My father wanted to come and take care of me. I didn't want my 70-year-old father to work hard, and I didn't let him come because the epidemic was very sad. I went to the hospital to take care of my grandmother for him.
Dad said on the other end of the phone; Call if you feel difficult. Dad is your back. Although we are middle-aged, he still treats us as children and always stands in front of us. It's time for us to stand in front.
On the day I left for the hospital, my family encouraged me in the group and cheered me on. It feels like sending a soldier to the battlefield (haha).
This scene reminds me of what Luo Pang said to her daughter before delivering her New Year speech. I want to fight a tough battle, and I can only win!
Although I am my own grandmother, this is the first time that we are inseparable for 24 hours. The first time I observed her up close, I observed an old man. In just three days, I saw a lot and thought a lot.
Grandma was born in 1930. She has experienced too many hardships and even sufferings in her life. Natural and man-made disasters, lack of materials, grandpa was criticized, experienced several operations and went to the gate of hell several times. ...
These are the main themes in grandma's memory. No matter who she chats with, she always tells about her hard life.
It is also because of the extreme shortage of materials that grandma is reluctant to throw anything away. Whether it's leftovers, bottles for drinks, used lunch boxes or even a paper towel, she will use it again and again.
Because I was old and fractured, I couldn't go to the fields after operation, and I had to pee in bed. My brother-in-law came two days ago and asked grandma to wear diapers, but she didn't cooperate at all, for fear of wasting money. I had to "fool" her; She didn't have to change diapers for several days, so she didn't waste it. She only agreed to wear diapers to save her legs.
Every time I change it, I put the changed one behind my grandmother, and I quickly took out a new one and put it on her. She will ask, is it still that? I nodded and said yes. I lied several times.
Once, she found that I was going to throw away the replaced one and said; Don't throw it away. You can still use it after washing. I said I couldn't wash grandma, but she thought I didn't want to, and said; You put it there and I'll wash it myself. I brought a tissue and told her that diapers, like this kind of paper, will break into pieces when washed and can't be used. She nodded to show that she understood.
These habits may seem strange to children nowadays, including grandma, which is often said in our family.
I can understand that all her seemingly' unreasonable' actions are behind the fear of lack, and she can only try her best to seize it and fight against that insecurity and fear. What we can do is not to educate and complain, but to understand her as much as possible.
Grandma's main tone in life is to remember bitterness, not sweetness. Her face is criss-crossed, and every wrinkle is engraved with dissatisfaction with life.
Looking at grandma's vicissitudes of life, I often wonder what it is like to become an old lady and queen mother. I am old before the age of forty, and the probability is that my grandmother is now; Now that I'm old, I may have some wisdom besides wrinkles on my face. Although you can't shine with wisdom like Mr. Jiang Yang, at least you will.
Grandma has been tortured by leg pain for many years, and this time her leg is broken, so her leg pain is worse than before. Every day, especially before going to bed at night, she will keep complaining about why her family sent her to the hospital. It would be better to die. I'll scold myself, too. It's no use scolding myself. Why do you have to live and suffer?
Every time grandma said these words before, we all said that she didn't know when to be blessed. But now I can understand her. What she expressed was her true feelings. The present living condition is really a kind of torture for grandma who has been struggling in pain.
Recently, I was listening to a book "The Guardian of Hospice Care" written by Japanese. The guardian of hospice care hospital is a profession, guarding the elderly who are about to end their lives and letting them leave this world safely.
I don't know if this idea is outrageous, just looking at grandma's painful appearance every day, I will think; Is it right for the family to do this? Should we respect the wishes of the elderly themselves? As the master of hospice care said, it is far better to let them leave safely than to live in pain.
Grandma will ask me several times a day; What time is it now? Looking forward to dark during the day, especially at night, she will keep asking; What time is it now? Why is it only 7 o'clock? Why only 7.30? How come it's only 8 o'clock ... every minute of her life is suffering, and it's too long! I seem to hear the clock of her life ticking.
Evening is the worst time of grandma's day. The pain in her leg made her unbearable. Sitting on her waist hurts, lying on her leg hurts, so she will always sit up, lie down and sit up again ... with her constant lament.
Looking at her sitting there, she almost bent into a.
Grandma can't read, can't read, and has no hobbies, so her understanding of life is not profound, and there can't be a peace between philosophy and pain. All she can do is express all her emotions by complaining.
What I can do is not to reason with her, but to try my best to understand, pat her on the back and let her calm down slowly.
Three days with my grandmother kept me thinking about something.
1. Health
Almost everyone who has been to the hospital will say; Cherish life, live well, life is too fragile, …
I want to say; Cherish health and live a good life.
No one's health comes for no reason. Either pay attention to exercise, or have a sense of maintenance and take some nutritional supplements. A healthy bank also needs to store it. A good living habit is to keep healthy. If you accumulate a little at ordinary times, you won't be at a loss when you encounter an accident.
Just like saving money. Save a little at ordinary times, so that you won't panic when you encounter something.
Grandma's health bank, two aunts saved a lot of balance, so she can still be in such a good state at the age of 90.
My grandmother and aunt in the same ward are over 60 years old, and they look over 80 years old, 30 years behind her, but their physical condition is not as good as her. I can tell from chatting with her that I don't have good living habits at ordinary times and I don't have any maintenance consciousness.
If everyone knows that health is not given by doctors, it is determined by their own habits; Everyone can start maintenance when we are still healthy, as Professor Zhong Nanshan said, so that we can live a better life and improve the physical quality of the people.
Mom and dad live in the countryside, eating, living and breathing are natural, and they have eaten several skin care products in the past decade. In dad's words; Health products are not free. Therefore, their health is not a unilateral cause, but the result of accumulation in many aspects and over many years.
study
In the hospital, I thought about the importance of learning, as if the scene was wrong (haha), whether it is right or not, this is my real feeling. I took a book, a notebook and a mobile phone with me when I went.
The three-day care worker not only took care of grandma's food and drink, Lazar, but also wrote two reading notes, an article and read three chapters of The Road to Wealth and Freedom. Basically, there is no delay in learning progress.
I don't know how I spent these three days in the hospital if I didn't embark on the road of learning. For me, learning gives me a sense of security and a little certainty about the uncertain future. This is also the feeling of watching the Road to Wealth Freedom recently.
Learning can also make people quiet. 007 Comrade Qin Jie has no golden sentence; The water is quiet and clear, and people are quiet and wise. I was extremely anxious in the first half of my life. Because I studied, calmed down and gradually increased my wisdom, my life was magically changed.
Learning can also heal the wounds of the body and soul.
Three days of nursing life is over. This is a special day in my life, and every experience has its meaning.
This experience made me think, feel and grow.
April 28(th), 2022
Dalian Xinghai Second Hospital