In this week's class meeting, in order to let students better understand the communication between boys and girls, we discussed this problem.
First of all, I put forward two phenomena on campus: when adjusting the class seats, a boy nervously asked the class teacher if there would be girls next to him, and he was relieved when he learned that it was a boy; The other two boys and girls stick together in public, have lunch together and go home together. The students had a serious discussion on these two phenomena, which they thought were both extreme phenomena. The former is a student who thinks he is "out of the mud but not stained". They are not good at communicating with the opposite sex, and they often appear embarrassed and nervous when talking with the opposite sex. This is mainly due to the misunderstanding of male-female communication by public opinion and family environment, which has caused a psychological abnormality and had a negative impact on further integration into society in the future. In fact, these students don't realize that this society itself is a gender society. Only by cultivating this spirit of communication and cooperation between the two sexes from adolescence can it be conducive to future development; In the latter case, everyone thinks this is the other extreme. On the premise that society generally denies "puppy love", teenagers' unique curiosity and all the rebellions at this age drive them to try the so-called "puppy love" as a green apple. The yearning for the opposite sex makes them play a role that does not belong to their age prematurely. They may face inattention, declining academic performance, interference from both parents, and pressure from schools and teachers. All this is really unbearable for these children, and it is also a negative impact on studying with a normal attitude and even stepping into society in the future.
During the discussion, the students listed many hazards of "puppy love", such as distracting energy and affecting learning and progress; Lack of foundation, such as: immature thinking, poor self-control, economic independence, career orientation, etc. Can't taste the sweet fruit of love; Affecting the class atmosphere is not conducive to the healthy growth of the collective ... I have used many examples to prove the negative impact of "puppy love" on individuals and collectives.
But at the same time, we also found that there are not many people around us who can really be regarded as "puppy love", and most of them should be moderate communication between boys and girls. Moderate communication between boys and girls is of great benefit and can produce good heterosexual effect. First of all, boys and girls often learn from each other and influence each other, so they can learn from each other's strengths and improve their intellectual activity level and learning efficiency. Secondly, healthy heterosexual communication helps both sides to overcome their own shortcomings and deficiencies. Everyone wants to show their best in front of the opposite sex.
Although healthy sexual intercourse has many benefits for our growth, we should grasp the scale of sexual intercourse and prevent "offside" and "inaction". We can't exaggerate this problem, nor can we be casual.
The first is group communication. It is best to take part in more group activities for both men and women. Because you are in contact with several opposite sexes at the same time, you may not be as nervous and shy as facing a certain opposite sex, and it is easier to express yourself naturally, which helps to cultivate yourself to get along with the opposite sex with a normal heart.
The second is shallow friendship. Don't establish a deep personal relationship with a certain opposite sex at once, but you should grasp the discretion of communication. Now some boys and girls get too close, which has caused some bad effects on others. I think maybe you appreciate each other now and think each other is excellent. This is a normal idea. We should have the ability to appreciate others now. However, what you know now is superficial. Do you really understand? Nobody knows. So, don't think who you like easily. How much do you know about feelings? Is this true love after all? Or just a deeper friendship? According to your current psychological development and knowledge level, many things can't be grasped correctly. In this case, parents and teachers should refer to your opinions appropriately. After all, we are more concerned about you than against it. So if you have any ideas, you should communicate with your parents or teachers. No matter what the problem is, it is easy to solve it by communication.
Everyone's life can be divided into different stages, and each stage has its own special tasks. Now our main task is to study. In this environment, the problem of classmates' communication deserves our attention, but it is by no means worth exaggerating its influence. More energy is still concentrated on learning.
Of course, it is not enough to deal with this sensitive issue just through a class meeting. Collective education is to clarify everyone's understanding, mainly to play a preventive role, and to do a positive enlightenment work for the purpose of health. At the same time, we should also do a good job in guiding individual students' thoughts, understand them with reason and move them with emotion, so as to achieve good results.