These two days, I was lucky enough to listen to the "Mental Health Course for Adolescent Parents" given by Professor Chen Mo, a young psychologist. This lecture mainly analyzes three groups: schools, parents and children. It was a spiritual feast, which gave me a deeper understanding of the psychological problems of today's children and adolescents and benefited a lot.
? When parents live, the problem of food and clothing is mainly solved at the material level. Now children's living conditions are not material, but spiritual. They have their own pursuits and doubts.
? Compared with when we were young, children nowadays are under great academic pressure. Parents are also very anxious, and the school is also very anxious. Children are with anxious people every day.
? In addition to academic pressure, children's emotional burden is also very heavy. In Professor Chen Mo's view, a child gets all the attention and emotional support from six adults in the whole family, which will actually bring emotional burden to the child.
? "Six people love a child, can you feel the child's feelings? Do you know the inner world of this child? Do you know the anguish in his heart? "
? Professor Chen Mo said that everyone has the instinct to repay kindness, but parents don't need their children to repay kindness in other ways. Children can only hope to return through learning, so they often have this idea: "I want to return my parents, because they are so kind to me, and I want to go to a famous university, otherwise how can I face them?"
? Ubiquitous anxiety and unprecedented academic pressure make children have a strong sense of competition, but their competitiveness may not be strong. When children find that they can't repay their parents by passing the exam, they often show the behavior of being tired of learning.
? Therefore, Professor Chen Mo suggested that parents should fully understand their children's academic pressure and emotional burden. "Now the child's psychological burden is what we didn't have when we were young. You must understand the child before you can really help him.
? Every family is eager for their children to succeed. ? A successful person must be a person who can't afford to lose. If he loses, he will come back and win in the end. ? You want him to succeed in the future, are you ready to cultivate the quality that you can't afford to lose now? ? If you want to control his life, you need him to have a self-control in the face of difficulties.
? As parents, we can get to know this generation of children again. ? Maybe the child walked too fast and we didn't keep up. Fortunately, we are in a dynamic era, which allows us to discover the future from a more open perspective.
? As a teacher, I think it is more important to let children have a healthy psychology and optimistic personality than to let them study hard. Even if the child has a successful career in the future, it cannot be said that the child has a good life without a healthy psychology.
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