Combined with the relevant information, I would like to talk about my views on this incident:
For most of the industry, the age of 39 should be considered young adults, is the mainstay of the age of the next, is the backbone of the company's members. However, for programmers, the age of 39 has been the absolute old age. Programmers daily work pressure, long working hours, coupled with rapid technological development, many programmers to the age of 35 years after the physical deterioration, coupled with their own technical level gradually unable to keep up with the requirements of the times, had to face the reality of the industry out of the situation.
I don't know if Mr. Gou is a programmer on the verge of retirement, and I don't know what his plans are for the future, but is he going to start his retirement at age 39?
Mr. Koo is in the news because he has a leg problem, and it looks pretty serious. But he couldn't find the time to take care of his body before going to a sanatorium. This also reflects the fact that many young people in today's society are in a state of sub-health and have to work long hours in a high-intensity, high-tempo environment because of the demands of life.
If this is the case for the whole society, I think it's a problem for this society. Very often, we focus on pursuing high-speed economic development, but ignore the basic concept of people-oriented.
Compared to the other residents of the nursing home, Mr. Koo is definitely a young man, and he is also in the Internet industry, which makes him very proficient in modern communication tools such as cell phones and computers. Living together with Mr. Gu is also a way for the elderly to help and improve. And Mr. Gu can also enjoy in this slow pace of life, can be said to be two birds with one stone.
I think this is also a revelation to nursing home operators that nursing homes do not have to be open to the elderly, and that eligible young people can be allowed to live in nursing homes if they need to.
Recently, both parents passed away, 39-year-old single programmer Mr. Gu, two years ago, fell at home and caused synovitis, because no one at home to take care of, in the aunt's advice, living in a nursing home.
What Mr. Gou did not expect is that his own helplessness, but was a lot of people serious "blessing", envy him still in the "when the years", to escape from the 996 overtime life, but also to restore the health of the 6-9 routine, every day in the sun,
Some of my friends even said that they had seen what happened to Mr. Gu, and their tears of envy flowed down from the corners of their mouths. The company's business is a regular one, with three regular meals and no need to wash dishes.
There are also people who say that Mr. Gou's "happy life" undoubtedly gives young singles who can't afford to buy a house and live in a rented apartment a wise choice to change the snail's life, that is, instead of spending money on renting a house, why don't you spend your money on a nursing home? There, three meals a day, someone to take care of, room hygiene someone sweep, and those seventy to eighty old people a sunshine and play cards, but also a pleasure! In the future, there may be a nursing home elderly people do not want to enter, young people crowded the magic phenomenon.
I believe that many people still remember the recent death of two young employees in 10 days at Poundland.
In the early hours of December 29 last year, 23-year-old Zhang * Fay, who joined Pinduoduo for only a year and a half, and a colleague died suddenly on the way home from work.
And on January 9, joined Pinduoduo technology development engineer position only six months, just through the probationary period to complete the conversion process of Tan Moulin in the leave to go home the next day, that is, at about 12:30 p.m. on January 9, from the 27th floor of the home in Changsha jumped to his death.
Why did Tan Molin suddenly take a leave of absence? Why return home just one day, jumped off the building? What happened to him to make him so afraid of life?
In this regard, the media loudly appealed: refused to "take life for money"! The first time I saw this was when I was in the hospital, and the second time I saw it was when I was in the hospital!
This may indirectly support why so many young people are so envious of the 39-year-old programmer in the nursing home!
Life is not easy, everyone is like a tightly wound alarm clock, can not stop for a moment.
Because you are still young, you have an old man and a young man, there is a car loan and a mortgage to pay, small children have to go to kindergarten training courses to hire a tutor, older children to pay tuition fees for college living expenses, all of which determines that you can not stop.
When your tired eyes see this 39-year-old happy brother who stayed in the nursing home, there is no reason not to envy?
A nursing home in Chongqing to live in the youngest single programmer, this year is 39 years old, so far single. After his father died of cancer, he came to the nursing home to convalesce. Every day without the pressure of the sun, the use of fitness equipment exercise, but also with the grandparents to watch TV, chat, play cards, sunshine. Behind this kind of joyfulness, there is a programmer's heartache.
