How should college students communicate with each other

How to communicate among college students is as follows:

Paper 1: Good interpersonal communication potential and good interpersonal relationship are the necessary conditions for human survival and development.

As a special group, college students should cope with fierce competition and increasingly strong social psychological pressure. How to understand and correctly handle the problems existing in college students' interpersonal communication is of great benefit, and interpersonal communication obstacles will bring a series of adverse effects on college students' study, life, mood and health.

Based on the analysis of the problems and reasons in college students' interpersonal communication, this paper expounds how college students can continue and improve the potential of good interpersonal communication. At the same time, the formation of a United, friendly and energetic interpersonal environment is also conducive to the formation and development of college students' healthy personality.

Every life in social life lives in interpersonal network, and everyone's growth and development depend on interpersonal communication. The quality of interpersonal relationship is often a comprehensive reflection of a person's mental health level and social adaptation potential. Modern society is an open society, and an open society needs open social communication.

For college students who are studying and growing up, interpersonal communication is one of the basic materials of life. The complex social communication between classmates, teachers and students, fellow villagers, roommates, individuals and classes, and schools constitutes the network system of college students' interpersonal communication.

Cultivating good interpersonal potential is not only the need of college life, but also the need of adapting to society in the future. A person who has no communication potential, like a ship on land, will never drift into the magnificent sea. Compared with middle school students, college students' interpersonal communication is more complex, extensive, independent and social.

Individuals began to enter the social circle of quasi-social groups independently. College students began to try independent interpersonal communication, trying to develop this potential. Moreover, the potential of communication has increasingly become an important criterion for measuring personal potential in the minds of college students.

College students are in a period of psychological development eager for communication and understanding. Good interpersonal relationship is an inevitable requirement for their normal psychological development, sustained and healthy personality, sense of security, sense of belonging and happiness.

However, not every college student can handle interpersonal relationships well. In this process, quite a few people will have various problems.

Cognitive, emotional and personality factors will affect the establishment of interpersonal relationships. Once frustrated in this process, it may be manifested as self-denial and fall into depression and anxiety, or get into trouble because of trying to fight, which will lead to psychological problems.

First, the performance of college students' interpersonal discomfort. According to the survey, interpersonal communication has accounted for more than 50% of college students' psychological problems, and in previous statistics, love troubles occupied the first place.

The trouble of communication is greater than the trouble of love. Careful analysis shows that the confusion and discomfort in college students' interpersonal relationships can be divided into the following five categories:

The first category: lack of intimate friends. This kind of college students usually have normal contacts and good interpersonal relationships, but they feel that they lack intimate friends who can talk to each other, treat each other sincerely, cooperate tacitly and share joys and sorrows. Therefore, they sometimes feel lonely and helpless.

The second category: difficult to intersect with individuals. This kind of college students communicate well with most people, but not with individuals. It may be a roommate, a classmate, or a close parent. Because you can't get along well with these people, it often affects your mood and becomes a "heart disease."

The third category: social phobia. This kind of college students are sensitive and afraid of interpersonal communication, and try to avoid contact with people. When they have to communicate, they will be nervous, afraid, their hearts will beat faster, their faces will be flushed, and they will always be in a state of anxiety.

They are afraid of being the center of others' attention, making a fool of themselves in front of others and being observed by others. I am always worried that I will make mistakes and be laughed at by others. I am always under an inexplicable psychological pressure. Communicating with people, even appearing in public places, is an extremely horrible task for them.

Social phobia is a very painful psychological obstacle, which seriously affects the life and work of patients. Many things that ordinary people can easily do, but people with social phobia are afraid. Patients may think they are boring people, and others will think so.

In this way, patients will become too sensitive and even unwilling to disturb others. Doing so will make patients feel more anxious and depressed, thus further worsening the symptoms of social phobia. Many patients change their lives to adapt to their symptoms. They (and their families) have to miss many useful activities.

Second, the problems existing in college students' interpersonal communication In the study and life at the university stage, due to subjective and objective reasons, some college students often have poor interpersonal communication and communication, which affects their physical and mental health and learning progress.

In recent years, due to various factors, college students' interpersonal difficulties have become a common problem in college life. Look at the survey above. When students answered "What qualities do you think you lack in your personality by choosing a job", the proportion of choosing interpersonal communication potential was as high as 34.8%, ranking first.

There are the following problems in college students' interpersonal communication:

1, self-centered. When dealing with people, I should put the word "I" first, only take care of my own needs and interests, emphasize my feelings and ignore others. When getting along with others, regardless of the occasion, don't consider other people's emotions, speak loudly and dance happily when you are happy; When you are unhappy, you are unhappy, ignoring everyone, or losing your temper, disrespecting others and ignoring their situation and interests.

2. Self-enclosed. There are two situations in this type. One is that they don't want others to know about themselves, and they always like to cover up their true thoughts, feelings and needs. They often hold a detached attitude, only pay attention to their inner experience, artificially set up psychological obstacles and deliberately close themselves up.

