Chapter 1: Women with "scheming" are psychologically healthier.
Chapter 2: Nine kinds of bad emotions make women sick most easily.
Chapter 3: Five simple methods: My emotions are my masters.
If you want to live a healthy and happy life, you must learn to release bad emotions and know how to vent, especially as a woman. So, how do women vent their bad emotions? What mental health care methods should women know?
Women with "scheming" are psychologically healthier.
Get love through affectation.
There are two kinds of hormones that regulate nerve and blood vessel functions in normal women: adrenaline and renal hormones that excite nerves and contract blood vessels; Acetylcholine, serotonin and so on. It can inhibit nerves and relax blood vessels. The contents of serotonin and acetylcholine in the blood of spoiled women are much higher than those of non-spoiled women. They are gentle and friendly, and they are not easy to lose their temper and suffer from physical and mental diseases.
weep
In real life, women are more likely to vent their bad emotions. They cry when they are sad, so that their nervousness can be released in time, thus reducing their illness. American scholars have found that when people are depressed, they will produce some bioactive components that are harmful to the human body. After crying, the emotional intensity can generally be reduced by 40%. People who don't like crying and don't use tears to eliminate emotional stress will affect their health and aggravate some diseases, such as colitis and gastric ulcer, which are all related to emotional depression.
eat snacks
Anatomy shows that women's stomach food capacity is one third less than that of men, so they eat less every meal and often have a strong sense of hunger before eating. In addition, adolescent women often have irregular menstruation because of mental stress and physical discomfort, which affects their appetite. They always want to eat some exciting food, so they naturally form the habit of eating snacks. This habit is very beneficial to keeping healthy.
A famous Japanese psychologist surveyed 5,700 women over the age of 24, and found that more than half of young women like to talk to their husbands or close friends about their inner pains and troubles, and they are in good health. On the contrary, about13 women use alcohol, smoking and sleeping pills to solve stress and dissatisfaction. Therefore, they all suffer from neurasthenia, menstrual disorder, hypertension and other diseases to varying degrees.
Nine kinds of bad emotions are the most likely to make women sick.
Negative emotion one: there is pressure.
Enduring continuous stress, that is, enduring the devastation of chronic stress, has obvious effects. With relaxation, your body will enter a long-term virtuous circle of strengthening the body and restoring fatigue. Memory and the accuracy of doing things can be restored. If we do not take preventive measures against this "intruder", we will be prone to fatigue, depression and decreased reproductive capacity. If you are under this chronic stress all the year round, high blood sugar and fatty acids will put you at risk of cardiovascular disease and diabetes.
Negative emotion 2: submit to humiliation.
It's hard to say whether to vent your troubles or endure them. There is a simple reason. Both of these practices have side effects. The University of Michigan once did an experiment. Several authorities shouted at the subjects inexplicably. Women with this disease are twice as likely as men to die of heart disease, stroke or cancer. Anger, although only a few minutes, but adrenaline, blood pressure, heart rate will increase. For a person over 50 years old, the possibility of heart disease or stroke has increased five times. Even a sullen face, including impatience, worry and unhappiness, will damage your health, because these emotions will reduce your immunity.
Negative emotion 3: have a big fight
When you are angry, you will feel that your blood pressure has increased by 33354, which is exactly what happens when people quarrel, and its influence will be long-term. A week later, your blood pressure will rise again at the thought of that quarrel. If you have had unpleasant things or quarrels with others recently, you'd better not hold grudges and forget them as soon as possible. Studies have shown that quarreling with your lover for half an hour can increase the body's self-healing time by at least one day. Couples who often quarrel will double the healing time.
Negative emotion 4: jealousy and anger.
Jealousy is what we often say. Jealousy is the most deadly, painful and uncontrollable emotion of human beings. The typical performance of men's jealousy is that others get their hands on the woman they love, while women's jealousy is suspicion caused by emotional betrayal. Experts say that emotion is a complex feeling, full of fear, stress and anger. When jealousy is rampant, people's blood pressure, heart rate and adrenaline levels tend to rise, while immunity, anxiety and perhaps insomnia will weaken.
Negative emotion 5: moping.