First of all, the 39-year-old body into the people sanatorium, visible work intensity. The Internet salary of the high salary is just an illusion, many people are a person top two or three people with. Programmers are more in the shift, overtime spent in their youth day after day, year after year. Some programmers just joined, but also hear some of the old comrades of the glorious deeds, such as who went into the ICU, was resuscitated. Some employees have the relevant resuscitation phone number on their license plate.
Programmer sudden death, basically become an unspoken fact. As for why no one makes a fuss, we can only say that there will be a brave man under the heavy reward. The associated benefits, and even salaries, are really very generous. But nowadays, with the industry becoming more and more saturated, any career is not so good to do, can only say take care of your health, more important than anything else.
Then look at the nature of the Internet company, most of the shift, overtime to the early morning after the street is left with cabs and black car drivers on your most enthusiastic. Even if you are in a relationship, get together less away from each other, the other party will also consider: "What are you doing, why do not you reply to my message." With a home, career is delayed. With a career, there may be no home. This year's relationship, once the communication is less after the unhappiness abounds.
Long-term work in a high-pressure environment, the endocrine market, male function is reduced, and even sometimes self-suspected that is a "sexual impotence" of some people. The money earned, but the health is not, and no woman is willing to follow such a man to spend his life. At a certain age, you will have to face elimination. It is said that the mid-life crisis, programmers to a certain age will begin to work, will be eliminated by the industry, or transferred to the middle and low post, the salary and treatment of a drop.
At the same time also remind those other industries, programmers are still so, other alternative higher industry, more so, may be 30 years old has begun to exclude you. These days the most appetizing in addition to the system, institutions, state-owned enterprises stable, the rest can only continue to improve their own. Enterprise dismissal do not be afraid, business closure is more do not be afraid, as long as there is the ability to where there is also still a mouthful of food.
With the epidemic, young people are facing the most difficult employment season, the last century, college students are really popular, and now with the expansion of colleges and universities, college students are becoming more and more common, many college students studied for four years, and go out to change the industry is also abound. The first year of graduation, in fact, has been divided into people is very obvious, some people step into the welfare, treatment of rich large enterprises. Some people can only work in small and medium-sized enterprises. In this way, three to five years later, the gap between people is even greater.
I hope that this programmer will be able to get up the spirit, get well, a better tomorrow beckons to him. Come on, play workers, working souls, working are people!
Chongqing 39-year-old IT guy due to synovitis, hobbling in a nursing home. Every day and grandparents sunshine, chat, catch up with the drama, "to take care of the day". Good mood, optimistic, fat, comfortable.
Once the news came out, there were many different opinions. Not very friendly netizens said: decadence, degeneration, cowardice, mixed food and so on old. This is a bit radical, from the guy's demeanor, not so serious.
For one thing, it's cheaper than staying in a hospital, and the environment is better. Now is a "epidemic", the hospital is not just into the whole bad "new crown".
Second, as a tired walk, rest. Here grandparents are old "fairy", can give their own life experience.
In the past, in my neighborhood there is a combination of urban and rural "big car store", very cheap, or even free. The first day or most of the night, a lot of farmers brothers from home to drive a horse-drawn cart into the city to sell vegetables. They have to go into the store to rest for a while, and then have the energy to go into the city.
They said, the people and horses walked all night, are tired, rest.
They say that the people are tired from traveling all night, so they should take a break.
In fact, the farmer brothers is the "big car store", as the journey of the "station", repair and recuperation, continue to move forward. I think, we this "little old man", must also be so.
The leg disease is not false, there must also be tired of work, complex relationships, parents are not in the loneliness, loneliness of living alone and other reasons. Nursing home for him, there is no competition, no interpersonal relationship combing. There are fathers and grandfathers, witness their calmness, listen to their teachings, feel their state of mind, what is not good.
Wait for it, I believe, the guy rested well, maybe it is a lively and fierce dragon out of the world.
Don't stop me, I want to go. But there must be someone who doesn't want to go, or they genuinely can't go.
I have a colleague who is studying the relationship strategy. He is a leader in his field, and he has two words: "cozy". I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that. He also enjoys the comfort of making leaders comfortable, and enjoys the thrill of promotion in the workplace. This kind of people certainly can not go to the nursing home, go to the equivalent of suffering.
