However, this kind of happiness cannot last long. Because of the baby's birth, you need confinement, breastfeeding, taking care of the baby and adjusting the relationship with your family. You need a process of change, not only to overcome the physical changes after delivery, but also to adjust your psychological process! If you are not psychologically prepared for these changes, which are beyond your tolerance, it will easily lead to depression!
When you find yourself inexplicably angry, irritable, irritable, sensitive, anxious, loss of appetite, depressed and accompanied by symptoms of decreased eyesight, you should realize that you may be depressed. At this time, don't panic, let alone worry. Postpartum anxiety and depression are normal and are caused by changes in hormone levels during pregnancy. They will get better gradually through rehabilitation!
There are ways to overcome postpartum depression.
1. Don't suppress it
When you feel that you are in a bad mood, communicate with your family in time and talk about your thoughts and requirements. I hope my husband and parents can help share some things, take good care of the baby, and keep enough rest, properly relieve emotions and reduce stress!
Adjust yourself
Adjust your mentality and stay positive and optimistic! Besides taking good care of children, you can also chat with friends, pour out your grievances and sorrows, improve your bad emotions and effectively adjust yourself!
3. Adapt to role changes
With children, not only will life change greatly, but also a series of changes will take place in the heart. Everyone's attention is focused on the emergence of this new life, and they will inadvertently ignore the psychological changes of the parturient, and they will become mothers in this process, adapt to the changes in their roles, adjust their emotions, and face their roles correctly!
Seek support
If you feel that your mental state has been bad, you must see a doctor, find out the problem and seek the support of your husband!
Divert attention
After taking care of your baby, listen to music, take a walk, eat something light, don't think too much, don't care what others say, tell yourself that you can handle your emotions! Look at the children, in fact, all the troubles will disappear, what pain is more painful than giving birth to children, and what happiness is happier than taking care of and accompanying children to grow up!
Many people don't understand postpartum depression, saying it is melodramatic. In fact, postpartum depression is a pathological change, which is staged, not melodramatic. About 10% to 30% of women have different degrees of postpartum depression. At this special stage, family members should pay more attention to the psychological state of pregnant women and give them a warm, pleasant and comfortable environment!
Actually, I quite understand your idea. As a girl, many people think that having children is our mission. This is a backward concept, and we don't need to pay for other people's backward concepts. Dear, you must learn to adjust your body and mind, live a self-disciplined life to improve yourself, and don't care too much about the opinions of people around you. After all, they are not you, and they won't understand your feelings. Different people have different feelings about the same thing. You should have a good attitude, so that you can be happy physically and mentally, and then you can set an example to educate your children. Children are a kind of responsibility, and your Excellence can affect their growth! Come on!
10 pain is melodramatic?
Hello, dear, I also gave birth to two children. I understand how earth-shaking changes and helplessness women face after giving birth.
Postpartum depression is not melodramatic or effeminacy, but a real mental illness, even life-threatening.
But I have to say that there are too many people who don't understand this. They are shallow and ignorant. When they don't understand at all, they will talk big without knowing it, causing secondary harm to the parties.
But the energy of postpartum depression itself is very low, and it is even more tiring to think about how to fight back against others. So I don't think it's necessary to waste energy explaining to people who don't understand. They don't understand because of ignorance, and there is no need to consume our own energy because of such people.
People with depression are very kind, and because of this, they put too much pressure on themselves and attack themselves at the same time, so they will have depression.
I think it is important for family members to understand and help me out of postpartum depression, but inner reconciliation is the most important thing. Let go of your doubts and criticisms, and stand with yourself, sharing weal and woe. Your internal friction will be greatly reduced and you will really have the ability to fight back.
I suggest you write more diaries, vent your emotions, understand your distress, don't make yourself too tired, relax properly, be good at asking for help, and be better to yourself.
If your mother-in-law doesn't understand, you can talk to her family. After all, her mother is very considerate to see her daughter's pain in childbirth. Because more than 20 years ago, she suffered the same pain and gave birth to you. Don't feel wronged. You should be wronged. We should be comforted by our families. After all, we are under great pressure during childbirth and pregnancy. It is good for your health to talk properly, or to vent and cry.
You can talk to your girlfriend and her family, relieve the inner pressure, and help relieve postpartum depression.
If the husband and mother-in-law don't understand, don't take it to heart. After all, they have never experienced such pain and pressure, and it is difficult to understand their mixed feelings. The best response to them is not to argue. At the right time, you can throw the baby to them and relax yourself, so that they can understand that it is not easy to take care of the baby. At the same time, tell them that the child is not mine alone, and you have the same obligation to take care of the child.
Learn to make yourself happy, don't care about other people's opinions, cry when you are stressed, relax when you can, and don't be nervous, which will have an impact on your health. The smartest people in the world know how to take care of themselves, instead of being immersed in pain all day.
Honey, give you a hug first.
Women who experience changes in body hormones after giving birth will have depression and anxiety, but to varying degrees. According to the statistics of China Psychiatrist Association, 50% ~ 70% novice mothers have postpartum depression, pessimism, despair and irritability. So, don't blame yourself too much when you have these emotions. This is normal and unpretentious. You can do the following things to help relieve negative emotions:
1. Try to accept and accompany yourself: When your family doesn't accept and criticize your emotions, it's very important for you to try to accompany yourself: don't think it's wrong to have the same emotions as them. Allow yourself to cry if you want, don't suppress yourself.
2. Tell your family directly what you really want: psychologically, there are some unmet needs behind emotions, which may be a specific expectation or a psychological desire. You can ask yourself: What do I really want? If you have the answer, tell your family directly and ask for their support.
