Divorce is a matter of certainty.
If you can't get through this, you will try to save your marriage; After this, you will divorce decisively.
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Do you think that if you don't get divorced, you won't hurt your children?
Two people are emotionally broken and barely together, or strangers, or quarreling and fighting every day.
Is this family less harmful to children than divorce?
This kind of family often becomes the most daily life, choosing to wronged their mother and become a dissatisfied wife, feeling sorry for themselves every day, and the father who wants a divorce gets together outside, and occasionally a new mistress comes to the door to force the palace.
Children's minds are very sensitive, and parents focus on blaming and quarreling with each other.
Mothers instill in their children that when they grow up, they should never be love rat and hurt others like their fathers.
When I was a child, I was faced with a dissatisfied mother and a father who didn't want to go home. This psychological shadow is bigger and lasts longer than divorce.
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A marriage that can be saved should be saved with all its strength.
But the premise is that the restored marriage, even if it is different from before, the husband and wife can get along well, so as not to hurt the children.
The reason for continuing marriage should be that the problems between husband and wife have been solved, or that husband and wife are willing to solve them together, rather than that one of them has wronged himself.
The problem has not been solved, so bear with it this time and it will appear again next time.
If the husband accidentally cheats, after being discovered by his wife, the husband feels guilty and is willing to break away his ill feelings and return to the family; In this case, the problem is basically solved, and it is ok for you not to divorce, which will not harm the children.
If the husband has been cheating for a long time, after being discovered by his wife, the husband refuses to repent, but thinks it is normal for men to do so. In this case, you will endure for the children and not divorce; The problem is not solved at all. It is conceivable that your husband will regard the bag and the lover as his own rights in the future and constantly challenge your bottom line.
You and your husband will continue to quarrel, and your children will continue to be psychologically hurt.
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The harm of divorce to children is short-term, and the lack of care for children after divorce will continue to hurt children.
Children in single-parent families can grow up happily as long as their mothers (fathers) give them double love.
Most of those unhappy children (single-parent families) are mothers (fathers) who are busy making a living, or mothers (fathers) who feel sorry for themselves because of the failed marriage and have no time to care about their children.