As a condiment, vinegar has a history of more than 3000 years. The inventor is Heita, the son of wine saint Du Kang. He fermented the distiller's grains for 2 1 day, and just opened the cylinder head at the moment. The combination of "2 1" and "youshi" gives this seasoning its name. Later, the raw material for brewing vinegar became rice or sorghum, but vinegar was just vinegar, which was only used for seasoning. Jealousy is really jealousy. Because vinegar contains minerals such as protein, phosphorus and calcium, and acidic substances such as amino acids, lactic acid and acetic acid, it can help digestion, soften blood vessels, adjust the pH of blood, eliminate fatigue and be beneficial to health.
Waiting for jealousy means teasing, which means jealousy between men and women. It has been 1000 years since the Tang Dynasty. As we all know, Fang was a famous prime minister in the period of Emperor Taizong, and one of the twenty-four heroes of Lingyange. He is resourceful and resourceful. Together with Du Ruhui, he is called "Fang Mou Du Duan". But what you don't know is that Fang is a serious hen-pecked, who is afraid that his wife is like a tiger. He was afraid to go home once because he was afraid of his wife. Finally, the emperor sent someone to send him back. The emperor wanted to cure his wife, so he gave her two concubines and an altar of poisoned wine. But Mrs. Fang would rather die than compromise and picked up the poisoned wine and drank it. I didn't make it, and the wine didn't kill anyone. It turned out to be an altar of vinegar!
Since then, "jealousy" and "jealousy" have merged perfectly and become synonymous with jealousy, and the word "jealousy" was born.
When men and women get along, trust is very important. Occasionally eat vinegar, sweet with a little acid, harmless, but also enhance feelings; If you are always jealous for no reason because you are narrow-minded, it will make love taste sour, smelly and a little sweet, so sooner or later you will get into trouble and cause a crisis.
Therefore, we should be moderately jealous. Eating too much will harm others and yourself.
Gu Long has a very interesting explanation for jealousy, with a witty remark: "There may be several women who don't eat in the world, but there is no woman who is not jealous." Envy is the expression of love and a weapon to defend sovereignty. It can be seen that we are jealous because we love and care. If we don't love anyone, we will care about what others do.
The origin of jealousy allusions is said to come from the court of the Tang Dynasty. In order to win the hearts of the people, Emperor Taizong married a concubine for the Prime Minister Fang, which was also to eradicate the henpecked behavior of Fang's family. After all, in feudal times, women wanted to get married as husbands, and even began to take concubinage for their husbands.
I didn't expect Fang's original match to be a strong-willed woman. She not only rejected the emperor's proposal, but also drank the poisoned wine given by the emperor to show her determination in this matter.
Mrs. Fang picked up the "poisoned wine" and gulped it down, only to find that it was clearly filled with sweet and sour. Since then, people have combined "jealousy" with "jealousy", and "jealousy" has become synonymous with jealousy.
But now the popular language "jealous" is out of date and replaced by "eating lemons". Compared with sour taste, lemon is far more overbearing and violent than vinegar.
In fact, whether you are eating lemons or being jealous, you are indirectly expounding people's care. If the lover you meet never shows any jealousy and unhappiness because of your words and actions, it is dangerous. Either the other person doesn't care about you at all, or he doesn't like you enough and love you enough.
If you love deeply, you will naturally feel jealous of others, which is a direct manifestation of the normal psychological actions of lovers.
The jealous performance of girls usually has the following points:
1. Their dissatisfaction is revealed in their words. Your anger is malicious words and deliberate angry words.
2. The attitude before and after has become a big turning point of 180 degrees. Yesterday I loved you wholeheartedly, but today I'm tired of seeing you.
3. Refused to reply to her boyfriend's message, refused to answer her phone, and suddenly disappeared.
4. More seriously, you will break up with your boyfriend directly.
Many boys don't understand. My girlfriend was fine a few days ago. She loves to talk and laugh. Why does she look like a different person today, with a smelly face and a deep hatred for herself?
In fact, most girls have this behavior because she is jealous. You should carefully reflect on your behavior in the past two days and what you did badly. You pissed off your girlfriend, made her eat a big lemon, and then quickly apologized and coaxed her. Tell your girlfriend that you love her and care about her, and you can probably coax her in a few days.
Boys' jealousy usually has the following points:
2. Ignore you, don't reply to your message, or reply very slowly. The content of the reply is very simple, limited to 1-2 words.
I ask you countless times a day what you are doing, who you are with and when you will come back.
He refused to see you and told you that he was fine, but he deliberately avoided seeing you.
