First, the three characteristics of a woman's strong vanity
Features 1. The psychology of comparison is heavier.
A woman with a strong vanity always compares herself consciously or unconsciously with a woman with superior living conditions, superior working environment and superior family status. Moreover, this kind of person has a characteristic that he habitually compares his own shortcomings with the advantages of others, and the result can be imagined. To this end, they will feel that their lives are very wronged, that others will always live a happy life and that they will always live in dire straits, that others will always be so cheerful and that they will always be depressed.
Feature 2: Strong jealousy.
Super vain women are usually accompanied by very strong jealousy. No matter in life or at work, as long as you see colleagues who are more comfortable than yourself, or colleagues who have broader prospects than themselves in their careers, they will naturally secrete strong acidic substances in their bodies and inexplicably produce strong jealousy in their spirits. To this end, they sometimes imagine each other's sense of superiority as shady crotch interests obtained by improper means, imagine themselves as lofty models, and stick to the moral bottom line.
Third, lack of happiness.
It has long been said in Shan Hai Jing Hai Nei Nan Jing that "Bashu eats elephants and comes out at the age of three". There is also Tian Wen written by Chu Quyuan in the Warring States Period. "A snake swallowed an elephant. What is the big one?" According to records, the description of "snake swallowing elephant without heart" is incisive. Therefore, anyone with strong vanity will not be easily satisfied with the status quo. Their eyes usually don't look back at people who are less happy than themselves, and they don't look around at those who live almost the same life as themselves. Their eyes are always fixed on the elite groups who are better and more comfortable than themselves. So it is difficult to feel the happiness of contentment in life.
Second, the constellation ranking of women with strong vanity
First place: Leo
That's right! Leo was lying down and shot again! It's not that Leo's vanity is bad, not to mention that Leo's vanity is innate. Even if their hospital is not like this, it may unconsciously become a show-off in the eyes of others. Sometimes when chatting with friends, you will see other people's identical clothes or bags. They may say, "I have one just like you, but I bought it in a famous brand store in Hong Kong. Barabara. " Maybe they just want to share their shopping fun with their friends, but others sound like "you are showing off your fart!" " My mother's is also genuine! "
Second place: Sagittarius
The most misleading thing about Sagittarius is that it is too self-centered. I always feel that my own is the best and most perfect, and others' is either garbage or floating clouds. Although their eloquence is excellent, some inexperienced younger sisters and brothers think that this is a god, but after in-depth understanding, it is discovered that the shooter woman has said so much. Because the topics they talked about seemed to involve everything, and then they were full of experiences. In fact, many have never experienced it. They are all talking about other people's experiences. They just use it to blow water.
Third place: Libra
In fact, Libra really wants to be outstanding both in heart and appearance. Therefore, I want to be independent on any occasion, even if they are not qualified. So Libra's vanity got into trouble. Even though she held a LV bag in 2006, she insisted that it was the new model of a novel brand she ordered in Europe.
After all, drinking water will tell you that you are getting cold and warm. If you are very close to your husband, but you still have to do enough plastic surgery in public to show your love in front of everyone, other scandals, scandals and mistresses are rumors. The best way to crush and destroy your elegant image is to die.
How to overcome vanity
First, know the harm of vanity and always warn yourself.
People with strong vanity will unconsciously infiltrate selfishness, hypocrisy, fraud and other factors into their thoughts, which is incompatible with virtues such as modesty, prudence, openness and not seeking fame. Vanity people do good deeds for praise, are complacent about praise and success, and even cheat. They try their best to cover up their shortcomings, and they don't like and are not good at learning from each other. Middle school students are in the physical and psychological maturity, and this vanity is very harmful to middle school students who are eager to make progress and are growing up. Vanity. People are strong outside but weak inside, and dare not show their hearts, which brings a heavy psychological burden to themselves. Vanity can only be satisfied temporarily in reality, and long-term vanity will lead to the breeding of unhealthy emotional factors.
Second, grasp the degree of comparison and get rid of it slowly.
Everyone lives in comparison, so it is unrealistic to get rid of comparison completely. But excessive comparison is often the starting point of vanity, such as cool, standard, madness, eating, wearing, using, dividing, honor, parents, relatives, looks, strength, ability and level. No matter what the content is, if it is overdone, it may be possessed and pursue a false name.
Third, strengthen self-cultivation and read more books if you have nothing to do.
Not pursuing illusory satisfaction, from wily scientific lies to cheating in school exams, vanity is behind cultivation and sentiment. Qu Yuan said: "Good is not from the outside, and the name cannot be empty." Good inner cultivation and noble sentiment are the rocks to curb vanity. With this stone, we have the confidence to support our father's dignity-whether he is poor, humble or respectable.
Fourth, know yourself objectively and don't think too highly of yourself.
We should have an objective understanding of our strengths and weaknesses, neither overestimate ourselves nor ignore our weaknesses. Advantages are not necessarily where you are better than others, and disadvantages are not necessarily where you are worse than others. Moreover, advantages and disadvantages often complement each other, and there are no absolute advantages and disadvantages. If you can know yourself objectively, even if you are not as good as others and despised by others, you can flatter yourself and get a psychological balance, so you don't have to exaggerate or escape to protect your self-esteem.
5. Correctly treat social differences.
Society is hierarchical, and so are our students. Treating each other as equals and respecting each other is our ideal, but it is an objective phenomenon to despise the weak and respect the strong. The poor family background is really looked down upon by others. If we care about this contempt, others may despise us even more.
6. Don't live for others, but find yourself.
Vanity, you are living for others and losing yourself. I care too much about what others think of me. Once others give positive comments on themselves, they will be refreshed and full of vitality. Once others give negative and negative comments on themselves, they will become dejected and despondent, feel that they are useless and ashamed to meet others.
Seven, the correct values and outlook on life.
The realization of self-worth cannot be divorced from the needs of social reality. We must base our understanding of self-worth on the sense of social responsibility, and correctly understand the connotation of power, status, honor and the true meaning of personality self-esteem.