Second, two people can establish a mechanism as soon as possible: finding problems-communicating problems-solving problems.
The following details took three nights to write, all of which were dry goods, followed by Dai's communication skills. It's a little long It takes about ten minutes to read. You can collect or like it at will and watch it in your spare time.
First, men care about women, and women respect men.
In too many marriage cases, it is not a matter of principle, but divorce, mostly because this sentence is not done.
1. "Men care about women":
Too many widowed children, housework is done by women, classes are attended by women, children are born by women, children are brought up by women, and children are raised by women. Which woman can stand this for a long time?
Even paying lip service to it is better than taking a woman's contribution for granted. From the primitive society, men cultivated and women wove, and men dominated the outside and women dominated the inside. Now, women practice both inside and outside. Are women superhuman?
When a woman is wronged and unhappy, then this family cannot be happy. Children will be unhappy under the influence of their mothers' emotions, and husbands will think that my wife blames me for her disagreement. A vicious circle.
My female reader Xiaolin told me two days ago: "My husband is selfish. He is not at home every day, goes out early and comes back late, and goes out to play with a group of friends on holidays. Don't care about me or my son at all. My son is sick, and I am still taking my child for an intravenous drip. "
"I usually go to work, cook and help my son with his homework. There is no time for me at all. "
"But my husband, National Day holiday for several days, he went camping with a group of donkey friends. I had to take my son, my best friend couple and my best friend's children to play around. Looking at the love of the couple, I am heartbroken alone. "
I asked, "How is your daily communication?"
The wife said, "There is no communication, so we can't go together." Once, my son was doing his homework and he was smoking nearby. I said,' Go smoke on the balcony!' He insisted on opening the window. You said he was selfish. "
You see, this husband is typical of not caring about his wife and taking care of his family. At the same time, the wife also has grievances and disrespects when communicating with each other.
As a result, there is too little communication between husband and wife, which leads to a vicious circle and marriage dilemma.
Only by following the principle that "men care about women and women respect men" can the solution be achieved.
Let me start with a positive case. The above example is too disturbing.
My mother was. In my childhood memory, she was thin, worked very hard and ate very little. Slim is slim. It's just that my mother works too hard and has to take me to work to do housework.
At that time, my father didn't cook until my aunt joked that you made my sister hungry. My father has a strong self-esteem. He thinks his face will hang, and then when he looks back, he finds that he really doesn't care enough about my mother.
So he began to study various dishes and decided to make my mother's pearls round and smooth.
At that time, my dad's cooking was really booming. When he usually eats good food in a restaurant outside, he will ask the chef for advice and then come back to cook for us.
As long as it is my dad's cooking, no matter how picky children come to my house, they will eat a lot. So basically my dad takes care of the kitchen.
My mother is getting stronger and stronger and her face is rosy. The sound of going upstairs is no longer the previous "click", but a solid "knock". My mother's personality, from the original bad temper, has become more and more small woman.
Until now, when my father teaches me to cook at the dinner table, he will proudly say that he has raised his daughter-in-law very solidly.
My mother looked at my father and smiled like a girl.
2. "Women respect men"
Many women don't realize that they don't respect their husbands enough. However, as soon as I listened to the recording of their conversation, or looked at the screenshots of their chat records, the words of accusing, complaining and belittling her husband came to my face.
Instead, my wife asked me with a lovely face: "Why didn't he reply to me? Teacher, why do you think he is evasive? "
NONONO, this is not an escape. People are choked to death, and their self-esteem is seriously damaged and they are unable to spit.