1. Control emotions and infect children with emotional education.
In the education of children, example is more important than words, and emotional education is greater than persuasion education. Some parents educate their children and preach a set of truth every day, but with little effect. The reason is that simple and boring preaching can't form a * * * sound in children's psychology, and children can't understand it, and even breed rebellious emotions in their hearts.
At this time, it is necessary to educate children about love emotionally. When a child makes a mistake, a severe reprimand may not be as good as an understanding and tolerant look. Allow children to make mistakes and guide them to correct them correctly; Children who have been wronged may not be as good as a big hug to judge in a rage. Let children feel that their parents will always be his strong backing, and all grievances may dissipate.
2. Wait patiently and give your child time to grow up.
Every child is a different individual with different growth and development rules. Some children have early development, quick thinking, obedient and sensible, and excellent memory; And some children are late in development, slow in thinking, perverse and naughty, and can't remember things. At this time, parents are required to be tolerant, not eager for success, and wait patiently for their children to grow up slowly.
3. The expectations of children should be moderate.
Many parents believe that children must obey their parents unconditionally, often dominate and blame their children, and hope that their children will become what they expect. If parents expect too much from their children and dominate them too much, they will make them vulnerable. In order to avoid mistakes, they will often give up their creativity and the opportunity to learn through failure.
In the long run, children will lose their creativity and imagination, and even in this strongly depressed environment, they will have a distorted personality. Therefore, parents should have moderate expectations for their children.
4. Create a good family living environment.
Creating a good family environment for children is extremely important for their mental health development. Because children who grow up in a harmonious family show the characteristics of emotional stability, rich and delicate emotions, cheerful personality, unity, friendship and self-confidence; Children who grow up in a harmonious family are prone to excessive timidity, anxiety, indifference and pessimism. So we should create a good family environment for our children.
Second, the performance of children's mental health
1, can achieve self-esteem, self-love, self-confidence, no weird and vulgar behavior, and can maintain a positive, helpful, caring for the elderly and other normal personality in daily life.
2. There is no excessive fear, anxiety and paranoid tendency, which basically belongs to a state of mental health.
3. Get along with classmates, friends and family. And there is no tendency to violence.
Third, how do parents pay attention to their children's mental health
1. First of all, parents should control their emotions and infect their children with emotional education. For children's mental health education, example is more important than words, and emotional education is greater than persuasion education. Some parents educate their children and preach a set of truth every day, but with little effect.
Why? The reason is that simple and boring preaching can't form a * * * sound in children's psychology, and children can't understand it, and even breed rebellious emotions in their hearts. At this time, it is necessary to educate children about love emotionally.
Secondly, parents should be patient and give their children time to grow up. Every child is a different individual with different growth and development rules. Some children have early development, quick thinking, obedient and sensible, and excellent memory; And some children are late in development, slow in thinking, perverse and naughty, and can't remember things.
At this time, parents are required to be tolerant, not to rush for success, to wait patiently for their children to grow up slowly, and to pay special attention to their mental health.
At the same time, the expectations of children should be moderate. Many parents over-educate their children without paying attention to their mental health. If parents expect too much from their children and dominate them too much, they will make them vulnerable. In order to avoid mistakes, they often give up their creativity and the opportunity to learn through failure. In the long run, they will lose their creativity and imagination.
Finally, we should establish an optimistic attitude for our children. Although there are many unsatisfactory places in life, parents can't face their children with resentment all day. In the process of getting along with children, parents should keep an optimistic mood to face their children, infect them with this optimistic spirit, and let them realize that people who love to laugh are very happy, so that children with mental health should be cultivated.