I have a classmate, is poetry and faraway people. The first thing I'd like to say is that I'm not sure what I'm talking about, but I'd like to say that I'm not sure what I'm talking about. Staying up all night is the norm, fat house is suicide. This kind of person also can not go to the nursing home, go to the equivalent of torment.
I have a teacher, is to forget the trivial life of the vulgar. I'm not sure how much I'm going to be able to do this, but I'm going to be able to do it, and I'm not going to be able to do it. He found responsibility and significance in the troubles of life's trivialities. This kind of person is even more unable to go to the nursing home, he has too many important things to do.
At the same time, I am surrounded by people who are open-minded enough.
An old comrade, every year to write reading notes can write hundreds of thousands of words (writing is really good, can be taken out of the publication of the kind of good); a young man, spent five years to write more than 2 million words of fiction (writing is really bad, pay people to see no one to see the kind of bad); a middle-aged man, can pull a breath pulling 30 pull-ups (practiced is really good, out of the fight certainly not lose).
Of course, there are also some people who have personality to the strange.
An old man obsessed with Buddhism, not long ago divorced his daughter-in-law, not a bad relationship, but to try to stay away from the red dust. But, the husband and wife are still living together, because the Dharma masters need lay people to be mindful of their offerings, which simply means that someone has to cook for them.
An older male youth, dead or not married. The reason for this is that with anyone who has been around for a long time, there are three kinds of results: one is that he thinks that people are brain-dead; one is that people think that he is brain-dead; and another is that they think that each other are brain-dead.
There is also an older female youth, just into the unit to the unit of the single youth to chase again, but who can not catch up. Not ugly, but just can't find a boyfriend. So, there is no reason, the initial reason is that there is no relationship with the matter of falling in love.
Another oddball is a leader, the most enjoyable thing is to fiddle with power, and is well versed in thick and black, imperial art. However, a unit of total **** more than a dozen people, his set of dragonslaying art truly can not find a place to use. In the pond to perform the Dragon Slaying eighteen palms results, not the fish are killed, but no fish with him as a friend.
I'm already in middle age. So most of the people who said that are middle-aged, or have passed middle age. This statistical sample is not generalizable, because the focus is on the circle of middle age. But with this 39-year-old programmer, there should be a lot of similar situations.
To say that going into a nursing home is an escape is to discriminate against the elderly.
As long as people are alive, they can create deals. If you can't get up from your bed, but you can still order a takeaway on your cell phone, you're making a contribution to society. We live in this era is no longer a relative lack of material, but a relative surplus of material. Therefore, as long as he is still alive, he can create transactions, which is good for society. Entering a nursing home has already created a huge amount of transactions. So, going into a nursing home is in itself making a contribution.
Which of the different lifestyles is better or worse? It depends on whether you like it or not. And since it's a question of whether you like it or not, it's a question of value. The question of value cannot be rationally deduced to seek the truth. Because there is no point in seeking the truth, it is not a question of whether it is true or false, but a question of whether it is good or not. Retirement in a nursing home, poetry in a faraway place, or being fat at home, which is better, which is worse. You like it as long as you like, rationality can not give the answer.
There is nothing wrong with nursing homes, and there is no need to disparage this lifestyle.
If you continue to ask, this is not a question of whether to enter a nursing home, but a question of how to live after middle age.
Or, if you go further, it's not a question of a clear age demarcation, not a question of middle age, but a question of finding meaning and setting goals for oneself.
The Neapolitan Tetralogy has two protagonists, Lilla and Elena.
Elena keeps moving up the ladder; in elementary school, she wants to get first place; in high school, she wants to work harder; and when she goes to college and squeezes into the city, she has to work her way into the world of the upper class. Her life had been school, the content was competition, the experience was a pass. She is proud to have gone to college, and she is proud to be among the upper class.
And Leela? Leila is smarter, more creative, and anything she does is so different. But because of her family, she drops out of school and lives an ordinary life working in her family's shoe store. However, the ordinary life gave Leila more creativity. She doesn't have to respond to the world, she doesn't have to compromise with life, and she experiences this rich world with her own genius intelligence.
Elena, who has made her way into high society, meets Leila again. Elena thought she could finally beat Lila. But she is wrong. Because she still can't beat Lilah.
