The main reason for teenagers' "Internet addiction" is that children are not clear about their own development and orientation, and lack self-control ability. Once children have interpersonal communication barriers for various reasons and lack normal communication with parents, classmates and society, they will gradually close their hearts, and then replace the real environment with virtual time and space and indulge in the network. Therefore, starting with changing children's living and learning environment, creating a warm, harmonious and positive realistic environment for them is a breakthrough point to help children quit "Internet addiction".
To do this well, in addition to educating children to manage themselves and strengthening the training of psychological self-control, schools should also organize colorful summer camps, winter camps and social practice activities during holidays to "compete" with the internet addiction world in real life and rediscover children's spiritual garden. Since the winter vacation this year, astronomical societies in several high schools in Pudong New Area have organized students to observe Jupiter in Tianhuangping, and volunteers from middle school students have also appeared on the subway line 6 site. These activities guide teenagers to love natural science and pay attention to social life, and play a positive role in promoting children's spiritual growth. When parents are free, they can also take their children out for a walk, visit relatives and friends, and communicate with their children as much as possible to enrich their family life-a child who loves nature and life will not indulge in an illusory world. For some teenagers with serious "Internet addiction", timely and effective psychological counseling and psychotherapy are needed. Lu
Find out the cause of "illness" and prescribe the right medicine.
There are many reasons for children's internet addiction, but the main reasons are usually: too long online time, psychological barriers and monotonous leisure life.
Many parents are worried that their children's study and life will be affected by Internet addiction. When you are in a hurry, you will "prescribe medicine for illness" to discipline your children: some will not let your children surf the Internet, some will abuse the owners of Internet cafes, and even accuse the websites. In fact, all these practices, because there is no right medicine, are not only difficult to receive the expected results, but will make children rebellious. In my opinion, as parents, we must discipline our children in a scientific way and find out the "disease" causes of their internet addiction in an orderly manner. If children spend too much time online, they should control the online time in time; If the child has psychological barriers, it should be removed in time; If children's leisure life is too monotonous, they should enrich their leisure life. In short, we must analyze the specific situation, take appropriate disciplinary measures because of "illness", and never "prescribe drugs indiscriminately."
Ask the child to introduce himself.
I remember that when my children were in high school, they were addicted to the Internet for a while, but we didn't take strict prohibition, because it was easy to have rebellious mentality, which not only didn't help, but made things go in another direction. So, on the one hand, communicating with children shows that surfing the Internet is not a bad thing. NPC [Weibo] must learn to surf the Internet, otherwise he will be eliminated by the times, and on the other hand, his online time will be appropriately reduced.
At the same time, communicate with the teacher in time, and strive to let the teacher assign a composition topic to the students, the topic is about Internet addiction, so that students can pay attention to the problem of Internet addiction. Later, a newspaper held an essay contest on the topic of "Internet addiction". We mobilized our children to write essays, saying that they would have a certain amount of online time as a reward after the article was completed, which stimulated his enthusiasm. Later, the application article he wrote was published in the newspaper. We copied the article and put it under the glass of the desk as a souvenir. In fact, it is to remind children to keep their words and always remind themselves. Slowly, with the passage of time, his enthusiasm for the Internet was greatly reduced, and he finally passed the college entrance examination [Weibo] and achieved better results than expected.
This practice of letting children analyze themselves and explain themselves is conducive to children who are addicted to the internet to analyze themselves and transform themselves. Although it is difficult, the final outcome will be better than expected. And blind opposition, the effect is often bad.
Social schools and families should pay close attention to * * *
Facing the temptation of the internet, it is the unshirkable responsibility and obligation of society (street community), schools and families to help and guide teenagers to prevent and quit "Internet addiction" ("online dating") and constantly enhance their ability to resist "Internet temptation".
Teenagers are the future and hope of the country, and it is the responsibility of all walks of life to train them to grow healthily and healthily. For teenagers infected with "Internet addiction", all parties concerned should pay attention to and care for them, the media should increase publicity, education and guidance, and qualified communities should organize them to carry out various forms of educational and healthy cultural and recreational activities on a regular basis (especially in winter and summer vacations) to distract their "Internet addiction" thoughts.