Finally, since you have a heart, you should keep a distance from your classmates and friends of the opposite sex in words and actions, which shows that you have a family and only like the stubborn person. This will more effectively reduce the contradiction between couples because of eating lemons.
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Vinegar has appeared in China for thousands of years.
As a synonym for jealousy, it frequently appears on people's lips, only after the Tang Dynasty.
It is said that during the reign of Emperor Taizong, in order to show the reward of the other party's achievements, Emperor Taizong wanted to marry a concubine for him publicly. According to reason, it is rare for an emperor to be in charge of a minister's family affairs.
According to the truth, ministers dare not oppose the emperor's "marriage".
But Mrs. Fang refused to bow her head, and "would rather die" than let Fang marry a concubine.
In fact, this statement can't stand scrutiny. Don't say that the emperor is "married", even if Fang wants to accept it, Mrs. Fang can't stop it. In ancient times, it should not be difficult for a court official with the rank of prime minister to marry a concubine. But let us believe a legend.
Legend has it that there was a fire in Li Shimin at that time, and people drank a glass of "poisoned wine". If Mrs Fang refuses, they will drink with "poisoned wine".
Only after Mrs. Fang drank it did she know that it was not "poisoned wine", but vinegar.
This also shows that Emperor Taizong did not really want to kill Mrs. Fang who violated the imperial edict.
Since then, the word "jealousy" has gradually spread, generally used in a pair of men and women who love each other. When one party has an affair with the opposite sex of the other party, or even just contacts, and the other party is jealous, it is often used to mean "jealous".
In fact, the "jealousy" mentioned here dates back to the Tang Dynasty. According to Liu Quan's Romance of Sui and Tang Dynasties, Emperor Taizong wanted to give a beautiful woman to the hero, but he was politely refused. Want to know why, only to find that Fang's wife is a famous "jealous". No wonder he dare not accept the beauty given by the emperor. So the queen was sent to do Fang's wife's ideological work in person, but it didn't work. Li Shimin was very angry, so he arranged for someone to send a pot of wine and sent a message: "I would like Master Fang to marry a concubine. If your wife refuses to accept it, please drink this poisoned wine and commit suicide. " However, Lu has no fear in the face of life and death. She would rather die than her husband marry a concubine. I saw that she calmly took the "poisoned wine" and gulped it down. As a result, she didn't die. It turns out that the pot is filled with mature vinegar. Later, Li Shimin said to himself: "I am still afraid to see her, let alone Fang Lingxuan!" Never mention beauty to Fang again. So the story of "jealousy" was widely circulated. Thus, the "marriage" between jealousy and jealousy should be traced back to the Tang Dynasty.
Everyone is familiar with jealousy, but do you know the origin of jealousy? Speaking of jealousy, the first thing that comes to mind is the love between men and women.
This allusion is related to the wife of Fang, the prime minister of the Tang Dynasty. Fang Lingxuan is no stranger to everyone. Fang was born in an official family. For generations, he was also a big shot. Growing up in such a family, his achievements are not low. He reads widely and writes in an extraordinary way. He is really a genius.
His achievements in the Tang Dynasty have been passed down to future generations. This is precisely because I took a fancy to such talents, so I found an opportunity to give my two beautiful women to Fang. It's just that Fang is notoriously afraid of his wife. She took two beautiful women home with trepidation. When Fang's wife saw it, she immediately pointed to Fang and swore. She picked up a feather duster and began to fight. The so-called "good news travels fast, bad news travels fast", which immediately reached the ears of Li Shimin, thinking that this beautiful woman was sent by herself, and the Prime Minister's wife dared to do so. That's not bad, so she began to try to suppress the young lady's temper.
The husband and wife were summoned, and Emperor Taizong let Fang's wife make a choice. One is to bring back beautiful women, and the other is to drink "poisoned wine". The lady is very strong-willed, and she lifted the "poisoned wine" in front of her and gulped it down without saying anything. In fact, Mrs. Fang Lingxuan drank vinegar instead of poisoned wine. Since then, the word "jealousy" has become jealousy among women.
In fact, jealousy is a normal reaction, and everyone will have it. In fact, it is a manifestation of worry and fear. Jealousy is actually a manifestation of promoting love in love, but too much jealousy will lead to the disillusionment of love, and jealousy between lovers needs to be grasped.
In the whole process of getting along with boyfriends and girlfriends, you will certainly hear the problem of which side loses his temper. Many people will regard jealousy as losing his temper, but it is not exactly the same.
Let's talk about jealousy first. In fact, the jealousy is everyone's, and we can't completely make him lose his temper. In short, it should be the jealousy plot including losing your temper, but the jealousy plot is not completely losing your temper.
