The latest research confirms that peeking at your partner's mobile phone will directly endanger the relationship, lead to more doubts, lead to emotional instability, more conflicts, and even lead to breakup.
Because many people think that peeking at mobile phones is essentially an invasion of privacy.
In fact, in intimate relationships, we always confuse the difference between privacy and secrets.
Privacy is something you don't want the other person to know; A secret is something that you can't let the other person know.
The former is harmless or less harmful, while the latter is more harmful, mostly intentional injury.
For example, previous emotional experiences are private. You can share it with your partner if you want, but you can keep it for yourself if you don't want it.
But it's a harmful secret to keep flirting with your ex.
So is the mobile phone private or secret?
It depends on whether there is anything in it that can't be told to your partner and will hurt Ta.
You know, excessive invasion of privacy and too many secrets will seriously damage the trust in the relationship.
To have a healthy relationship, we need to respect each other's privacy and reduce each other's secrets.
Psychologists believe that peeking at your partner's mobile phone may be useful, but it is not appropriate or worthwhile, because it hurts the relationship too much, but at the same time, the mobile phone should not be a secret between partners.
The best state is that we know each other's mobile phone password, but we won't keep looking at it, let alone peek.