Once, Elena took Leila to a party of upper-class intellectuals, and intentionally left Leila alone to embarrass her while she talked to the upper-class people. Elena thought she could overpower Leila, but she was wrong again. After the party, Lila says to Elena: You people just talk to each other in a way that no one understands, are you happy with them?
Lena disappeared at the age of 66. She lived only for herself. Elena used the inspiration Lena provided to write novel after novel, and became successful. But, why is the high-flying Elena always in a state of mind of self-consciousness when it comes to the mediocre Leila?
Because they have different meanings and different goals. There are two mountains in life, the first one is Elena, going to the best university, doing the best job, living an enviable life; the second one is Leila, using her talent to get close to the world, finding pleasure in learning and joy in the world.
The second mountain, to be higher than the first. It's the meaning you find for yourself and the goals you set for yourself after climbing the first mountain. Lila, on the other hand, either didn't care for the first mountain or didn't have the chance to climb the first mountain, she went straight for the second mountain. Elena, on the other hand, keeps climbing the first mountain.
What if we think of Elena and Leila as one person? For the first half of our lives, we are Elena; for the second half, we should switch to Lila. But, very sadly, we either do Elena and keep climbing the first mountain until we die, or we do Elena and are left with no way to get our hands dirty and no idea where the second mountain is.
That's the problem with middle age. So what exactly is the second mountain?
It's anything!
It is only in middle age that one understands that Lin Chong is egregious. Why is Lin Chong so egregious? Lu Zhishen has been living for himself, and his second mountain is fast and furious. And Lin Chong's second mountain is his mother, is marriage, is family. My teacher who found meaning in the minutiae of life was a Lin Chong. Family, that is their mission.
That old comrade who took hundreds of thousands of words of notes every year, he too was young, and was once a hard-working Elena. But he found joy in learning. That joy became his second mountain. Learning became his belonging.
The American writer Jack? London, as a young man, was a guest in the home of a rich man. He saw the rich man's bookshelf and met the rich man's daughter. For the sake of the rich man's daughter, he studied hard. But in the end, he realized that the rich man's daughter didn't like to read, so he couldn't join the family. However, he discovered the joy of reading. He discovered the second mountain of life. Reading and writing became the mountain he could always climb.
The mountaineer was asked why he climbed the mountain. The mountaineer replies: because the mountain is there. Not because the mountain is there, but the mountain needs me. It is not the mountaineer who needs the mountain, but the mountain needs the mountaineer. The climber commits himself to a great thing for which he can give his life. This is a kind of commitment.
But the problem is that many of us don't find our second mountain.
There are those who have climbed the first mountain and can't find where the second mountain is, who have passed Elena and don't know where Leila is, and are at a loss.
Some people have examined life, and feel that it is no fun to climb so, to change to climb another mountain, but do not know where to find that mountain, so bewildered.
Some people climbed the first mountain, also found the second mountain, but the second mountain is too easy to climb to the middle of the climb will not climb, so bewildered.
We don't have to find the second mountain too early and be Leila; but we also can't find the second mountain and keep being Elena. We should start thinking about the second mountain on the way to the first. This mountain should be serious enough, like a vow; it should be noble enough, like a mission; it should be complicated enough that it may not be climbed in a lifetime.
When I was young, I saw this sentence and felt that Paul was too bitter; when I was middle-aged, I saw this sentence again and felt that Paul was too happy. It is only in middle age that one understands Lin Chong's egregiousness, and it is only in middle age that one understands Paul's happiness, and they have all found their second mountain.
Chongqing 39-year-old single programmer living in a nursing home convalescence , attracted the envy of many of his peers , many elderly people do not want to live in a nursing home , this 39-year-old young man, why choose to go to a nursing home convalescence?
As we all know, the programmer's job is to make people very envious, the salary is quite high, my nephew is a programmer, to say that some people will not believe that my nephew is not a graduate of a prestigious university, he was only admitted to the Beida Youth Bird, I do not know what that school belongs to, nephew graduated from the Beijing to find a job, he has no background, no contacts, only every day on the Internet to cast a resume, three months later, he was accepted by a network company. He was accepted by a network company.
Three months after the nephew went to work, the nephew was promoted to supervisor, and all the programmers in that company are graduates of prestigious universities, but the nephew's business ability is not worse than theirs.
