another wrong idea is to replace high alcohol with low alcohol. For alcoholics, wine is wine. No matter whether it is martini, whisky and soda water, champagne or a small glass of beer, no matter what wine you drink, it will lead to excessive drinking and repeated drinking. Therefore, it is very dangerous for alcoholics to try to control their own alcohol consumption or to drink only low-concentration alcohol after abstinence for a period of time. But in order to ensure complete abstinence from alcohol, it can only be a teetotaler. How can we do that? In addition to completing the treatment of alcohol withdrawal under the guidance of a doctor, you should also receive long-term rehabilitation treatment, including the treatment of related psychological or mental diseases, anti-relapse drugs, psychotherapy and joining some self-help rehabilitation organizations. As long as you have the desire to give up drinking and make unremitting efforts, you will succeed.