Marriage is a partner who runs each other
Marriage is a partner who runs each other, people are a very complex creature, no matter it is affection, love, friendship, life and work will be different from one person to another, this is because each person's feelings and emotions will be affected by many factors. The following shares that marriage is a mutual business partner.
Marriage is a partner who runs each other1A good marriage is to be each other's partner
Couples shouldn't be a relationship of grinding each other down, but a relationship of training each other, appreciating each other, and accomplishing each other.
Everyone aspires to a good marriage, but a good marriage doesn't necessarily start out that way.
The relationship between people is magnetic, some couples, do the two sides of the trainer, partner, activate each other, support each other, always praise each other to make up for the stage, and ultimately each other more and more better and better, the marriage is happy and fulfilling.
The marriage of business real estate tycoon Pan Shiyi and Zhang Xin is a model of love that has gradually become a model of love in the business world.
One is a "sea turtle" who has lived abroad for many years and wants to integrate into China as soon as possible, while the other is a "turtle" who was born and raised in the country and is the most grounded old man.
In this way, Pan Shiyi became Zhang Xin's teacher in China, and the two soon settled down and got a license.
Zhang Xin said that the first two years of their marriage were a hot mess, because the two had different ideas, styles, and ways of dealing with things, and both of them had big ideas, and when they couldn't convince anyone, they would fight.
She said that at that time, almost every day quarrel, and even once the quarrel is very strong, she flew directly to Europe on vacation, at that moment, the marriage feels as if the end of the road.
Later, she said that a marriage has been in the making for 2 years, and the breakup period was such a waste of time and energy that even if she married someone else, the process would still be so torturous.
She decided to adjust her role and return to her family for the time being, and then realized that the best way for partners to deal with problems is to play to their strengths and divide the work.
For example, Pan Shiyi specializes in business negotiations, sales, and dealing with the government, while she specializes in architecture and space design, which she takes care of herself.
And in the future career cooperation, they each specialize in their own good part, and both sides are more and more appreciate each other's talent, the couple's relationship is gradually harmonious.
As Zhang Xin said: "Now that we've been married for more than 20 years, we're far less different than we are **** same sex. When making decisions we are able to reach a ****same decision quickly. Because we've assimilated over time. "
And Pan Shiyi encountered outside gossip or bad problems, Zhang Xin is to give trust and support, as Pan Shiyi said: "When I fell, Zhang Xin always help me up, but also Zhang Xin achievements now I".
Couples actually do not have to one side to win over the other, or one side to sacrifice to fulfill the other side, but should be partners in the way, or equal strength, go hand in hand, or there are in and out of each other, support each other, and each other's achievements.
This is the way a couple can achieve sustained happiness and joy, as well as greater fulfillment.
Couples are partners with each other, not only Pan Shiyi and Zhang Xin, in fact, Bill Gates and his wife, Robin Li and his wife in the marriage, all believe that couples should be in partnership, support each other, and achieve each other.
On the mode of married life, Bai Yang said long ago:
"Married life, half open eyes and half closed eyes to live also, there is no perfect man and woman in the world. If the eyes are open too long, or shine with a demon-spotting mirror for too long, I am afraid that even God can pick out the faults in God."
Everyone has merits and characteristics that are worth appreciating, and as a trainer, it is to be good at finding each other's strengths and encouraging support to achieve each other.
As Hayao Miyazaki said, "Love, is not to find a perfect person, but to learn to appreciate that imperfect person with perfect eyes."
This has to say something about Mr. Hu Shi, the trainer of the Republic of China.
Hu Shi, the famous male god of the Republic of China, married a small-footed wife, Jiang Dongxiu, who was known to be illiterate.
In the eyes of the world, they are really not compatible. One of them is a turtle professor who stayed overseas; the other one is a small-footed village girl who can't read or write.
Jiang Dongxiu and Hu Shi, although not interested, in the end is to understand her husband, she wrote in the preface to Hu Shi's posthumous book: Hu Shi before everything can be fuzzy, but only in the desk to do the study is extremely serious.
