How to save the "sexual interest" of both husband and wife?

She has been married to her husband for over a year. Before getting married, her husband always wanted it. At that time, they did not live together. He asked her out two or three times a week, and now he only takes the initiative once a month or so. Although she is not beautiful, she is still beautiful. At first, she thought she was not interested in sex because she was flat-chested. Following the advice of netizens, she began to eat papaya and chatted with her husband. He said that you can't get what you want before marriage, but you can get it at any time after marriage. Of course it feels different. He also said that he was not interested in women, but he had sex with two women before he met her. So, how to save couples who have no "sexual interest"? Recently, a 4-year survey on the quality of marriage in China was conducted in the form of home visits to 800 couples in Shanghai, Gansu, Guangzhou and Harbin. The research results have been appraised by experts recently, which is considered as a high-quality research in the field of family sociology in China in recent years. Understanding of sexual life. 1% indicates disgust, 7.4% thinks it is not important, 9.3% is not important, 48% is average, 26.2% is important, and 8% is very important. Sexual life satisfaction. 49.4% of the couples said they were satisfied or even very satisfied, 35.4% thought it was average, and 15.2% thought at least one of them was dissatisfied. In addition, 23.2% couples admitted that they had direct sexual intercourse without any preparation for caressing, 36.7% couples did not communicate their sexual feelings, and 37.9% couples did not have intimate behavior at ordinary times. Perhaps in Chinese marriage, more hair-trigger crises come from the relationship between economy and mother-in-law, and sexual satisfaction and experience are always in a suppressed position. Statistics also show that at present, 70% people are in sub-health state, most of whom are white-collar workers. However, more than 85% of enterprise managers are in sub-health state. Because sub-health may lead to asexuality, many couples enter asexual marriage. One of the most important reasons is that after marriage, they put most of their time and energy into their careers, running around for income, houses, cars and so on, leaving their "sexual resources" idle at home. Of course, the purpose of their behavior is also for this family. But they tend to ignore one thing and another. There is more material at home and less spirit; Have more property, but less "sexual interest"; Enjoy more, but be less happy. In fact, marriage is a science, and sex plays an extremely important role. Although every unhappy family has its own misfortune, every happy family should have lingering "sex". Asexual marriage is not a fashion or trend. There is no such marriage in the world: husband and wife are congenial, but they just don't have sex. In fact, most asexual marriages are helpless. If there is no "sex" in marriage, not only will the relationship between husband and wife not be consolidated, but the family will also be difficult to stabilize, and it will be a lack of health. In the past, people were ashamed to talk about sex. Even if there is a sexual problem between husband and wife, it will not be put on the table. Some people have adopted the method of "forbearance". Some people find reasons from other aspects, and the curve achieves the purpose of divorce. The two sides just said that their feelings broke down and they often quarreled and fought, but no one admitted that it was caused by disharmony in sexual life. With the diversification of people's individual needs and the continuous improvement of tolerance attitudes and concepts, these problems began to gradually show their true colors. In the current divorce cases, a certain proportion of the inducement is sexual disharmony. There is a typical case in which husband and wife are made in heaven. The woman insisted on divorce, the man insisted on it, and the civil affairs department could not control it. The woman went to court to sue. Because men are determined not to leave, they adopt mediation. I talked to two clients many times and found out the real reason for their divorce. The woman said that he stayed in bed for five minutes at most, which made me very miserable, so I wanted a divorce. This is just an example, but when the intimate relationship between husband and wife hits a stone, this "stone" often appears in the bedroom. Research shows that in a happy marriage, sex contributes only 15% to happiness, while in an unhappy relationship, 85% of the dissatisfaction comes from sex. Frankly speaking, marriage itself has no effect on sex, but the relationship between husband and wife will affect sex. The further deepening of the relationship between husband and wife after marriage can make sex have vitality. Marriage should not be the end of love life, but a gas station. The maintenance of "sex" between men and women is not only based on love, but also needs leisure and elegant nourishment. Sexual misfortune will lead to crisis, and sexual harmony will reverse the crisis. As the old saying goes, "quarrel at the end of the bed", the misfortune between husband and wife may be saved through "sex". The sexual life between husband and wife can't be like a tight bow, but should be relaxed, relaxed and relaxed again, so as to achieve the harmony and unity of body and mind. Therefore, when there is no "sexual interest" between husband and wife, we should pay attention to the following principles: First, master the rhythm. Before sexual life, the mutual caress between husband and wife is not everything, but it is indeed the key link to improve the quality of sexual life, just like the prelude to songs or music. If both husband and wife are happy in sight and hearing, their sexual life can enter a higher realm. The second is to pay attention to the change of posture. Some couples have sex for many years, and it is inevitable that they will be bored if they keep a posture for a long time. Therefore, the form can be flexibly mastered, as long as both sides don't feel uncomfortable, it doesn't hurt to try again and again. The third is to learn to observe the face and observe the color. It is an irreparable mistake for a husband not to understand his wife's sexual psychology, which will also cause all previous efforts to be wasted. Therefore, the husband should pay attention to his wife's feelings about sex life and ask her how she feels at the moment. The fourth is to create humor. A sense of humor is the lubricant of a couple's sexual life. Making a face and saying one-liners will increase the relaxed and happy atmosphere of both sides, and even produce unexpected and wonderful effects. Fifth, proper use of sex toys. Traditional long-term sexual behavior will lead to fatigue, and timely use of appropriate sex toys can bring new excitement, but paying attention to buying good quality formal sex products can avoid the dependence caused by long-term use.