Schools should care for them wholeheartedly, guide them to establish a correct outlook on life and values, communicate with parents in time once they find "signs", actively cooperate with parents to do a good job in transforming students, and help teenagers get out of the misunderstanding of "Internet addiction" as soon as possible.
Family is the cell of society, and parents are the first teachers of children. Many surveys have found that the formation of teenagers' "Internet addiction" is closely related to the lack and improper family education. Among the social reasons of teenagers' Internet addiction, parents care less about their children, spend less time with them and have poor parent-child relationship. On the one hand, some parents spoil too much, on the other hand, they are too strict and eager for quick success. As long as their children get good grades, they ignore the cultivation of their children's character, which leads to problems such as being withdrawn, tired of learning and indifferent. Parents should actively create a harmonious, happy and equal family atmosphere, minimize the blame on teenagers with Internet addiction, communicate more equally, make behavioral contracts and plans for surfing the Internet with their children, form a good self-discipline and supervision atmosphere, and give timely encouragement and encouragement. This is a good way to quit Internet addiction. Chai Tao
Paternalistic education is not desirable.
Faced with many teenagers who are addicted to the internet (especially online dating), parents should first adjust their mentality and change the "paternalistic" rude and simple education method. Once you find that your child is suffering from "Internet addiction", don't beat and scold, be cynical; There is no need to panic and blindly think that children are not good at school ... Parents should pay more attention to their children at ordinary times, pay attention to observing their "internet addiction" dynamics, and treat their children as intimate friends for reasoning and persuasion. Communicate and communicate with them on an equal footing, so that they can truly realize the disadvantages and harm of "Internet addiction", let them consciously get rid of the trouble of "Internet addiction" verbally and persuasively, put their main energy and thoughts on their study and work, and abandon "Internet addiction" ideologically. And don't "educate" children by rough and repressive means, otherwise it will be counterproductive in nine cases out of ten.
Help children surf the internet healthily
Network is an important means for people to acquire, process, transmit and apply information resources, and an important way to acquire knowledge, which brings unprecedented convenience and benefits to people and improves the speed and quality of people's work, study and life. For children, the network can broaden their horizons, learn a lot of things that books, classrooms and schools can't learn, extend the classroom and explore their own specialties and interests. Therefore, parents must not prohibit or block their children from surfing the Internet. Instead, they should encourage and praise them.
However, due to the openness and inclusiveness of the network, all kinds of bad information such as violence, murder, pornography and fraud coexist, which will inevitably have some negative effects. At the same time, some children have poor self-control ability and are often addicted to the Internet. Therefore, parents should strengthen the education and guidance for their children to surf the Internet.
To educate and guide children to surf the Internet, we should first pay attention to the choice of content, supervise children to go to healthy and beneficial websites, and don't involve bad information. You can install "green broadband" to ensure the health of network content. At the same time, we should also pay attention to moderate time, don't let children stay in front of the computer for a long time, and control the online time of children within one hour at a time.
In addition, parents should set an example. To tell the truth, you must be honest with yourself. As a child's first teacher, parents should set a good example for their children. Parents are addicted to online games, online chatting, and even often visit bad websites. Children are bound to "see in their eyes and remember in their hearts" and follow suit, and they will follow suit once they have the opportunity. Fuyang, Chaozhou, Guangdong
Guide children to make friends carefully.
Many professional surveys and actual situations show that some teenagers' obsession and addiction to the online world is related to the deviation of children's immature concept of making friends.
Obsessed with online games is a typical example of indulging in online virtual world. However, nowadays, many online games are not only personal behaviors, but also single-player games to complete so-called various tasks, but three or five friends or online colleagues put together at a certain moment in order to complete a certain task. Most of these tasks are bloody pictures and violent actions such as killing or occupying land, which is very unfavorable to children's physical and mental growth. When a child is addicted to the whirlpool of online games, there may be a group of children wandering repeatedly in this bottomless virtual whirlpool. These children may have a wrong view of making friends and mistakenly think that they have the same goals as their peers and work together. They don't know what they are doing, but simply think that fighting together is true friendship. I think that kind of friendship will only lead people astray.