In a few years, my nephew bought a house on his own and paid off all the debts he owed when he went to college, and for a while, people thought that being a programmer was a very promising career.
The thirty-nine-year-old program in Chongqing, not very old, it turned out that the young programmer, parents have long been gone, is now single, two years ago he accidentally slipped in the home, the knee fell and injured, go to the hospital for a period of time after treatment, although the injury has improved, but the programmer is still not able to walk independently, in this way, he needs to be taken care of, and his aunt suggests that the programmer to go to the The programmer was a bit resistant to the idea of going to a nursing home, and felt that he was so young that he would have to go to a nursing home, which is a place for old people to go.
There is no way not to go, and finally the programmer still lived in the nursing home, after living in the nursing home, the programmer to dispel their original doubts, where the grandpa and grandma are very enthusiastic, and soon, the programmer and they mingled with him to listen to the grandpa and grandma to talk about their own life experiences and struggles, and the programmer every day is very happy, and the life is very regular.
There are a lot of people the same age as the programmer, they are busy working overtime at work every day, and when they see the programmer living in the nursing home, they can't help but feel envious.
The programmer temporarily lost his job because of the treatment of his leg disease, but after he fully recovered, it is not a problem to find a job.
Many netizens who know this have lamented: programmers living in the nursing home, life after someone to care about care, there are people to accompany the chat, three meals a day someone is responsible for the room is cleaned, they do not have to rent a room do not have to cook, easy to solve the problem of life, programmers living in a nursing home, it is really "earn"! "
This is the first time I've ever seen a program that was designed to work with a computer.
This young programmer, because of the need to live in a nursing home, is also a wise choice, if he does not live in a nursing home, they go to hire a full-time nanny, plus the cost of blocking the room, down to a month is a lot of money. But if he lives in a nursing home, all of this is easily solved.
Thanks for the nursing home, or else the young programmer would not have known what to do. There are many people who think that the nursing home is a place for the elderly only. In reality, the nursing home not only accepts the elderly, but also those who have difficulties in life, can also live in it, which is convenient for others, but also convenient for themselves.
First of all, people are really need to take a break, synovitis of the knee, the current life in the nursing home is more suitable for him. Life is regular, and a lot more smoke and mirrors. This programmer's parents have gone, they are single, if the body is not convenient in the case of long-term living alone is more dangerous, and this side of someone to take care of, slowly recuperate, nothing bad.
Second, the elderly is a great treasure. From the report, he and the surrounding "grandparents" get along well, he taught the elderly to use the cell phone, the elderly to tell him about life feelings and "that period of love", I believe that in the future after he left the nursing home, this period of experience will be a great deal of his life! The first is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what you are doing and how you are doing it.
Third, rethink your life. The life of a programmer is very intense and psychologically depressing. This nine-to-six days can let the programmer, rethink life. Maybe in the future to design a set of pension system, build a B&B, get a store, a different way of life, let yourself become a health and wealth of double winners.
I'm glad to see this question, because my son once told me that he wanted to retire at 40 and start a retirement life. This man who went into a nursing home at 39 proves that my son's ideas are not appalling, and if he did do that, it would not be a departure from the norm.
Everything has a cause. My son was in college, like a sophomore, when he had this idea. My son has never been a good kid who followed the rules. He skipped school, got addicted to games, got into fights, fell in love early, and eventually dropped out of school. At that time, he had just passed his teenage rebellious stage, re-entered the campus, and rediscovered the state of youthful vigor. Before that, he was the president of a 10,000-person gaming guild, and through the guild, he came into contact with all kinds of people. He talked to me most about some of the older than him, career can be said to be a small success, and some of the students of prestigious universities, these people have been his guild executives, so in addition to the game, they also talk about life talk about ideals.
The greatest influence on my son in the guild is such a few types of people. First, a few people who started from scratch, 30 or 40 years old, lived an ideal life, free to use a lot of time to play the game, challenge skills, or engage in extreme sports, crossing the desert, climbing snowy mountains, etc. These people's lives make him envious. These people's lives make him envious. Secondly, there are people with very special experiences and backgrounds. One of them is a young man of 27 or 28 years of age who possesses huge wealth, but because of hereditary progeria in his family, both his parents have died, and all his relatives are left with only an aunt who is critically ill, and finally the only aunt has also gone. According to my son later, this person finally sold his company, left the Guild, and disappeared from then on, which is equivalent to retirement, or retired. The life of such people has taught him to cherish life and to treat himself well.
