1. What is the significance of making rules for children?
As the saying goes, there is no Fiona Fang without rules. If parents don't make rules to restrain their children from childhood, then children can easily do whatever they want, completely unaware of their words and deeds. This kind of child is likely to become an unruly person when he grows up, which will also have a great impact on his interpersonal relationship.
Second, how to make rules for children?
1. The established rules cannot be changed casually.
The object of family statute is developing children, so scientific and reasonable rules should be formulated according to children's age in content and expression.
1) The specified figures should be scientific and reasonable, and at most three rules should be set for children at the same time, so that children can consciously abide by them and join new rules. This will not only highlight the key points, but also help to implement the limited important rules.
2) When making rules, let children participate, especially after entering kindergarten, and have a certain understanding of the rules, such as rules and penalties for violations. Studies have shown that after children abide by the rules, it will have a good effect to participate in the formulation of the rules properly. When making rules, the rules made by completely external parents become useful rules for him, and the rules made by parents are the same.
3) Formulate rules with a sense of ceremony. The rules should be carefully written, then the whole family will get together, and parents will read each rule carefully, and finally stick it in a conspicuous place at home.
2. Good rules need a reasonable punishment mechanism.
For example, it is stipulated that you can only eat one piece of candy a day, two pieces today, and you can't eat it tomorrow. If the toy is broken, you can't play with it, and you can't give it a new one. The idea is to let him know the consequences behind this behavior. Reasonable punishment requires parents to have rational love for their children and truly respect the rules.
3. Make rules as soon as possible.
In fact, after going to kindergarten, some people think it is impossible to make rules, because it is too late to go to kindergarten. A large number of follow-up studies by child psychologists have found that among children aged 2-3, many bad habits will affect their later life. Children aged 3-5 should have regular consciousness. It is painful to cry before the age of 3, and it is intentional to cry after the age of 3.
4. The principle of consistency should be adhered to when making rules.
Effective rules must be consistent, but it is difficult to maintain consistency within the family. Perhaps in different situations, the rules for children are often inconsistent.
How to control one's emotions and judge children's behavior characteristics scientifically and reasonably is a big test for parents. It is instinctive for parents to love their children, and it is very rational and necessary for parents to make rules for their children.