What should a healthy family relationship look like? Many tragedies of family conflicts are caused by bad family relations, so healthy family relations are particularly important.
1 Parent-child relationship: It is an art to understand the uniqueness of children and educate them well. Loving children is not a simple material satisfaction, but also needs to study and understand children. Parents who really love their children should understand that children are different.
When the child was five years old, a mother found that the neighbor's child learned a lot of words, but her son liked to "sabotage", and the recorder and remote control at home were removed by the child. Mother was particularly anxious at first, and finally found out that her son was curious and didn't make trouble on purpose. After primary school, her children like science fiction, programming and small inventions, showing different characteristics and potential from other children.
2. Husband and wife relationship: Family relationship should be put in the first place. Our common family model is to put the parent-child relationship first, especially the one-child family. I often hear my mother say that her favorite is children, and my father also says that his favorite is children. Is this the right model?
In fact, the best education for children is the love between parents. In family relations, the relationship between husband and wife is the first, and the father's favorite should be the mother, and the mother's favorite should be the father. The love between mom and dad is the source of children's greatest sense of security and happiness. For children, mom and dad are like his right hand. Children love their left and right hands as well as their parents.
3. Compassion: Do a good job in building a team of brothers and sisters. Family is the training ground for children to go to society. Running-in and quarrel between brothers and sisters are very valuable experiences in the process of children's growth. Parents should not be anxious when children have conflicts because of grabbing toys or distributing food. This is the most primitive process for children to learn to deal with problems.
First of all, parents should pay close attention to ensure that there are no safety problems. Then, parents should observe how children solve disputes and help them find better solutions in time. Parents should know that the team spirit, cooperation ability and social ability of getting along with others between brothers and sisters have the opportunity to grow in this process, which will lay the foundation for their children to go to society in the future.
4. Relationship between grandparents and grandchildren: Grandparents should play the role of "old children". Grandparents should pay attention to the art of education in family education, retreat to the "second line" of family education, and "show weakness" in front of grandchildren, so that children can feel that grandparents are the objects of parents' care, and children themselves will learn to take care of, honor and tolerate the elderly.
It is also important for ancestors to maintain the authority of parents to educate their children. There should be unified management principles at home. After having children, families should seriously organize a family meeting, determine the relationship and responsibility of each member, and insist that parents must be the main body of educating children, and grandparents only play a supporting role.