Everyone is jealous, not necessarily from lovers. For example, give you a basin friend who plays well. You love him very much, and you think everyone is very cooperative. But suddenly one day, everyone got to know a new friend. At first, the three of them play together, and then you find that they will play behind your back ... At this time, people who are usually isolated will have jealous plots, jealous of why they used to play with each other.
But looking back, losing your temper is included in the jealousy plot, and the limitation lies in mutual admiration and mutual declaration and recognition of the relationship. Usually, it is because one person's posture, personal behavior and language to others make the other person feel that he is not so deeply in love, or that one person feels that he has not experienced the same tenderness, which will cause temper.
Jealousy usually causes serious and even extreme adverse effects. Generally speaking, pure acid is not easy to cause any extreme adverse effects. If there is any bad influence, it will only endanger the emotional life of two people, but sometimes it will make the other person feel that he is so cared about, which is good.
Among the three emotions of "affection, friendship and love", the most memorable one is love.
Love can happen between two people who are not related by blood, or you can make a lifelong wish just because you meet once.
Its unforgettable degree is unmatched by the other two emotions. So some mothers always complain after their sons get married: "I really married my daughter-in-law and forgot my mother."
Believe it or not, it is different from the other two emotions: the most unique feature of love is jealousy.
Jealousy is a feeling only related to love. It is the standard to distinguish whether a person has "true love" for another person.
So, what kind of love is jealousy?
The first expression of "jealousy" is "anger", which releases a strong jealousy.
In love, if a girl sees that her boyfriend is better for other girls, sometimes she will be jealous for a moment-"angry, or unusually angry":
She will either take the opportunity to say something sarcastic, sarcastic or radical, and so on. In my life experience, I have seen a woman "glaring at her boyfriend" because of jealousy.
Girls in love are "jealous", no matter what they say or do, they all contain the feature of "angry". Moreover, this is the most recognizable place in front of people. Anger at this time shows that jealous people feel "unbalanced in their hearts" in comparison.
In fact, not only girls in love will be jealous, but also boys in love will be jealous. What's more, when both parties are not sure that the other party is their lover, one party will be jealous of a certain same sex.
The anger of jealousy releases the strong emotions of the jealous. It shows the jealousy's dissatisfaction, complaint and disappointment with his lover.
"Jealousy" also shows that the jealous person hates his lover in his heart, and it is not a general hate.
Think carefully about the jealousy of a jealous person to his lover. This person is angry because, in this person's mind, "you shouldn't be nice to another opposite sex."
This person has a subconscious need: "You should only be good to Ta". In fact, this is a kind of "competition for favor", which embodies "love is exclusive" In love, jealousy often happens in an instant, and even makes the parties feel puzzled at that moment.
Of course, at that moment, because the jealous person suddenly burst into extremely strong emotions, with dissatisfaction, complaints and disappointment, jealousy shows that the jealous person hates his lover in his heart, and it is not a general hate. It can be said that jealousy is because I hate you and get angry.
Jealousy is a manifestation of "special care for one's lover", which shows the love in the hearts of jealous people.
A note in the Tang Dynasty recorded an incident, which is said to be the origin of "jealousy": in order to commend Fang's efforts for the country, Emperor Taizong gave him two beautiful sisters to take home as concubines. However, Fang was too afraid of his wife Lu to take this beautiful woman home. Therefore, Emperor Taizong sent an imperial edict to Lu: If you promise Fang to marry a concubine, it will be fine, otherwise, this is a cup of poisoned wine.
After receiving the order, Lu was not afraid of death, and took the glass and drank it off. Who knows: "Poisonous wine" is just "vinegar". At that time, many dignitaries took concubinage, but Lu only wanted to get Fang's love alone and would rather die than take concubinage there.
In fact, jealousy is a manifestation of "special care for one's lover", and Ta sometimes even shows "special narrow-mindedness" for someone or something. Nowadays, whether men or women, before or in love, if they really fall in love with one person, it is easy to envy another person.
When a person doesn't care about a certain opposite sex, especially when he has no love for that opposite sex, no matter what other feelings t a has for that person, Ta will not be jealous of that person. There is no doubt that a jealous person hates the person in his heart because of his natural love.
All in all, on the surface, "jealous" is just "angry because I hate someone"; Deep down, I hate that person because of love.
Combine the superficial meaning with the deep meaning: "Being angry with others because you love someone is jealousy". Many people only see the hate in the hearts of jealous people, but they can't see the love in Ta's heart.
Some people laugh at the jealousy of jealous people, but they don't know that Ta's heart has already shed a lot of tears.
In a person's life, if no one has ever been jealous of himself, then no one has ever really loved TA in the name of love; Conversely, if Ta has never been jealous of a person, then Ta has never loved a person in a loving way.