So she always persuaded her husband not to be an official. She was afraid that the officialdom of a certain breath, broken their husband's original personality thought.
1937, the outbreak of the war of resistance to Japan, Hu Shi as ambassador to the United States, but also had to write to his wife to ask for tassel, explain the situation, and state that, after the success of the work, will certainly return to the study, continue his academic research.
There are always people who think that Jiang Dongxiu is very strict and loves money. She asked Hu Shi to hand over all his salary and manuscript fees, and what he needed to buy had to be approved by her.
In fact, however, Hu Shih was a schoolteacher, a champion of all-round learning, but when it came to daily chores and financial management, he knew nothing; but Jiang Dongxiu did not know how to learn, but she was very good at managing the family's finances.
Mr. Hu Shih encouraged Mrs. Littlefoot to "not to be afraid of people's words", began to "put the foot", in the male God's guidance, Mrs. learn culture, read classical novels, "Dream of the Red Chamber" in the name of the maids, can be counted back out, but also learned to write a letter.
Couples appreciate each other, each other complete, he had a remarkable literary achievements, known as "the father of the Chinese [cultural] revolution", and she became a successful man behind the woman, have a happy life.
On the Internet to see a paragraph: a lifetime is still long, living together two people, must appreciate each other, like and each other to stay together, so that we can find a happy happy feeling, otherwise why bother to get married!
Marriage for the sake of marriage, it really becomes a siege.
A happy marriage, even if it is the grave of love, you will be happy to be buried with your beloved.
Do each other's trainer, to have the ability to appreciate, can see each other's strengths and strong support.
And know how to appreciate the marriage is happy, in the day-to-day time polishing, has maintained the appreciation of the heart of the beloved.
Let this appreciation, to become the love of this skill, in the hands of decades of years still maintain a keen eye.
Speaking of which, I have to talk about my parents-in-law, both of whom have always been the model of love in the "Zhu family compound". And their love for each other makes me even more determined for Mr. Hu, because the children of a loving couple will not be bad at all.
The two are celebrating their 40th wedding anniversary this year, and every time the family gets together, the two will spread dog food and "brag" about each other.
The father-in-law said: "Our family is now happy and well, you [mom] credit a lot, your mother was young when she opened the store to earn money, after earning money, but also know how to invest."
The mother-in-law said: "This is because your father to support me, that time I was young and inexperienced, your father even dared to take out all the belongings to support me to open the store business, so that without your father which have now I."
Looking at the two you a sentence, I a sentence, each other praise each other's eyes, the air is filled with thick love.
Gong has always warned us:
"Remember, husband and wife should know how to cooperate, good to find each other's flash point, and then carry forward.
Just like I found that your mom is cheerful and enthusiastic, very suitable for opening a store and starting a business, so I thought about how to train her. Similarly you have to support each other, you fulfill his dream and he can fulfill your ideal."
As Lin Yutang said in My Country, My People: Marriage is like a carved ship, depending on how you appreciate it and how you steer it.
Couples are on the same boat, you *** with the helm, toward the *** with the same goal forward, it is more need for both sides of the cooperation, you support me, I support you.
Jack Ma said a sentence: "Couples should not be a relationship of mutual grinding, but should be a relationship of mutual training, mutual appreciation, mutual achievement."
Here's where I have to thank Mr. Hu for his support.
One night before bed, Mr. Hu hugged me and said, "Honey, I want to adjust my schedule now."
"What's wrong? Isn't the current schedule good enough?" When I heard that, I wanted to be angry, my mother worked hard to bring up the baby, and she struggled to finish her own manuscript twice a month, and she even thought of letting me give in.
I did not expect him to say, "I see that you can not do what you want to do every day with the baby, so I do not go to work when you can choose to go to write or go to play, gourd I bring."
"This way there is time for me to bring the baby alone, time for you to bring the baby, time for us to stay together with the baby, and most importantly, time for me to stay with you alone."
