Providing for the aged is a problem that most people will encounter in the future. When we get old, we will have more illnesses. When our children grow up, they may also go to work in other cities, or even though they are around, they have a lot of things to do. What shall we do then? After much deliberation, it seems that the only way is to go to a nursing home.
I also have a friend who is unmarried and childless. She thinks that life is too short, love is unreliable, and having children is a huge pit. She doesn't want to waste her limited time on carrying on with unlimited burdens. We talked a few days ago, and her idea was to go to a nursing home when she was old.
Is the retirement home really reliable? Or, is there a better way to provide for the aged?
This kind of question is as boring and has no fixed answer as which is more reliable: going to work or doing business.
to put it bluntly, it's all a chance. It's all a gamble.
when you meet a good nurse, you will do your duty, but when you meet a bad nurse, you will still be doomed with support.
If you have a good child, you can take care of it at home. If you have a bad child, you can't even go to a nursing home.
no one is superior to anyone with or without children. The life of each family is very different, and everyone knows how to live.
I have decided to live with my wife like this. Without children, there is a big expense. When I get old, I will merge my parents' legacy and my own property. A considerable sum of money, not to mention living in a nursing home, is enough to open a good nursing home.
finally, what is left is given to the most promising children in the family, and if there is none in the family, it is given to the outstanding talents in the society, which is the icing on the cake.
it's a castle in the air, and I don't know what kind of forward house will be after the house is closed, or an existing house that is beautiful, firm and of high quality. I choose the latter.
If there are children, all these properties will belong to the children in the future, no matter whether they are crooked or straight. Even if he is very good and filial to me, he can make me try my best to spend money. As a parent, my emotions will constrain me to spend less, spend less and leave more for my children.
Yes, this is selfishness. Even if you accuse me of hedonism and egoism, I will admit it with a smile if I don't have children in order to enjoy a better middle-aged and elderly life.
As for relying on having children to increase my "reliable value" in providing for the elderly, I also like to blame and laugh at people who don't have children. Is this selfish and egoistic? Will it be more advanced than my doctrine? I don't care if I don't recognize it.
the party who supports the birth of a baby says: the population is aging. Are you saving enough money to hire a care worker? Can the nurse treat you well?
The unborn one says, Your child can treat you well? Will there be a dutiful son before a long bed? People can't finish repairing their own blessings, but they can still serve you?
think about it carefully: it is not contradictory for you to quarrel with this thing!
I think what you both said is true-when you get old, you can't afford to hire a nurse, and the children won't have time to talk to you.
The correct way to care for the elderly is not to let yourself fall into the situation where you have to rely on nurses or children.
We have to learn from Academician Zhong Nanshan, who is in excellent health over eighty. This is the quality.
You don't need special advanced medical equipment to exercise well.
Pavlov, born in 1849, was one hundred years older than our grandmother. Live to eighty-seven.
great scientists cherish life very much, pay great attention to health, and insist on exercising and strengthening their brains. Work and rest are extremely regular, and I get off work immediately when I hear the bell, which is faster than the conditioned reflex of those dogs he keeps.
He knows very well that scientific research belongs to all mankind, but the body is his own.
Go home and lie down and rest from seven to nine, motionless, and see no one.
Get up and exercise after lying down, read books and study casually.
Take two or three months off every year. During the vacation, I will never work, never think, or even read medical papers, for fear of being tired to my brain.
cigarettes and alcohol are definitely not at all.
Most of the holidays are devoted to physical exercise, mainly gardening (not as light as watering flowers, the old man builds flower beds by himself), cycling and baseball games.
He hit the bat for eight hours for three days in a row, and wanted to play on the fourth day. He can still exercise like this in his seventies.
I never travel. I have meetings to go abroad. If I don't go abroad, I will stay at home and exercise.
He hasn't even been to such a famous scenic spot as the Volga River.
under strict self-discipline, Pavlov is in good health. I have a very good memory. I didn't start using notebooks until I was in my seventies, saying, "I'm too old to remember."
His hands are very steady. He is almost 8 years old. When he goes to an experimental operation, he can separate the dog's brain and spinal cord in 3 seconds. It is difficult for his assistants to enter 9 seconds.
