Shenzhen should have nearly a thousand psychological counseling institutions (including personal studio, etc.), how to choose from these institutions inside the reliable institutions, reliable counselor is indeed not easy. But there are rules to follow. You can use Baidu map, search for the residence or work near the agency, after all, the consultation is needed for a period of time, a week to run a time cost is also there. Of course, there are suitable institutions and suitable teachers, far away from some of the time spent on the road a little more that is also very worthwhile.
You can also go to the Shenzhen Psychological Counseling Industry Association's website to find member units, these institutions are supervised and managed by the Association, compared to no association to supervise the institution of a layer of protection. Problems and disputes can also be found in the industry association to complain, but if you are not a member of the unit, the industry association can not supervise.
Additionally, you can refer to the following points when choosing a counselor:
1, first of all, look at the background of the training.
Now the counselor industry, a lot of halfway, of course, not to say that the halfway counselor is not good. Currently active in the community, many excellent counselors are halfway, but we must know that the growth of psychological counseling learning costs are very high, many halfway people have money, leisure, and enough life experience, combined with not worse than those who come from the class, not to mention that many of those who come from the class have not been engaged in the counseling of the psychological class. The key is to look at their training background, if they just studied sporadically for a period of time in order to get certified may not be so good. If they have a degree in psychology it's better, if not did they attend a systematic study of psychology or a particular therapy. Note that it must be systematic, a therapy without more than a year of study is difficult to say proficiency (many need at least 3-5 years of systematic study). You can ask the counselor learning and growth experience, weekly, monthly, yearly study time is like? What is the personal learning and growth plan after systematically learning a certain therapy? If there are only a few days in a year to learn a certain psychotherapy, basically can say that he just understand, to master or doubtful. For example, I know that the full course of Imaginal Dialogue Psychotherapy requires more than 70 days of training in two years, and there will be nearly 10 times of intensive training every year, each training 3-5 days. Such a long period of learning to have a better guarantee of results, but also conducive to proficiency in the therapy. Some therapies will have certificates after training, don't be intimidated by the name of the title, a better way to identify is to ask him to get the title of the time spent and the energy invested. The title of a certificate obtained through three days of study is definitely different from that of a certificate obtained through three years of study. Worried about some counselors cheat how to do, it is very simple, you just need to search the Internet for a few of the therapy training enrollment notices can know to get the certificate of the process and requirements.
2, the counselor has no personal experience and case supervision
The counselor's personal growth experience is very important, the counselor is like a mirror, if the mirror itself is not clean or broken, then he will reflect the problem. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and then you can get your hands on some of the most popular ones. It is not realistic or possible to ask a counselor to be completely problem-free. At least the counselor himself should be able to know which are his own problems and which are the problems of the visitors, otherwise it will inevitably be projected onto the visitors. The extent to which a counselor can lead a visitor is not higher than the counselor's own growth, so the counselor's own growth is very important. Whether or not the counselor has grown to a certain degree can be felt in the process of counseling. For example, his acceptance and recognition of self, his acceptance of people and things around him, etc. can be generally felt through your communication.
There is also the case of the counselor himself receiving supervision, generally speaking, the counselor will have his own supervisor, that is, the counselor's counselor. In the process of psychological counseling, may bring out the counselor's own many problems, or because of some of their own psychological complexes, counseling experience is not enough to cause the process of counseling deviated from the correct treatment track, then you need to supervisor to supervise, pointing out that the counselor's problems, to give a better counseling advice. In principle, each counselor has his/her own supervisor or at least a peer supervisor (which can be understood as counselors supervising each other). Due to the slow development of counseling in China, the more experienced counselors in the society rarely receive supervision, and they even give supervision to others. But you can ask them to accept the experience of supervision in the early stage of the practice, this can be seen in their professional rigor, the standardization of the growth process. If they did not receive standardized supervision in the early stage of their practice, how can they rectify the deviations and mistakes that occurred in the course of their practice? Shouldn't there be a big question mark over his professional competence as well?
3, fame, age, fees, etc. does not mean that the consulting experience
To put it mildly, academicians have faked, others needless to say. Some people are very good at packaging themselves, good at advertising, good at using all kinds of resources to market themselves but does not mean that his professional ability is very powerful. In addition, many people, like Chinese medicine, hope that older counselors, this is not necessarily accurate. China's psychological counseling work has been carried out only a few decades, the clinical experience of the psychological counselor is not no, but they basically have long been not to take individual psychological counseling, their main efforts are in the training of new psychological counselors above. Therefore, older people do not necessarily have more experience in counseling. Does a high fee mean that counseling is effective? It is true that some counselors take advantage of people's belief that higher price means better quality. I don't think I need to refute that. If you are still in doubt, I suggest you go through the previous articles again.