At that time, his idea was probably still a flash in the pan, not really a sure thing. Recently, he suddenly said, when the company out of the epidemic impact, back from the dead, he wants to quit first, recuperate a bit of health. This time the idea is very likely to become a concrete action, I also raise both hands, because before the outbreak of the epidemic, his company just started less than a year, he and his two partners almost all year round in the start-up of the work, food and sleep are not a good guarantee. Since the outbreak, the company has been struggling even more, struggling to support so far, all of them have been working hard and worrying a lot. Work and psychological pressure are too much, the son also appeared in the gastrointestinal, joints and other problems, really need to recuperate.
As you can see, the pressure on young people nowadays is probably more than what we would have endured in half a lifetime. They are only in their twenties, but the intensity of the work is too much, too much energy and brain power of the overdraft has long been an indisputable fact. The routine work, life, slow pace to do fifty or sixty years of age retirement is a common phenomenon, forty years of age retirement is a minority situation, but for some people is indeed reasonable, because they are still young when they have been consumed by the average person half a lifetime of energy, but also to the need to retire in the situation.
Of course, my son won't be going into a nursing home, and will probably just allow himself to relax for a while before going back to his intense work. But his situation also happens to explain, or justify, the programmer who retired at 39, and there is a great deal of justification for his behavior. A major change of fortune, an unbearable drudgery, and a great deal of stress can cause a person to actively choose one of the ways of living that is now being talked about - social death.
There are reasons and rationalities for existence, and if he needs them, each of us should respect his way of living, because his pain is known only to himself, and we don't have the same feelings as he does, so we should choose to understand and bless him, and criticizing him is not the first thing we should do.
While the nursing home is a specialized care for the elderly whose ability to live has become weaker, the 39-year-old programmer's body has already had problems, and there are many inconveniences in real life, and the nursing home is the most suitable place for him, and there is nothing wrong with it. First of all, there are several reasons:
The programmer's parents have died, and although he is only 39 years old, his body has already developed mobility problems, and he needs a long period of rehabilitation, as well as someone to take care of him. His aunt has the idea to put him in a nursing home, and it feels like his aunt's advice is very wise.
After all, in this society, except for the nursing home elderly people are not busy, can have a little ability to work people are busy for the real life, the nursing home is the most suitable for him.
People who have knee synovitis know that this disease is not much activity, even the ability to take care of their own lives need to be served by others.
If you hire a nanny at home, it will cost you at least 4,000 dollars a month. And that doesn't even include groceries, rice, flour and oil, which is a lot of money when you do the math.
The programmer's salary also depends on the value he creates for the company is proportional, if it is a general programmer is the average salary of 5000 or so, so from the economic point of view, he into the nursing home life is more appropriate.
On the one hand, it doesn't cost much, and you get good care. Another point is that nowadays nursing homes and medical institutions are combined. The programmer's physical rehabilitation to play a more comprehensive help.
Although the nature of his work is free, you can not have to go to the company, a computer can solve his work problems, but people are group animals, most of them still need to have someone around to chat and talk, to solve the loneliness of life.
In general, the elderly in the nursing home, are experiencing hard times over the people, on the electronics is a blind spot, will not use the smart phone, not the Internet.
The programmer then played his unique network skills, so that the elderly to understand the outside of a larger human world, a broader world. For the elderly in good condition, learning to shop for what they need is also a great choice.
It's okay to play cards, chess and chat with the elderly in the nursing home, go out and enjoy the sun, and enjoy the beauty of nature given to mankind!
Life is not so boring, so it is still a wise choice for programmers to enter the nursing home.
The programmer played his part in the nursing home and enjoyed the satisfaction of being surrounded by stars. It is said that he lived every day, and was able to explain some high-tech intelligence for the elderly around him, and doubly pleased, very happy!
Also to some of the physically challenged young people in the community to provide a new opportunity to open a young people living in the nursing home precedent, I think it is very good good thing.
The world is cold, all thoughts are lost, no desire, the heart is old.