Listening to Mr. Hu's gentle voice, I can't help but secretly rejoice again in my heart for my own decision at the beginning, fortunately early start did not get preempted.
"How is it that you have such a long way to go, is it thinking of how to train me so that I can become a big writer faster, so that I can earn money to support my family and children?"
"You have a dream that needs to be realized, then I have to fulfill you ah. Besides, you have always supported me to do what I like."
It is said that marriage is a grave, will make women lose themselves, throw away the dream, but a good marriage, but also a good school, both sides are each other's trainer, you achieve my dream, I fulfill your.
Just like a good marriage accomplishes me, so that I can enjoy doing what I like and realize my own dreams.
Learning yoga, Mr. Hu supported me, and even boasted to everyone: "She practiced yoga very well, a lift of the legs can lift my shoulders."
Learning to paint, Mr. Hu looked at my painting and said, "Gourd ah, you have to learn from your mother, you see your mother learns everything fast, painting is really good."
Learn to write, enroll in a variety of classes, and even Mr. Hu encountered a good initiative to help me enroll, every time I see my article, will make a strong praise me: "You write so well, you are not far from your writing dream."
In fact, the total amount of the manuscript fee is less than a penny compared to the enrollment fee, but his appreciation and encouragement has made me more and more confident, confident that I will be better and better.
There is a line in Sideways Listening that says, "A relationship should be about supporting each other to **** together to accomplish your goals, not about unrealistic ideas, superficial material, and an intoxicated life."
This is certainly true for marriage.
A good marriage must be one in which there is mutual appreciation of each other's goodness, encouragement for each other to realize his dreams, and *** working together for a happy family.
It is human nature to want to be appreciated.
Smart women, look up to their husbands; good men, appreciate their women.
If one day you can not see each other's good, then even if he is good you will be blind, he is good to you again you feel not satisfied.
When there is no appreciation for each other, it will lead to more quarrels and accusations, and love will gradually disappear.
Just like the "management of marriage" said: appreciate each other, from reason into habit, from habit into nature, in the end, if you do not praise each other a few words, you are particularly uncomfortable.
A good marriage is, as Jack Ma said, to be each other's trainer, to appreciate each other, and to fulfill each other.
Marriage is a partnership of mutual management2
Indeed, two people who love each other into marriage, in fact, is to sign a contract.
The agreement is to be loyal to each other, to trust each other, no matter how poor or rich, not to leave each other, and to grow old together.
Those who have the spirit of contract, often hand in hand with each other, through thick and thin, *** with the building of a career on happiness.
As a saying goes, enviable marriages often have a pair of excellent partners.
Independent of each other, growing
Most happy marriages are independent of each other, each growing, than the wings.
In the TV series Chinese Divorce, Chen Daoming plays Song Jianping and Jiang Wenli plays Lin Xiaofeng as a couple.
Song Jianping is the chief surgeon of a public hospital, with excellent medical skills and an easy-going personality.
Lin Xiaofeng, his wife, is not happy to see her husband in a public hospital. She watches her husband rest on his laurels, not caring about the economy of his career, and her heart is often filled with resentment and aggression.
So she encouraged her husband to jump ship and go to a foreign-funded hospital. Song Jianping was reluctant because he had his own medical dreams.
Lin Xiaofeng meanly scolded him for not seeking advancement, and for being a wimp and incompetent.
After one argument and a cold war, Song Jianping finally succumbs and enters the foreign-funded hospital.
After jumping ship, Song Jianping became busier and busier, so Lin Xiaofeng quit her job to take care of her family.
However, looking at Song Jianping's status in the hospital is more and more high, not warm and cold to themselves, Lin Xiaofeng and feel that they pay too much for the family, too aggrieved.
Therefore, the mood is cloudy, often a word, on Song Jianping bad language, and ultimately led to the failure of the marriage.
Zhou Guoping said:
"There is no possibility of one party being happy alone in a marriage. One must **** win or **** lose, this is the iron law of marriage."
Just like partners, if either partner only wants to claim and enjoy the benefits, not to give and develop, they are not destined to go very far.
