Keywords: college students; Sexual behavior; moral norm
College students' sexual behavior is college students' practice of sex, which develops from interest, yearning and longing to practical action. The sexual behavior of college students is undoubtedly premarital sex. College students' sexual behavior has three characteristics: first, it is sudden and often unprepared, which often causes great psychological pressure on both sides; The second is voluntary rather than rational. College students are young, less threatened by others, and most of their sexual behaviors are voluntary and irrational. Thirdly, it is repetitive, because of the influence of age and concept, once this line is broken, it will happen again and again. Almost every university has a prohibition, but it is no sensational secret that the incidence of college students' sexual intercourse is getting higher and higher.
1 Ethical norms of college students' sexual behavior
In order to meet the individual needs and social needs as individuals. In order to make one's behavior obey one's ideals and gain happiness and value as a human being. Human sexual behavior needs certain norms. Marriage is a direct result of the prohibition of the relationship between men and women. The final victory of monogamy is one of the signs of the beginning of civilization. In addition, human sexual behavior itself is different from the mating activities of animals. Human sexual behavior is a conscious activity, which is not only manifested as being able to recognize, foresee and adjust one's own behavior, but also as being full of fantasy and ardent desire. But also make people's sexual behavior meet the requirements of social norms and meet their own physiological and psychological needs to the maximum extent. The basic ethics of sex education combines two aspects of human body and mind, emphasizing the correct order between body and mind. Advocate sexual behavior centered on true love. When sexual behavior is promoted to the level of the mind and serves the purpose of the mind, it is sanctified, idealized, valued, dignified and ethical. Therefore, while emphasizing college students' self-development and self-satisfaction, it is necessary to advocate basic sexual ethics laws and regulations to regulate and guide the sexual behavior of contemporary college students and promote their physical and mental health development.
1. 1 principle of life value
Sexual behavior should not only be conducive to human reproduction. Ensuring the genetic quality of new life is conducive to life safety and health and preventing sexually transmitted diseases. A history of marriage development is a history of restraint and normative behavior. Therefore, we should try our best to avoid unreasonable sexual behavior and sexual relations that do not conform to moral norms, so as to achieve the goal of prenatal and postnatal care. At the same time, from the perspective of preventing sexually transmitted diseases. It is the basic principle of sexual morality to avoid the spread of sexually transmitted diseases caused by sexual behavior. In modern times, with the development of technology and transportation, people communicate more and more frequently, and various sexually transmitted diseases that were originally scattered in various regions also spread with the huge flow of people. Sexually transmitted diseases are a group of infectious diseases, mainly transmitted through sexual contact, among which gonorrhea, syphilis and AIDS are extremely harmful to human health. Therefore, in order to prevent the spread of sexually transmitted diseases, we must abide by sexual morality. Facts have proved that the moral restraint of sexual behavior is beneficial to people's life and health.
1.2 the principle of respect and love
In human society, different from animal sexual activities, human beings have thoughts and feelings beyond the animal kingdom, so it has become an important principle of human sexual ethics to love the opposite sex, especially the specific "one" opposite sex in sexual activities. In modern society, people's demands for the opposite sex are not simply carried out in a natural way, but in a complicated social way. People personify sexual desire in the way of love, and when sexual happiness is maintained by the spiritual factors of love, it is more sublime and has the persistence that animals do not have. In addition, the principle of respect is not only reflected in love with each other, but also in respect for yourself and society. First, self-esteem. In the process of love, you can't grovel and sacrifice your personality in order to get temporary love, and you can't fight for suicide or sex for so-called love. Secondly, we should respect each other. Respect each other's wishes and choices. Especially when pursuing each other, don't take some extreme measures, even whether the other party is willing or not. Finally, respect others. Each of us is a social person, and we can't just care about our own feelings in our behavior. We should consider the impact on others and society, and the respect that sexual behavior may produce for future generations.
1.3 principle of kindness and harmlessness
The so-called goodwill is harmless, which mainly means that sexual behavior between men and women will not harm their own or each other's physical and mental health, the happiness of others, the health of future generations and the stable development of society. Generally speaking, extramarital sex, such as adultery, although some people have some feelings with a "third party", conforms to the principle of "voluntary", but violates the principle of "goodwill and harmlessness". Because he (she) has hurt his wife (or husband), if he (she) is pregnant before marriage, it will do great harm to himself and his children, and it will also bring bad influence to society. Extramarital sex is immoral, unless you go through legal procedures, divorce by court decision or agreement, and then get married. As for other extramarital sex, such as prostitution, it will infect your wife or children with sexually transmitted diseases, making them innocent victims of sexually transmitted diseases. Obviously, this is an illegal act, which violates the principle of "kindness does no harm".