Another situation is that although I am willing to associate with others, I can't let others know myself because of my personality. Such people are generally more introverted and withdrawn, which constitutes a state of self-isolation. There are also such students in our team, who like to be alone and don't like to get in touch with others. Everything is done by themselves, and it is difficult to integrate into the masses, resulting in a state of disharmony.

3. Suspicion and jealousy. Suspicion in communication is generally manifested in closed thinking based on an imaginary goal, lack of trust in people, casual suspicion, saying that the wind is rain, which is easy to hint. Suspicion is the moth of harmonious interpersonal relationship. In addition, psychology believes that everyone has different degrees of jealousy, which is universal and necessary and can stimulate people's upward intention. Once this jealousy limit will go to the opposite side, it will affect the normal relationship between people.

4. Face problem Everyone loves beauty, and loving face is a major quirk of college students. Interpersonal conflicts among college students often occur in trivial matters without principled problems, often an unintentional collision, casual verbal injury, or just a little interest, etc. Originally, just say hello and apologize, but both sides are "angry", not saying hello, not apologizing, not apologizing.

What's more, one refused, the other punched each other, broke his head and regretted it afterwards. Both sides are using inappropriate methods to maintain their self-esteem, which is a typical face psychology. It seems that whoever apologizes first will hurt face, and whoever bows his head in the face of threats will be a coward, so it will escalate layer by layer and end in tragedy.

Paper 2: Interpersonal communication is interpersonal communication, a constituent condition of interpersonal relationship and an important way for people to acquire knowledge and information. Interpersonal communication runs through all areas of our lives. For college students who are studying and growing up, interpersonal communication is one of the basic contents of life.

The complex social communication between classmates, teachers and students, roommates, individuals and classes, and schools constitutes the network system of college students' interpersonal communication. Cultivating good interpersonal skills is not only the need of college life, but also the need of adapting to society in the future.

First, the importance of college students' interpersonal communication.

1. Interpersonal communication is the need of college students' physical and mental development and an important way to maintain their physical and mental health. For college students in their youth, they have active thoughts and rich feelings, especially the demand for interpersonal communication is extremely strong. Everyone tries to gain friendship through interpersonal communication and meet their material and spiritual needs.

At this time, positive interpersonal communication and good interpersonal relationship not only make people feel happy and confident, but also maintain an optimistic attitude towards life. Generally speaking, most students with good interpersonal relationships can maintain cheerful personality and warm and optimistic quality, so as to correctly understand and treat various practical problems, resolve various contradictions in their study and life, form positive and excellent quality, and quickly adapt to college life.

On the contrary, if you lack positive interpersonal communication, you can't treat yourself and others correctly, and you are narrow-minded and short-sighted, it is easy to form great mental and psychological pressure, and it is difficult to resolve psychological contradictions, which may even lead to morbid psychology, such as depression.

2. Interpersonal communication is an important guarantee for the growth of college students. Modern society is an information society with a large amount of information and high value. With the expansion of information, people have higher and higher requirements for owning and using all kinds of information. Interpersonal communication is an important way to exchange information and acquire knowledge.

Through interpersonal communication, college students can transmit and exchange information and achievements, constantly improve their own experience, broaden their horizons and activate their thinking; Interpersonal communication is an important means for individuals to know themselves and improve themselves. Confucius once said, "Learning alone without friends is ignorance".

Interpersonal communication is actually a social activity to acquire and exchange knowledge and information. In today's information-based society, those students who are unwilling to associate with others will inevitably build barriers between themselves and society, thus becoming ignorant. Therefore, interpersonal communication can not only broaden people's knowledge horizons, but also the exchange of information will inevitably become a tonic for college students on the road to success.

According to the survey, the interpersonal communication level of college students in China is generally low at present. In my opinion, apart from some objective factors, it is mainly the subjective factors of college students themselves, especially psychological reasons.

1, unwilling to associate. There are mainly the following three aspects: First, due to personal motives such as inferiority, loneliness and jealousy, many college students can't correctly understand the role and needs of interpersonal communication, which leads them to be unwilling to take the initiative or even participate in group activities, thus avoiding interpersonal communication.

The second is family education. The imperative dialogue between parents and students is not conducive to cultivating children's mentality and communication habits from an early age.

The third is school education. In our traditional school, Chinese classes are mainly reading and reading, and there is little training in speaking. Therefore, some college students can finish their studies and tasks independently, but when communicating with others, psychological phenomena such as psychological tension and anxiety will appear, and finally they will form the habit of not wanting to communicate with others.

I think the cultivation of interpersonal communication ability should start with family education and school education at the same time, so that college students can attach importance to the significance of interpersonal communication from the heart and actively improve their interpersonal communication ability on the premise of having a good mentality.