Complementary strengths , each other fulfillment
Zhong Lao's wife, Li Shaofen, was one of the first basketball players in New China.
After they got married, they got together less and less, because Li Shaofen had to train and compete, and Zhong Nanshan's work was also very busy.
Zhong Nanshan continued to trek in the field of medicine, his wife, Li Shaofen conquered the basketball career, the battle, became the prototype of the protagonist of the movie "Women's Basketball V".
After retiring, she went south with Zhong Nanshan to Guangdong, as the Guangdong women's basketball coach.
In their careers, they encouraged each other, and at home, Li Shaofen was Zhong Nanshan's personal trainer, giving him a fitness program.
Also in the home specially set aside a room fitness, while Zhong Lao is his wife's health care doctor, even when traveling, every day to urge her to take medication to measure blood pressure.
The 84-year-old Zhong Lao looks particularly healthy and energetic because of his long-term commitment to exercise.
Lee Siu Fun, also 84, continues to contribute to the basketball cause.
More than half a century of white prime ministers to carry the marriage is more than happy.
Tsai Shaofen and Zhang Jin, married for more than a decade, is an enviable couple in the entertainment industry.
At first people didn't think much of them because the woman was strong and the man was weak.
Choi Siu Fan became famous at a young age, and when they got married, Zhang Jin was still an obscure martial arts stand-in.
Married with two daughters, Zhang Jin has confessed in an interview, he is the weakest 'that' at home, his wife can not beat, two daughters even more can not beat ......
He spoiled Tsai Shaofen and her daughter into a princess.
And Cai Shaofen after marriage has been also in support of Zhang Jin's career, see who all praise a lot, is the circle famous "show off husband crazy devil".
In 2016, Zhang Jin finally with the movie "The Grandmaster", get the Hong Kong Academy Awards Best Supporting Actor.
On the podium he said:
"People say I have to rely on my wife, Tsai Siu Fan, in this life, yes, my happiness depends on her."
You are proud of me, I am proud of you, marriage is happy or not, we know ourselves.
As Xiaotao Hong once said in the "Oddball" conference:
"Marriage is actually not terrible, the terrible thing is that many people use the same standard to measure all marriages."
Between husband and wife, in fact, is a lifelong partner, in the married life to find a mutually recognized balance, each do their part, you can maintain a good marriage for a long time.
There is a classic line in "China Partners" that says this:
Partnership advantage, each other's good at complementing each other is the most important.
The same boat ****, never give up
茫人海，两个人从相遇相知到步入婚姻，缘分来之不易，所以要懂得珍惜。
Couples not only understand each other, each other to complete, but more importantly, the same sweet **** suffering, work together to get through one after another.
In the TV series "Little Happiness", Fang Yuan and Tong Wenjie are the happiest couple.
At that time, the middle-aged Fang Yuan unfortunately laid off, Tong Wenjie did not complain, but instead stroked his back to comfort:
"All right, the old does not go to the new does not come!"
In fact, at that time, her own workplace also suffered a bad experience, but Tong Wenjie was afraid to give Fang Yuan pressure, did not say anything, grit his teeth and silently hold up the family.
After Fang Yuan lost his job and became a family cook, Tong Wenjie praised Fang Yuan's cooking every time, and said to her girlfriends, "Fang Yuan is a limited edition, I can't help it, I have a good life."
Until later, Fang Yuan out of the valley of unemployment, have a new job.
The best love is that you marry me when I am penniless, and I do my best to be your harbor for the rest of your life;
You don't give up on me when I am in the trough of my life, and I use my life's efforts to save up and protect your whole life.
Cousin Jasmine had a leukemia a few years ago, life-threatening, in the sterile room for half a year, many people thought she could not survive, and even matchmakers waiting for the door to her husband proposed marriage.
Her husband never gave up, sold his real estate, raised money for treatment, and finally rescued her from the hands of the grim reaper.
After being discharged from the hospital, she was also taken care of, and her cousin gradually regained her health.