Depression, pessimism and apathy are all related to low levels of serotonin and dopamine, which are feel-good neurotransmitters in the brain. Serotonin can regulate pain. It is for this reason that 45% of patients with depression suffer greatly. Depression is also related to poor sleep, fatigue and sexual dysfunction.
Negative Emotion 6: Cry.
A good cry can really make you cry out negative emotions. Someone did an experiment to compare two kinds of tears. One is tears because of emotional reasons, and the other is tears because of the spicy eyes of onions. The results show that emotional tears contain high levels of stress-related hormones and neurotransmitters. Not only that, this kind of tears can also lead to a drop in blood pressure, a decrease in pulse beat and an increase in synchronous brain wave patterns. It is concluded that tears for feelings can reduce stress chemicals. If you can't release your tears, you will be under completely unnecessary pressure, and your body will be easily affected by anxiety, including decreased immunity, memory and digestive ability.
Negative Emotion 7: Sticky
Experts say that an oxytocin called "contact hormone" is often overlooked. However, it is this hormone that makes couples feel sticky, and then releases an anti-aging and anti-stress hormone called DHEA to repair cells in the body. There are also some forms of touch, such as massage, which will also help the body heal itself.
Negative Emotion 8: Tears of gratitude.
Whether you get a partner, an achievement, or even the rest of your life, as long as you are deeply grateful for what you have, it will help improve your immunity, lower your blood pressure and shorten your body's self-healing time. Dr Lorraine mclarty of the famous American Institute of Psychic Energy discovered the connection between emotion and body. Love, gratitude and satisfaction all promote the production of oxytocin, which is secreted by the heart. Whenever you open your heart and feel satisfied, the hormones secreted will relax your nervous system, thus releasing physical stress. The oxygen content in cells will be greatly increased, and the self-healing function of the body will be greatly improved.
Negative emotion 9: moping.
Depression, pessimism and apathy are all related to low levels of serotonin and dopamine, which are feel-good neurotransmitters in the brain. Serotonin can regulate pain. It is for this reason that 45% of patients with depression suffer greatly. Depression is also related to poor sleep, fatigue and sexual dysfunction.
Health tip: bad mood and cancer
A large number of studies at home and abroad show that long-term depressed and dissatisfied emotions, such as depression, sadness, fear and anger, are easy to induce cancer. The sudden death of a loved one or sudden loss of security is also the cause of cancer.
It is also obviously related to the therapeutic effect of emotional cancer and the recurrence rate of cancer. A happy mood is conducive to the treatment of cancer; Pessimism and despair often aggravate cancer. A comparative study of patients with cervical cancer shows that under the same anti-cancer treatment conditions, patients with correct attitude towards the disease and good mood have higher curative effect and longer life. Patients with anxiety, fear and pessimism about cancer will get worse and die soon.
Simple method: I decide my mood.
1. Evasion method
When people are in psychological difficulties, the first and easiest thing to do is to avoid. Avoid and avoid external stimuli that cause psychological distress. In psychological distress, people's brains often form a strong excitement center, and avoiding relevant external stimuli can make this excitement focus give way to new excitement centers caused by other stimuli. When the excitement shifted, we got rid of the psychological dilemma.
"Don't listen, don't mind" is the truth. For example, trivial matters at home make you "furious" or "depressed" and go to work; Terminally ill patients may wish to go to the hospital to visit dying patients; Facing the deep trouble of a hopeless relationship, it is an effective psychological self-help and an objective avoidance method to escape with great wisdom and courage.
In addition, we can also adopt the subjective avoidance method, that is, we can strengthen the potential mechanism of human instinct through subjectivity and try our best to forget or suppress our unpleasant experiences. Subjectively, the transfer of excitement center is realized, and attention transfer is the simplest and easiest subjective avoidance method. When you are in pain and depression, concentrate on doing something meaningful, and you will naturally avoid psychological difficulties.
2. Turn to view method
Not any objective reality can escape. Sometimes, the same reality or situation, if viewed from one angle, may cause negative emotional experience and fall into psychological dilemma; On the other hand, we can find positive meaning, so as to turn negative emotions into positive ones.
Legend has it that an old lady had two sons: the first son sold umbrellas and the second son dried salt. The old lady worries about her two sons almost every day. Worried about what? Every sunny day, the old lady will say: it is not easy to sell umbrellas on sunny days. So I'm worried about my eldest son. Every cloudy day, the old lady mutters: It's raining on this cloudy day. How to dry the salt? So I'm worried about my second son. The old lady has been worried and haggard, and finally fell ill.