Try to rest as much as possible and don't make your body too tired. The first year of a novice mother with her child is very hard, including feeding, putting the child to bed, changing diapers and all kinds of trivial housework. Can't sleep well at night. If you don't have a good rest, you will be very tired. If you are tired, you will be easily agitated and anxious. If you have a family member or nanny to help you, try to get everyone to work together. Don't put everything on yourself. Only when you have a good rest can you have a good state.
4. Arrange leisure time, and don't stay at home around the children. Proper shopping, watching a movie, relaxing, walking in places with beautiful scenery and broad vision, going to nature and basking in the sun will make you more relaxed.
5. Find a variety of ways to relieve emotions. You can chat with your best friend, find someone to chat with, or find a psychological counselor, all of which can give you very professional companionship, so that your emotions can be seen and flowed, rather than a person's feeling.
6. Always recognize and affirm yourself. Being a mother for the first time can easily lead to frustration and self-blame, but you have tried your best, and it is not easy for every mother. When others say you are melodramatic, remember to affirm yourself. At least I'm trying. I want to be better. I want to be kind to myself. It's normal for me to have these emotions. I am a qualified mother. I appreciate your efforts to be a good mother.
After giving birth to a baby, especially for the first time, many women will suffer from postpartum depression because of the changes of body hormones and the disorientation and inadaptability to the newborn baby. How to overcome, give you some advice:
1, if you have the conditions, you can ask for a new moon. Take care of you for two months, 60 days. This is the minimum, because it takes 42 days for a woman's uterus to recover. I really can't. I need your husband's support. Because the postpartum body is very weak, and the newborn's sleep is upside down day and night, breastfeeding is also very frequent. Without the help of external force, mother will have a bad rest, and will be sad, sad and irritable. If your husband can help your child make milk powder, burp and change diapers at night, and help him sleep when he is crying, your anxiety and depression will be much better and your body will recover better. You just need more rest. You can breastfeed when you need it.
2. If your husband's family and relatives think you are too melodramatic, (I've really seen my husband's mouth mean, and I don't feel sorry for you at all. It's easy to stand up and talk. Be sure to come with your mother's family, because they really understand your feelings. In short, be sure to ask someone close to you to take care of it, even if you spend money to ask for a new moon. Must be responsible, rich and good. It is normal for pregnant women to be emotionally sensitive. If you don't take good care of yourself, you will be in poor health if you are depressed, and you won't fall behind for the next month at all. After you go to work, your work will be much easier.
3, the diet should be nutritious, but not too greasy. In some places, it is customary for mothers to eat a lot of eggs every day, but it is not necessary. Maternal women can eat three eggs a day, and the body can't absorb the extra protein. Then eat some fruits scalded with hot water and vegetables. Eating bird's nest is also good. In short, the nutrition should be balanced and light.
4, postpartum can not be affected by the wind, wrap your body. Especially the head and feet. Put on your hat and shoes, and don't show your heels to avoid getting sick. When you can get out of bed and walk, take a walk near your home to broaden your horizons and relax.
5. Let the people who take care of you around you chat with you more and talk about some relaxing topics. This is very important for emotions.
When you think it's too hypocritical to have children, pull your husband to your side and let your husband and family go back for you. You can afford to spend money in the moon center and stay away from those people at special times.
Many novice mothers have certain depressive symptoms after delivery, such as low mood, sad mood, crying, easy to be sad and so on. Because when giving birth to a child, the mother has to undergo great changes both physically and psychologically. If they are in good contact with each other, it will be easy to tide over the difficulties. On the contrary, they may go through a long transition period and need to adjust themselves well.
From an early age, we were taught to learn to be patient and learn to grit our teeth. When we grow up, we learn to hide our emotions. Over time, our emotions will not be dispelled, but one day they will erupt in another way. When we have emotions, the most important thing for us is to face up to them and learn to channel them. We can tell our husbands or trusted people or psychological counseling experts in the most comfortable way.
Because we need help, instead of limiting ourselves, asking ourselves to overcome and avoid bad emotions will bring us more harm.
There is nothing new in this world. I believe that most of the difficulties we are facing now have been met by many people and solved. Asking others for help may open a whole new world for us.
As for other people's opinions, people who care about themselves will definitely not say such things. Why waste time caring about those opinions for those who don't care about themselves? When we try our best to learn to fight back, we actually lose, but when we don't care about ourselves and live the life we want, we win.
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I hope my answer can give some help and comfort to the seeker.
Many parturients will feel depressed and anxious after delivery, especially want to cry, sometimes blame themselves, and feel depressed or even desperate for the future. This may be postpartum depression.
Studies have proved that this is due to the sudden decrease of luteinizing hormone and estrogen after pregnancy. Postpartum fatigue, worry about body shape, anxiety about how to raise children, dissatisfaction with family members who are more concerned about their babies and may neglect themselves, and personal psychological quality will all become the inducement of postpartum depression.
First of all, you should know that this is not an act or an affectation. Secondly, we should be confident that most people can return to normal naturally, and only a few people need the help of doctors, so as to relax their psychological burden. This is the first step.
The second step is to eliminate unnecessary worries about taking care of children, study more, read more books, and keep in touch with experienced mothers.
The third step is to seek the help and support of family members, especially husbands. Make clear requirements for your husband, such as chatting with you and taking time to take the baby to change diapers.
Step four, listen to some music every day and leave some time for yourself. People are less anxious when they are relaxed.
If your family comes, you can come, too. You can also be gentle, find out relevant contents with scientific basis for them, and find some cases of excellent husbands and excellent fathers to "brainwash" your father. I believe that osmosis is useful.
I wish you health and happiness and take good care of your baby!