Derailment phenomenon 1: the cost suddenly increases.
After cheating, in order to please Iraqis, we should eat candlelight dinner, send roses and drink coffee, all of which can reflect a man's gentlemanly demeanor and romance. What is romance? Is to slowly waste the number on the credit card with a girl and make it change from changeable to less. This is a compulsory course for men in the field of love. It's nothing. I can't cope with this little expense. How can a girl be willing to be romantic with you? Why should people play a love game with you, a married man, which will have no ending or share? When I meet a girl with high material requirements, I can't live without a house and a sports car.
In order to keep this relationship, men have to save money desperately. I used to give my wife all the money generously, but even if I give it to her now, how much will I be reluctant to part with? Only he knows. If a man has no extra income, he usually refuses to pay his wife in full under various excuses. If there is extra income, men will not be as stupid as before-leaving nothing to their wives. Some men even quit smoking and drinking.
Cheating phenomenon 2: often working overtime
A man who is having an affair should take time off from work to be with his lover and appreciate the ecstasy and beauty of Wen Xiang nephrite. Naturally, he can't go home on time to accompany his wife. Of course, my wife will call and send text messages asking why men don't come home so late and who they are with.
Men usually say: overtime.
At first, my wife told me affectionately: Remember to have dinner at work. However, if you work overtime, your wife will be suspicious. Men will immediately look aggrieved: I work so hard and work overtime, isn't it for you and your children to live better? Otherwise, I will stay at home with you every day, and you earn money to support me!
When most wives hear this sentence from men, they will feel guilty and think that they have misunderstood their husbands.
When a man sees his wife, he gives up the idea of doubting him. He honestly went home to accompany his wife several times, which made her happy and continued to work overtime outside.
Cheating phenomenon 3: too much entertainment
These days, men with some skills like to socialize outside. For men, entertainment is decent and beautiful. It seems that there is no entertainment, which is not enough to prove a man's ability and career success.
Most women like men with social skills.
Most of such men can earn money and bring enough material security to her and her children's lives.
As a result, smart men will put on the cloak of entertainment and openly develop extramarital affairs outside. When his wife began to resent his constant entertainment outside every night, the man defended himself better than anyone else: you think I want to do this. Then, I take my big uncle, my wife's brother, as an example. He comes home from work every day with a monthly income of less than 1000 yuan. He always looks for groceries and scrimps, but he still can't save enough money for his children to go to college. His wife calls him a beggar every day. Do you want me to be that person? If you like, I will stay at home after work from tomorrow, cooking, washing dishes and washing clothes for you.
As soon as my wife heard it, there was no electricity. Before hanging up, she had to tell the man gently: eat more vegetables and drink less.
The man was so happy that he got his wife's heart with a little wisdom.
Cheating phenomenon 4: Absence of mind
When I get home, I feel uneasy no matter what I do, especially when the phone rings and refuses to answer it in front of my wife. If she asks him what's wrong, he will deny it in a rude manner-what can I do? Are you doubting me? In this case, I can tell you for sure that he is outside and has a "situation".
As the old saying goes, the bottom of my heart is selfless and generous. A man who has no secrets outside will face all the phone calls calmly at home, will not be absent-minded, and will not be bossy about his wife's inquiry.
Cheating phenomenon 5: sexual laziness.
It is normal for men to have a physiological refractory period, but it is only a few days.
Excluding these days, if he is a normal man, if he is always absent-minded in bed, he is indifferent to all your hints. For example, you all had "foreplay" before sex, but suddenly it was cancelled. He didn't respond to your affectionate body language and affectionate eyes at all. Even sex is routine, sloppy, completely coping, and without passion. At this time, you should be vigilant. Men's infidelity often begins with boredom with their wives' bodies.
The seven-year itch of marriage is mostly sexual itch. When sexual fatigue appears, it is also the beginning of marital fatigue. At this time, men will intentionally or unintentionally look for women who can bring them passion.
Cheating phenomenon six: friends come forward to prove their innocence.
When a man is suspected by his wife when he is out late or often stays late, his buddies often stand up and clarify the facts for him: he was with us that day, sister-in-law, don't worry, my eldest brother is not that kind of person, I can testify. And vowed that even if the eldest brother wants to cheat, we guys will not spare him. If he marries such a virtuous sister-in-law, if he is not satisfied and dares to move his heart to another woman, it depends on how we repair him.
In fact, his buddies are all friends like him. Some people say that birds of a feather flock together, and people are divided into groups. This is absolutely true. Men are having an affair outside, fearing that the backyard will catch fire. The most common trick is to push these friends out as shields to convince his wife that although he comes home late every night, he is absolutely honest with his wife!
Although none of the above can prove that your husband is definitely having an affair, if he has all the above six phenomena, it means that your marriage is already in a sub-health state. As a wife, you should pay special attention. How to eliminate the sub-health state in marriage, how to save the husband's gradually indifferent feelings and hearts, and how to let the marriage enter the second honeymoon period are things you must do.
Required reading: teach you to find out the "little tail" of men's infidelity. He said: it's hard to say that a man's feelings are derailed.
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