Abstract: Due to the particularity of the growing environment, many single-parent college students have mental illness. Imperfect personality and extreme behavior do great harm to oneself. It is no exaggeration to say that it is also a hidden danger in society. Scientifically change the unhealthy psychology of single-parent college students, and cultivate and transport qualified talents for the society.
[Keywords:] to change the bad psychology of single-parent college students
With the continuous development of social economy and the improvement of living standards, people's thoughts have also undergone open changes. Divorce has become a common social phenomenon, and more and more students have become single-parent families. In the investigation and study of college students' thoughts and behaviors, it is found that there are great differences between most single-parent college students and students with sound families, mainly in the following aspects:
1. The inferiority complex of single-parent college students
Due to secular prejudice, their parents' divorce makes them feel disgraced and feel inferior in front of others, resulting in inferiority complex. For example, when students are happy when they talk to their parents on the phone, their sense of inferiority becomes stronger and stronger. I always try to hide the fact that I am a single parent in my life, and I don't want to talk about family affairs. Don't apply for financial aid for poor students with financial difficulties.
2. Lonely personality of single-parent college students
The lack of affection makes them feel lonely all the time. Over time, they get used to this state, don't trust anyone around them, keep everything in their hearts, don't communicate with classmates and teachers, don't want to be close to others, and don't want to participate in various activities organized by the school. Treat anyone and anything coldly as if everything meant nothing to them.
3. Single-parent college students are more sensitive.
The usual care and help between classmates will arouse their sensitive nerves, misunderstand the kindness of others and produce resentment. Sometimes, the laughter between classmates will make them feel disgusted. If someone says something casually, they will think for a long time, think deeply and often come to a dead end.
4. Puppy love of single-parent college students.
The imperfect family makes single-parent college students eager to escape from this environment, so they start puppy love. Immature thoughts and unhealthy psychology doomed this kind of love to be flawed. For example, frequent changes in love objects, improper handling between love and study, and so on. , resulting in love failure, poor academic performance, and finally a heavy blow to the soul.
These unhealthy psychology and behaviors affect the development of emotion, will and character of single-parent college students. As college teachers, they have the obligation to help them get out of their inner shadows and grow into healthy college students. For college students, teachers are the people they have the most contact with on weekdays, and they are also different from their parents and classmates. This special role is more conducive to the implementation of teachers' education for single-parent students.
1. Establish the University Psychological Society.
Organize teachers who have a certain psychological foundation, are full of love, strong self-control and endurance, have personality charm and strong leadership skills into psychological associations in colleges and universities, and provide professional counseling and consultation for students, especially single-parent college students' mental health. Let this kind of excellent psychological counseling teachers play their two important personality characteristics: first, their sympathy and enthusiasm, and second, their imaginative and enlightening tendency, which will have a great impact on the educational effect.
2. Give full play to friendship.
The environment in which single-parent college students live, especially the collective life, class spirit and good relationship between classmates, is very important for their development in all aspects. In a class with a good style of study, the relationship between students is reflected in the ability to handle the relationship between individuals and groups, as well as the competition and cooperation between individuals. Arrange some students with similar interests to form a study group with them. One-man gang? Counseling makes single-parent college students feel the care and love from a big family full of true feelings and love. Therefore, they naturally feel that life is always full of sunshine, and that although they have experienced misfortune, they are particularly lucky.
3. Open students' hearts with sincere feelings.
For single-parent college students, the teacher's teachings can be ignored, and the elders' reprimands can be ignored, but the unrestrained chat between friends can often reach the child's heart unconsciously. So, first of all, establish friendly relations with them and work hard? Do what you want? Say what he wants to hear, listen to what he wants to say, and gradually become friends with him. One of our own? . In this way, the door of their hearts will be opened, and their true feelings, ups and downs, and bits and pieces of life will be poured out one by one. Only in this way can we grasp their pulse, lose no time to communicate with them spiritually and shape their hearts.
4. Cultivate self-confidence and establish a correct world outlook.
In view of the inferiority complex of single-parent college students, as teachers, we should try our best to play three roles:? Partner? 、? Mentor? And then what? Cheerleading? . I organize various colorful group activities and theme class meetings. In the activity, I consciously provide these students with opportunities for self-expression. Through activities, they can know themselves correctly, experience the happiness of success, know their own abilities and enhance their confidence. At the same time, let them integrate into the collective in the activities and feel the warmth of the big family of the school. Let them get rid of the troubles of growing up, establish a correct world outlook and outlook on life, and be full of confidence and hope for the future.
5. Encourage participation in public welfare activities, face life positively, and let love grow.
Single-parent college students often feel bored when no one else is around. They often spend their time in passive ways, such as surfing the Internet, playing games, reading novels and interacting with unhealthy young people in society, neglecting their work or even playing truant. During this period, counselors should educate them on their outlook on life and purpose in time, improve their understanding of their ideals and future, and educate and guide them one by one, that is, praise them when they change, communicate repeatedly when they fail to achieve the expected results, and constantly remind, encourage and enlighten them from multiple angles. Encourage them to participate in some social welfare activities, for example, go to the nursing home with their classmates for a condolence performance; Go to primary school as an off-campus counselor to help primary school students; Be an environmental volunteer. The purpose is to make single-parent college students deeply feel the joy that they can give love to others and enjoy the return of love.
6. Close contact with parents to form a joint force of education.
Good school education can only make up for the deficiency of family education to a certain extent, but it can never replace family education. Therefore, in addition to paying special attention to the education of students from single-parent families, schools should also contact parents in time to discuss educational methods. On the one hand, understanding students' performance at home makes education more targeted; On the other hand, because single-parent families are a shortage? Fatherly love? Or? Maternal love? In the process of contact with parents, deformed families find out parents' wrong ideas and incorrect educational methods in time, and tell parents that if their children have problems, they should first? Take medicine? . We should attach importance to the role of parents, not only to appear in front of children with the strict and generous role characteristics of fathers, but also to examine the changes of children with delicate and considerate eyes like mothers. Only in this way can the child's mind grow healthily, otherwise, will it make the child's mind grow healthily? Nutrition? Out of prejudice.
There are many reasons for the ideological problems of single-parent college students, including family factors, social factors and school factors. How to scientifically change the ideological and political work of single-parent college students with reasonable and effective methods is a subject that ideological and political educators should further study and explore.
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