4, dare to boast, cure all diseases or 100% cure
There are always some people in the counseling industry is contaminated with bad habits, in order to make money cowhide blowing on the sky. Counselors generally have their own areas of expertise, each different psychological problems or mental illnesses, treatment methods are somewhat different, in fact, the same kind of psychological problems, for different people, the method will be different. There is no single psychotherapy that can address all psychological problems, even if it only addresses a certain type of psychological problem, and I don't think there is any psychotherapy that dares to claim a complete cure. I don't think any psychotherapy can claim to be a complete cure. Of course, it doesn't mean that learning all the therapies can cure all the mental illnesses. What's more, there are some mental illnesses that have not yet been completely overcome. Besides, there is no way to master all the psychological therapies in one's lifetime, and it is even more impossible to say that one can be skillful and proficient in them. Can 100% cure a certain type of psychological problems this cowhide has blown a lot, cure all diseases of the cowhide is even more boundless. Remember that because of the eagerness to seek treatment and on these people when. In order to avoid psychological problems are not cured, but instead produce new psychological problems.
5, will only give you reasoning, advice
While many people seeking the help of a counselor, we hope that the counselor can give advice and opinions. But unfortunately, the counselor is not a business consultant, medical consultants can directly according to your situation to give suitable solutions. What a counselor does is to help the visitor understand what is really going on inside him or her and then make a choice or decision on his or her own. Counseling in the problem of a thousand strange, counselors are not God, it is impossible to understand every field, this is not realistic. In addition, more importantly, the counselor can not take the place of the visitor to make decisions, which deprives the visitor of the opportunity to grow on their own, the visitor to the counselor to produce psychological dependence, shirking the responsibility that belongs to their own, which in itself is a psychological problem or cause of psychological problems, so the counselor in order to prevent such a situation from occurring, usually do not give the visitor advice and opinions.
If the counselor is talking to you all the way through the axioms and life experiences, telling you that it's not right, you should think about it, you should think about it, and so on. You have to wake up and sober up, this is not what the counselor should do, this is the practice of people around to persuade you. This is very different from professional counseling. Leaving is the best thing you can do. For that kind of money, you might as well invite a few older friends to dinner and let them talk you through it.
6, free psychological counseling reliable
Now there are a lot of organizations launched a free psychological counseling services, really want to help the public, but there are free psychological counseling to achieve other purposes. I don't know how to comment on the heart, but I can say a few words about the effect: first of all, the counselor's learning costs, the cost of living and business costs we do not talk about, it is certainly costly; secondly, the provision of free psychological counseling is a short-term service, in general, is a one-time event, do not believe that you try to find every day, you find this organization or platform counselor (not necessarily a professional counselor) to talk to you, you! See how they react. We know that psychological problems do not arise overnight, so the solution is not a one-time cure. Professional counselors will be based on the visitor's situation to develop a comprehensive treatment program, treatment course as few as 5 times 10 times (such as an hour a week counts as one), as long as a few years or even longer before the line. Again, the counselor himself has to pay for a supervisor (much more than he charges for counseling), and if the counseling is free, then you can play with your imagination as to the likelihood of him receiving supervision. Finally, the qualifications and experience of the people who offer free counseling are questionable, mostly psychology enthusiasts or people who just got their license or some caring people. Experienced counselors don't have that much time and energy to do free counseling.
Psychological counseling is not a simple chat, the counselor for this investment of time and money is very large. It's only natural to have inputs and outputs. In addition, the payment can also be seen in a person's motivation and drive, not willing to pay the person their motivation to treatment will not be strong to the place. They don't want to pay for counseling opportunities they may not cherish.
7, the feeling of self is very important
After the above layers of screening is not necessarily guarantee that everything will be fine? As with the selection of objects, height 168, weight 50kg, fair skin, people beautiful heart also beautiful to meet the requirements of the should be a lot, but whether you have eye contact, whether the two sides are suitable (three views, personality, sex, etc.) need to get along to experience and observe. The same applies to choosing a counselor. Whether the counselor's personality traits are to your liking, and whether he or she has mastered the school of thought is specific to your problem, etc. are all things that need to be discovered slowly. If you don't feel good (sometimes it's because of impediments, etc.), then it's advisable to switch to another counselor. Referrals are common in counseling and professional counselors are able to understand and accept them.
Original by Heart Bay Counseling