You see, he has to hold his breath when doing the operation. If you are not careful, the operation will be over.
The body function is very good. At the age of 78, my father was ill, and later he had an operation and contracted pneumonia.
seventy-eight. At that time, life might have ended, but Pavlov recovered. Lived for another ten years.
learn from these great scientists together! This is the ultimate meaning of providing for the aged.
It's the weekend. Get out of your bed and get out of the gym.
once people can't take care of themselves, no matter how old they are, where they live, whether they have relatives or not, and what their economic level is, there is no quality of life!
A mother's love for her children is engraved in her genes, which is an instinct. Once her parents are paralyzed, her children take care of their parents, which is out of responsibility and education. The two cannot be mentioned in the same breath!
put yourself in the other's shoes. If parents are paralyzed, it is unrealistic to expect their children to take care of them for years while earning money.
So, I'm mentally prepared, and when I can't take care of myself, it's not a bad thing that nobody takes care of me to speed up my death.
In this case, my greatest hope is to legalize euthanasia in China in my lifetime. If it can't be legalized, I guess I will consider euthanasia in a legal country.
before that, I will make full preparations, both economically and psychologically.
let's not say whether the nursing home is reliable or not. Is it reliable for you to support the elderly when you have children?
if you can't take care of yourself, there will be no dutiful son before you go to bed for a long time.
The key point is that children are also busy, rolling, and rolling grandchildren. Are you willing to sacrifice your child's future to carry excrement and urine for yourself?
I won't give up anyway.
I don't want to live the life of being waited on. If I can't take care of myself one day, I hope I still have the strength to finish myself.
in my life, it is enough to be taken care of by my parents for a few years, and I don't want to drag anyone down again.
garbage time, no matter what, let me have some dignity.
Whether you live well in old age depends entirely on your health, and has little to do with whether you can enter a nursing home.
You are healthy and take care of yourself. You can do whatever you want, and your children will probably not abandon you.
You are in good health. It is entirely your personal choice to go to a nursing home. Some elderly people are quite willing to go to a nursing home because their home is too lonely.
once you are paralyzed and seriously ill, it's basically over.
with all due respect, if you have money, you only spend money on going to the hospital to continue your life. Before my grandfather died, I accompanied him for a period of time. My grandfather was lucky. His body was a disease caused by natural aging, so the pain was not great. The old man in the bed next to my grandfather suffered from intestinal obstruction due to illness. Every day, he screamed like a pig. Every day he was alive, he struggled with the pain. Can you imagine that he was constipated for several months? And does it hurt from morning till night every day
My grandfather lived to be nearly 9 years old. Before he got sick, he could take care of himself, watching TV and shopping by himself.
If you are in good health like my grandfather, nursing home and home are really only your choices for you;
if you are sure that you only take your own happiness as a measure and don't care about genes at all, then the conclusion is clear: don't have children. Having children will do more harm than good to your personal happiness.
The reason for having children is that many people think that the inheritance of genes is more important than the happiness of individuals. No matter how long you live, your individual will die in an instant, and your genes are a little more reliable.
There is no right or wrong between these two ideas, they are all right, but the premise is that you must think clearly and be willing to gamble and lose, and you can't want everything.
It's funny to want to have children and pass on genes, but also to enjoy the happiness of this world, and to try to "raise children and return to their roots";
It's funny that you want to enjoy the stability of this world without having children, and you don't want to fall into the fear of nothingness in the world before you die.
people who want both are the most ridiculous and disgusting people. The earth revolves around you. Are you the sun?
Therefore, the most important thing for a person is to think clearly about what you want to sacrifice. Protein membrane and gene, choose one and sacrifice the other. Moreover, after choosing the right one, there is no turning back. Children can't be stuffed back, and it is difficult to have children after childbearing age.
think about it, and then don't regret it. There are no wrong choices, only insatiable people.
It's really the day when you are "old" and lose your ability to take care of yourself and need to be "raised". Really, it's better to get rid of it early.
It's just like a 5-year-old aunt has to pursue a girl who looks like an 18-year-old. No matter how much money you spend and how much effort you put into it, it's also in vain.