Last year, the mother-in-law sick hospitalized, life can not take care of themselves, cousin like a daughter, in the hospital clothes do not take care of more than a month, until the old man was discharged.
The mother-in-law praised her cousin, and her husband treated her more gently, and even washed her feet at night.
A good couple will not be cynical because of each other's momentary disappointments and failures. On the contrary, the support and encouragement of the partner during the downturn is the secret to nourishing the marriage relationship.
Compared to romantic love, perhaps the love of each other in the flow of the years, more solid peace of mind.
The moment a couple enters the marriage hall, they all have the wish to grow old together.
A long life, to realize this dream, not only to look at each other do not get tired of the foundation of love, but also *** with the same goals and aspirations, as well as the implementation of the spirit of contract in daily life.
Some psychologists have said that running a marriage is like running a business, where passion is part of the equation, and more of the equation is the spirit of cooperation **** win.
In the river of marriage, the scenery and the risk are the same, the only way to arrive at the harbor of happiness is to work together and keep in step.
As the second half of the Republic of China's marriage testimony says:
"Look at this day's peach blossom burning, suitable for the family, divining other years of melons and gourds, Erchang Erchuang."
I would like to take the white head of the contract, the book to the letter, so that the red leaves of the alliance, contained in the spectrum of the ducks.
Marriage is a partnership of mutual management3
Marriage is essentially a transaction, cooperation and management
The essence of modern marriage is a transaction, that is, a man and a woman based on the purpose of having children and *** with the purpose of counteracting the risks of life and the establishment of cooperation, and love has nothing to do at all.
Men looking for women to get married is actually the same as renting a fertility machine, you know in people like to also used to cover the essence of the use of the good sound of the name to deceive others so that they can get more benefits. (For example, the name of the child in order to pass on the parents selfless dedication in fact, the essence is to raise children in order to prevent old age) Marriage is also just the name of the name, in fact, the essence of marriage a long time ago into the equivalent of the exchange and lease.
But why did I say rent, not buy? Because that little money is not enough to buy out only enough to rent, you think now buy out a person just a few hundred thousand dollars is enough? Now is the era of monthly income of a few thousand, a few hundred thousand can top a few dollars?
Now the gift used to be called bride price, what is bride? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that. That is, the man hired a woman to go to your home to help you have a child, the bride price is the man to the woman's remuneration, this and you now hire an employee a lawyer is the same principle. Just some modern people in order to cover up the nature of its use, the bride price renamed bride price, in fact, the inner meaning of the completely unchanged, that is, you help our family breeding on behalf of [pregnancy], I give you the corresponding remuneration only.
Otherwise, where are the many marriages in China that are widowed? The first time I saw this, I was in the middle of a conversation with a man who had been in the middle of a conversation with a woman. It is because both sides do not have the value and necessity to continue the transaction, so the partnership called marriage can not go on.
As a woman, you need to know clearly that you will bring value to your husband after marriage. How much is your value real money worth? I'll do the math for you
[Generation] pregnant mom value
[Generation] pregnant according to the market price of eight hundred thousand a person to bear half of the man should give four hundred thousand
Crown right value
Crown right auction the highest bidder to win the auction proceeds of the full amount of compensation to the party who did not have a crown name.
Doing housework to take care of children nanny value
Housework a person to do half do not do the direct maid 6000 a month market price halved 3000 to the other side. Take care of the child half a person, do not take care of according to the nanny 6000 a month market price halved 3000 to the care of the party.
Physiological needs value
Calculated by the number of times who need to give money to who
Older companion value
Older need to take care of the words according to the number of times charges, handing the water each time 100, help to go to the toilet each time 200.
These you women go out to work to be a [on behalf of the] pregnant mother to do the nanny maid can be able to earn a white flower of the real money, it is precisely because of the value of you!
The value itself to talk about feelings and marriage, this is not established. This kind of feelings of this kind of marriage will only be replaced by a chicken feather. The marriage without material security is a hooliganism is to want to empty the gloves of the wolf.