Why are men and women with jealousy complex often said to be jealous?
Let me tell a historical story first, the origin of jealousy!
There is a woman in Li Shimin. She is Princess Chang 'an. She often hears from her mother that Fang is the best man in the world.
Fang was a famous prime minister in the Tang Dynasty, who helped lay the foundation of the Tang Dynasty and devoted himself to its development and prosperity. He was Li Shimin's most effective assistant in governing the country, formulated the rules and regulations in Zhenguan period, and made great contributions to the social and economic recovery. He is not only knowledgeable, but also open-minded, so all officials in the DPRK respect him very much, and Li Shimin trusts him more.
As the first hero at that time, he was a big official under one person, but he was very loyal to his wife. He has never had a close relationship with other women, nor has he ever taken a concubine.
Princess Chang 'an knows that her father loves her mother very much, but as an emperor, she still wants to bring 3,000 beautiful women into the harem. She doesn't agree. Fang Lingxuan can get such praise from his mother, which shows that he is really a rare good man and has some expectations for him and wants to marry him.
At a banquet, the queen told the emperor what the princess thought, and Fang quickly refused. Li Shimin asked him what made him refuse such a good thing. At the banquet, a minister helped Fang Lingxuan because his wife was very strict and ugly, but she was a jealous woman. Fang was afraid of his wife, so she refused the emperor's long grace.
Later, the emperor specially gave two beauties to Fang, but these two beauties were soon driven out of the house by Fang's wife. When Li Shimin found out, he asked the queen to persuade her not to be so jealous. It is common for a man to have three wives and four concubines, but she is still unmoved. Later, I summoned her directly and said that if you don't accept Fang's concubinage, you can drink this poisoned wine. Fang is very afraid. Hurriedly knelt down and begged the emperor to let his wife go. The wife drank the poisoned wine without saying anything. Fang held his wife in pain. I don't think this is just the temptation of Li Shimin. That's not poisoned wine, but actually a cup of vinegar, which is the source of our jealousy now.
Therefore, in love, there is no fairness. The more you love, the more you get hurt. You don't like the slightest contact with the opposite sex, and you are jealous that the opposite sex looks as good as yourself. These are all manifestations of love.
Jealousy is actually jealousy. My heart is sour and I don't know what to do. I can't go anywhere.
When men and women fall in love and a third party intervenes, they often have jealousy. What is "jealousy"? According to legend, Li Shimin, Emperor Taizong, gave several beautiful women concubines in Fang, but the room was not accepted. I expected that Fang's wife was a shrew and refused to agree. So Emperor Taizong sent eunuchs to order Mrs. Fang with a pot of "poisoned wine". Instead of accepting these beautiful concubines, they were given poisoned wine. Fearless, the lady took the "poisoned wine" and gulped it down. As a result, she didn't die. It turned out that the pot was filled with vinegar, so the emperor used it to test her and made a joke. So the story of "jealousy" has been passed down through the ages as an interesting story. In modern life, some people will be jealous and jealous when they see others being praised or rewarded, and they are also dubbed "jealous". People who are often jealous are also dubbed "jealous".
There are stories of jealousy all over the world, and novels often describe the mutual jealousy between men and women to reflect true love. In A Dream of Red Mansions, there is a passage describing Lin Daiyu's jealousy, which reflects her heartfelt love for Baoyu. Men and women in love often unconsciously do some little tricks to test whether the other party is jealous or really likes themselves. I think people who have been in love will naturally have a deep understanding [Smiles]
Jealousy is a normal psychological reaction and a different expression of love and care. Subconsciously, it is a kind of protection, with exclusive feelings and fear of losing. In love or marriage, if two people turn a blind eye and are not jealous at all, love will be tasteless. Eating vinegar occasionally may "eat" a vast world for a mediocre and trivial life, but there are too many words of jealousy. Emotionally, jealousy is a common psychological feeling. Even if you love each other deeply, one party will be jealous because of an event. Rational jealousy will not lead people to take extreme measures, but will only make you deal with emotional problems with love, that is, make up your love and tie each other firmly with more perfect love.
It involves an allusion that Fang's wife, a famous figure in the Tang Dynasty, was jealous and all the adults in the room were henpecked. I wanted to send some maids to Fang, but his wife refused, so she went to the imperial court. So Li Shimin wanted to scare this jealous woman. I ordered someone to pour a bowl of vinegar, saying it was poisoned wine. If Mrs. Fang doesn't let Fang marry a concubine, she will drink the poisoned wine and forget about it. I thought everyone was afraid of death, but Mrs. Fang was not afraid at all and swallowed it in one gulp.
So the story of jealousy spread.