Family education is the earliest time in a person's life, and it is the starting point and foundation of education. Facing the new challenges of 2 1 century, minors need strong psychological quality. At present, most primary and middle school students are only children, and they grew up under the care of their parents. Children's psychological endurance and quality have tended to weaken, and they also lack psychological exercise and willpower, which is extremely worthy of our attention and attention. As the first teacher of children, parents have advantages in mental health education for children because of their unique advantages. Mental health education is one of the important contents of family education and will also become an important task for parents. So how to educate children about mental health? The author thinks:
First, the premise of developing family mental health education is to change ideas. In today's quality education, we must change the old concept that we only look at children's intelligence level and ignore mental health and personality development level. There is no doubt that a mentally unhealthy child cannot be said to be morally good. In real life, some children seem obedient and have good academic performance, but they are weak in emotion, will and personality, and their development potential in morality, intelligence and physical fitness is extremely limited. A large number of facts in educational practice have proved that ideal, ambition, enterprising spirit, diligence, assiduousness, perseverance and modesty have an important role in promoting children's learning, development and success. Parents must take mental health as the training goal and content of their children and pay full attention to it. Family education should change from one-sided emphasis on book knowledge to how to teach children to be a correct person. As an enlightenment teacher, parents should create a good family atmosphere for their children, influence their children with their cheerful and open-minded personality and democratic and equal style, and be strict and moderate in education.
Second, the basis of family mental health education is to understand children. Parents must understand their children's personality, ideals, emotions, interests and abilities. Generally, children are active, imitative, curious and inquisitive, and they also like success, praise, sympathy and understanding. Teenagers are in a period of rapid physical and mental development. In their usual study and activities, their hearts are often full of contradictions. They often have various conflicts with the outside world, are in an unstable state, and are often prone to various psychological and behavioral problems. This is a problem that needs special attention in family education. Problem children are all the result of psychological imperfection. Obviously, their problems are not sudden, often with a long incubation period, and there will always be some manifestations. Such as excessive inferiority or loneliness, frequent disputes with parents and peers, hostility and non-cooperation. If we pay attention to it in the early stage, these children can get new favorable factors to adapt to the living environment and develop good moral character and character.
Third, the key to family mental health education is to trust children. The relationship between parents and children is not only the relationship between elders and younger generations, but also the relationship between friends. Children should respect, understand and cherish their parents; Parents should respect, trust, love and help their children. In daily life, when there are differences or contradictions between parents and children, we should adopt the method of democratic consultation on the basis of equality and trust, so as to be persuasive, patiently inspired and sensible. At ordinary times, we should respect children's personality, trust children, care about their daily activities, meet their legitimate wishes and demands as much as possible, and let children truly feel their parents' amiable and trustworthy. In this way, children are willing to tell their parents their true feelings and secrets, thus gaining the greatest trust of their parents. At the same time, parents should fully believe in their children's potential, and children may deliberately think about their ability to communicate with others. Therefore, parents should give more enlightening help to their children's affairs, whether in life or in study.
Fourth, in the process of family mental health education, we must avoid long-term psychological punishment for children. Children lack life experience and occasionally do something wrong, and parents will scold them every day or often mention them. If they refuse for a long time, they will be extremely depressed and even continue into adulthood. Some problem children have their own emotional disorders, which will be more serious if their parents are impulsive. Don't put pressure on children in their studies and further studies, and take children's achievements as the main criterion for evaluating children. Over time, children will have psychological obstacles such as weariness of learning and exams.
As an important part of education, family education has a far-reaching impact on children. Every parent wants their children to get ahead, so let's pay attention to their children's psychology from now on and let them have a good psychological state to meet their opportunities and challenges.