1.4 principle of responsibility and obligation
Sex is not only a right, but also a responsibility and obligation. Sex and morality, sex and morality, law and marriage are inseparable. As a rational animal, man has both the freedom of will to choose behavior and the self-discipline of will to control and restrain his own behavior. Self-discipline is the restraint of people's will, which is manifested in making laws for themselves and rationally controlling perceptual desires. At the same time, some people living in the real world and real people have rules, missions and moral responsibilities and obligations. People's awareness of moral responsibility not only comes from the understanding and recognition of objective moral laws and moral responsibilities by actors, but also comes from the adjustment and sequencing of external environment and the supervision and evaluation of public opinion. Therefore, people who live in the real world are always subject to external regulations and constraints. No one can do whatever he wants, and everyone who participates in sexual behavior has the obligation to be responsible for his own sexual behavior and its consequences. That kind of arbitrary, reckless, indulgent and unrestrained behavior in sexual relations can only lead to materialistic and irreversible disasters.
1.5 voluntary principle
In actual sexual behavior, the so-called conscious refers to both men and women's conscious and purposeful sexual behavior, and the so-called voluntary refers to the woman's voluntary. Because no matter from the biological or social attributes, in the process of sexual behavior, men are generally in the position of active attack. Sexual behavior is an activity carried out by both men and women without achieving a certain goal, which involves one party influencing the relationship of the other, so there will be differences between two parties taking the initiative or only one party taking the initiative, and both parties willing or only one party willing. Therefore, the ethics of sexual behavior requires that sexual behavior should be based on the principle of voluntary participation of both men and women. In sexual behavior, the man does not need to meet his own physical and psychological needs, but also should consider the wishes and needs of the woman.
1.6 principle of private affairs
The so-called privacy principle refers to the privacy of sexual relations and the rules of privacy. It is the product of modernity ethics. The principle of private affairs includes freedom, autonomy, non-disclosure and self-discipline in gender relations. Freedom and autonomy in sexual relations means that both men and women have the freedom and autonomy to choose their spouses, get married and divorce. The relationship between men and women is not open, that is, modern love is the closest combination of a man and a woman's body and spirit, and it is a special field that two people give and enjoy to each other, which can only be shared by two people, but not others; It can only be carried out in a space where only two people are alone, and it cannot be displayed in public. The self-discipline of sexual relations means that although sexual relations are free, independent and private, they are not arbitrary, reckless and indulgent behaviors driven by sexual instinct, but reasonable restraint of sexual instinct under the control of moral consciousness and social moral norms such as self-esteem, self-respect and self-responsibility.
2. Basic evaluation of college students' sexual behavior
On the basic evaluation of college students' sexual behavior, the author mainly discusses it from two aspects: essence and way.
(1) In essence, college students belong to a high knowledge group. They have a strong ability to understand and accept, the characteristics of erudition and compatibility, and the tendency to seek novelty and difference, which determines that they may come into contact with and accept more new ideas and concepts, including a large number of unreasonable sexual thoughts and concepts, so their sexual thinking is more active. Although the above-mentioned sexual problems of college students only happen to some college students, the serious consequences of the problems and their influence on the interests of others and social fashion can not be ignored.
(2) From the existing mode of sex, some young people's understanding of sex has changed greatly, mainly changing the marriage relationship mode from "love-marriage-sex" to "love-sex-marriage". Love, sex and marriage are often separated, that is, the result of love and sex is not necessarily marriage, but the purpose of love has diversified, and love has become a means to meet various needs, such as material needs, spiritual needs, emotional needs and sexual needs. Therefore, a love that relies only on passion and emotion but lacks reason and rationality will inevitably lead to helplessness and failure.
Although today's society is tolerant of premarital sex, a large sample survey shows that at least among young people in China, there is no tendency to be indifferent to chastity. The vast majority of college students still long for beautiful love, including sex, but sex should pay attention to conditions and norms. Most young college students are cautious about premarital sex, and so are they in actual behavior.