2. Don't know how to communicate. Many college students lack the knowledge and principles of interpersonal communication, how to play the role of interpersonal communication, how to master the development stage of interpersonal communication, and how to overcome the unfavorable factors in interpersonal communication. So they generally feel that interpersonal communication is a very difficult thing. Students, teachers, students and friends don't know how to get along with each other and what matters should be paid attention to when getting along.

Paper 3: The great revolutionary mentor Marx once said: "Man is the sum of various social relations, and everyone does not exist in isolation. He must exist in various social relations. "

Modern society is an open society, and an open society needs open social communication. The interpersonal relationship of college students is often a comprehensive reflection of a person's mental health level and social adaptability. Cultivating good interpersonal skills is not only the need of college life, but also the need of adapting to society in the future.

First of all, briefly introduce interpersonal communication.

1, the concept of interpersonal communication, the so-called interpersonal communication, in layman's terms is the communication and exchange between people. Interpersonal communication is an element of human practical activities and a form of human social existence.

In a sense, interpersonal communication directly affects and promotes the development of society. Human practical activities can be realized in many forms, and interpersonal communication is the most basic and important form. In human social life, the communication between people is always inevitable, and it is impossible for each human individual to exist independently in society.

2. The importance of college students' communicative competence in society The development process of college students' interpersonal relationship is essentially the process of socialization of their own behavior. The so-called socialization means that individuals in a specific social and cultural environment form a personality that adapts to culture and society and master the behavior patterns recognized by society.

Through interpersonal communication, we can provide a lot of social stimulation for individuals, thus providing a certain guarantee for the socialization of individuals. Only through socialization can a person change from a natural person to a social person.

The main content of young college students' socialization is to master the behavior norms and standards related to social relations, master the basic social knowledge and skills that should be possessed as members of society, and constantly accumulate social life experience, so as to establish a correct world outlook, outlook on life and values, clarify their social responsibilities and obligations, and become social people as soon as possible.

Secondly, the present situation and existing problems of college students' communicative competence.

1, "self-centered" individualism. Post-90s college students enjoy the superiority of being the only child in their families, and tend to develop an individualistic tendency of "self-centeredness". Therefore, on the one hand, they tend to feel inferior, give up on themselves in the face of setbacks and difficulties, and then easily cause autism and depression psychologically.

On the other hand, it is easy to have too strong self-esteem and self-confidence, leading to conceit. Once you encounter setbacks and difficulties, it is easy to avoid them passively. These two aspects are not conducive to the cultivation of college students' self-awareness and the construction of social communication relationship, which requires students' self-regulation ability, which is mainly manifested in the individual's ability to regulate their own behavior.

2. Utilitarianism in interpersonal communication Utilitarianism in serious interpersonal communication usually refers to a way of communication with communication as a means and interests as the pursuit purpose. Influenced by the trend of money worship, some college students attach importance to material interests and ignore spiritual feelings in interpersonal communication.

In the survey, it is found that 54.2% of students consider themselves semi-qualified, and more than 40% of college students have communicative utilitarianism. This shows that the interpersonal communication of contemporary college students is gradually being replaced by the pursuit of material interests.

3. Network communication Network interpersonal communication is becoming an indispensable way of communication for contemporary college students. There are obvious differences between network interpersonal communication and traditional interpersonal communication. Although it has brought many positive aspects to communication, it has also brought many negative factors that cannot be ignored.

First of all, under the protection of the online virtual community, many college students behave completely differently in the online society and the real society, and the tendency of personality division is very obvious.

Secondly, network interpersonal communication has caused some college students to rely on the network, thus being indifferent to real interpersonal communication.

Third, how to cultivate college students' interpersonal and social communication skills.

1. Do a good job in the evolution from "personal standard" to "social standard". In the fierce social competition, "people-oriented" is not "people-oriented", nor is the cultivation of self-awareness. Establishing the interactive relationship between subject and object in the world outlook is the premise of the evolution from individual standard to social standard.

Cultivating students' sense of cooperation and team spirit and establishing the concept of "social standard" will play a positive role in forming good social relations, stepping into society and cultivating a sense of responsibility for college students.

Correctly handling the relationship between them is helpful for post-90s college students to handle the relationship between self-centeredness in family and learning to get along with others in school, as well as the relationship between learning and social practice in university.

Establishing the interactive relationship between self and others in the outlook on life is the key to the evolution from individual standard to social standard.

These can be achieved by improving their social skills, leadership, decisiveness and activity.

2. Cultivating college students to establish good interpersonal relationships mainly refers to the interpersonal interaction and mutual influence formed in social communication practice, covering all interpersonal relationships formed by individuals in life and other social activities.

A large number of studies show that the quality of interpersonal relationship directly affects people's comprehensive quality, and people's personality, communication frequency, similarity of attitude and complementarity of needs are important factors affecting interpersonal relationship. The methods of establishing good interpersonal relationships mainly include the following aspects: 1. Active communication. Second, establish a good first impression. Third, treat people sincerely and enthusiastically.