The world is the ocean, and we are duckweed and waves. If you can't enlarge your body, then you can enlarge your heart. The stronger your heart is, the more open your mind will be, and the bigger your pattern will be. Only people with a big picture can achieve great things.
"Mind determines fate". If you want to change your destiny, you must start by changing your mentality. People who are in a bad mood will not succeed. People who really have a big picture have the following mentality.
Recently, many old people in the community have gone to universities for the aged. Let's get together, dance, sing, learn calligraphy, play the piano and organize some meaningful love activities. I encourage my mother to participate. Anyway, the tuition is not expensive, only a few hundred dollars a year. Mother refused: "I am a farmer. I haven't studied for a few days in my life. There is no need to go to college now. "
At first I thought my mother was too stubborn. If she does nothing at home every day and doesn't go to the university for the aged, she will really get sick. But later, I learned that my mother is my mother, not someone else's mother. Her thoughts don't have to be exactly the same as others, nor do her words and deeds. If my mother goes to the university for the aged and dances and sings every day, it will not be my mother, and she will be assimilated by the people around her.
Everyone is unique. Why live to be someone else? The people around you are different from you. You just can't get used to it. Talking every day will only produce contradictions and will not really change. When you want to change others, you have entered a dead end of "interpersonal relationship" and will look down on anyone.
Everyone's experience is different, and forcibly changing others is actually the stupidest idea. People who really have a big picture don't want to change others, but respect their ideas; I don't think others are not pleasing to the eye, but I think others are pleasing to the eye You really don't have to disturb your eyes and your heart because of what others say and do.
When you forgive others, your mood will be much better. If you can forgive yourself, you will feel better. Everyone is not perfect and has many shortcomings, even more than advantages.
A person, always pursuing perfection, will become more and more imperfect, because you will become more and more unhappy when you look at yourself. For example, when you go to morning exercise in the morning, you find that everyone around you is healthy and walks like a fly, while you are in a bad complexion and running slowly, so you give up on yourself and force yourself to speed up. You run faster and faster, but you are more and more unhappy and your face is more and more ugly.
A truly perfect person is because he looks down on imperfection; Take your bad side as a habit. Your shortcomings are "harmless" if they do not harm the world or infringe on others. For example, you like to stay up late, knowing that staying up late is harmful to your health, but going to bed too early will make you unable to sleep. Then you should stay up late, as long as you are used to this lifestyle.
People with a big pattern will not only tolerate others, but also tolerate themselves. Being a broad-minded person can accept everything in the world and everything that cannot be changed. Many times, it is much easier to accept than to change, but many people just don't want to accept the truth.
Zhai said: "The orientation of life should be high, and the pattern should not be high. If you can't say elegance, you can't be a big deal. " A man with a big pattern either speaks elegant words or doesn't speak. Less talk is better than more talk. Keep your mouth shut and stay out of trouble.
Silent people don't pretend to be deep, but learn to observe carefully, observe everything around them attentively, see through, but don't say through. Everything is under control, no matter how chaotic the society is, I have a clear idea. Just like Mr. Feng Zikai said-don't be confused, don't fall in love. Not afraid of the future, not thinking about the past.
A person, the bigger the pattern, the less he likes to talk big and cry roast meat. Speaking is instinct, not ability, and silence is wisdom. If you always talk loudly, you will be bored, expose everything about yourself and give others an opportunity. A person is always eager to express his "high opinion" because he can't hold anything in his heart and can't calm down and think.
Life is a reverse journey, and we often wish others "bon voyage and smooth sailing", which is just a blessing and cannot be taken too seriously. You go with the wind, and those who go against the wind go against the wind. If both directions are downwind, then you are "embarrassed" about the freedom of the wind.
Whether a person is in prosperity or adversity is relative, not absolute. For example, if you lose a pen today, you will be very unhappy and even spend the whole day looking for it, which will delay your time and make you emotional. Smart people don't look for a pen, but buy a pen and get into work quickly. Maybe the lost pen will suddenly appear one day in the future.
There is nothing important in life, and all problems will be solved. The key is what mentality you use to "solve the problem". Some difficult problems are difficult. If you must get the answer at once, you will be annoyed. You know, many difficult problems need to be solved all your life, so you really shouldn't "rush for success".
If you don't belong to your circle, don't force it. "A twisted melon is not sweet", useless social interaction is not as good as being alone. The fewer circles you join in your life, the more time you have. Don't waste all your time on others, you should spend some time thinking about life and examining yourself.
In fact, the circle you join is a portrayal of your life; The friends you make are subtly changing you; Your position determines how big your circle is. If you don't join any circles, it doesn't matter, because you are you, unique you, special you.
When you become an excellent person, you will be rejected by others and become an "isolated" person. If you are good enough, others will curry favor with you and make you look like "the stars are holding the moon". If you have a big picture, you won't care about "whether anyone is buttering up." The road of life, past, present and future, has come step by step on our own.
There is a word called "eclectic". The trivial things in life are often a "circle", which limits your thinking and pattern. You need to break this "circle" and jump out of the circle to see the circle in order to live more freely.
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