The two sons don't know what to do. Fortunately, a wise man offered a suggestion: "Sunny days and good salt, you should be happy for your second son;" It's easy to sell umbrellas on cloudy days. You should be happy for your eldest son. From another angle, you won't worry! " In this way, the old lady really turned grief into joy, broad-minded and healthy. It seems that when examining, thinking and evaluating an objective reality, learning to look at the problem from another angle will often make people feel the painful psychological dilemma disappear.
masturbate
Aesop's fable says that if a fox can't eat grapes, he will say that grapes are sour. If you can only get lemons, say lemons are sweet, so it's not hard to feel. Then, psychology borrowed it, called this phenomenon "sour grapes and sweet lemons" psychology, explained the facts with some "rationalization" reasons, and comforted itself by turning malignant stimuli into benign ones.
Yes, the so-called reason in masturbation is just "self-justification", but it does have the function of maintaining psychological balance and realizing psychological self-help. If you can't get a job title at work, it's not worth a good meal. This time, you can't get another title. In addition, if you don't have a professional title, you can do the same. If you have real achievements, you won't be in fall in price. Why should we strive for a false name?
If lovers break up or marry such a heartless person, it may be a disaster. If you say goodbye to her too early, wouldn't it be a disaster in the future? 200 yuan is a year-end bonus, not to mention "eliminating money and avoiding disaster". Isn't it a blessing that the whole family is safe?
Isn't this the "spiritual victory law"? That's right. The spiritual law of victory should not be underestimated. There are some unpleasant things outside. If you can change, of course you should work hard for the good. If it is a foregone conclusion, comfort yourself, accept yourself and admit the reality, which is many times more painful than depression.
4. Humorous methods
Humor is one of the most helpful self-help strategies to get rid of psychological difficulties. It is said that the great philosopher Socrates had a very grumpy wife. One day, Socrates was talking to a guest when his wife suddenly came in and made a scene, throwing water from the washbasin on Socrates. How embarrassing is the situation? This is unbearable for a slightly bloody person, but Socrates smiled and said, "I knew it would rain heavily after thunder." His wife couldn't help laughing at her embarrassment.
In the middle of British Prime Minister Wilson's speech, someone in the audience shouted, "Shit! Garbage! " This is obviously the content of his speech. But as a capable politician, Wilson smiled and played dumb: "Shit? Garbage! Public health? Teachers, I am going to talk about this social problem soon. " In this way, instead of getting into trouble, he won applause.
Laughter is a spiritual disinfectant, and humor is a ladder to get out of psychological difficulties. When career and life are frustrated and communication is deadlocked, humorous behavior and humorous language can often make difficulties and embarrassment easy and natural, thus relaxing mental tension, easing atmosphere, releasing emotions, relieving anxiety and getting out of the predicament.
Keep a low profile
People instinctively raise their life expectations. Naturally, this has its positive significance. It is the psychological motive force of personal progress and social progress. However, "extremes meet", people treat life with unrealistic expectations. Perhaps it is the psychological root that some people spend precious time in the psychological dilemma of depression and resentment every day, and can't enjoy the happiness and happiness of life all their lives. The higher the expectation, the greater the psychological and emotional conflict, which is a conclusion of social psychology.
On the "official", on the "money" road, on the "material" desire, lower expectations; So should a career. Although "aim high" has always been praised, what is a society without sentient beings? Although "soldiers who don't want to be generals are not good soldiers" has always been appreciated, no small rank can form an army. Where is the general?
There is only one sun in the sky and only one Everest on the ground. Although the stars are not as dazzling as the sun, they are equally brilliant; Although the mountain is not as high as Mount Everest, it is still vigorous and uplifting. "Without the fragrance of flowers and the height of trees, I am an unknown grass." With the realm of grass, I bid farewell to my psychological predicament.
Conclusion: If you accumulate too many negative emotions in your life, it will seriously endanger your physical and mental health. Only those who are positive and know how to vent their nervousness can make progress in life and career. So, let's take a look at the methods that Bian Xiao prepared above to relieve bad emotions.