However, I can understand that your parents may not agree with you to go to psychological counseling, and they may have some misunderstandings or concerns, such as:
They think that psychological counseling is a scam and can't help, or that psychological counseling is for people with serious mental illness. They think you have no problem. It may be a temporary sadness, but it will get better after a while. Now you just don't work hard enough or are not strong enough. They worry that your going to psychological counseling will affect your study or social image. They have not been exposed to this disease, and the old cognition formed over the years will make them think of avoiding medical treatment. They think that the cost of counseling is too high, so it is unnecessary to spend this money, or they have no time to accompany you. These are some common reasons, but they don't mean they don't care about you and don't love you. They may just lack the correct understanding and trust of psychological counseling. . .
If you want to persuade them to take you to counseling, you need to do some preparatory work and communication skills, such as:
Understand the basic situation of psychological counseling, such as what psychological counseling is, what benefits it has, how long it takes, how much it costs, and so on. Emphasize the necessity of psychological counseling, so that you can explain it to them more confidently and convincingly. Understand the severity of your psychological problems, such as what symptoms, what aspects have affected you, how long it has lasted, and so on. Speak directly about your discomfort, be patient in the process of communication, and don't make a scene with your parents (it may be counterproductive). Find some reliable evidence or authoritative support, for example, you can do some psychological evaluation, or ask the school's psychological teacher, class teacher, relatives and friends to help convince you. If they don't listen to their friends, let their peers talk to them, which can more effectively dispel their doubts and worries. Or ask a psychological teacher to help convince your parents that a qualified psychological teacher will start doing this without asking, and he will be better at how to do psychological science for his parents than you. You can take the initiative to contact the psychological teacher in your school. When psychological teachers can't help you, they will usually refer you to an institution that can provide professional psychological help, such as a local psychological counseling station, social work agency or mental health center. Communicate with them at the right time and way, for example, when they are more relaxed, talk to them in a peaceful and respectful tone. In this way, you can establish a relationship of trust and cooperation more easily (individuals have tried it, but it is not really effective, and their ideas are deeply rooted and difficult to correct, but what if it works for you). Of course, these things can't be done at once. You need patience and persistence. If they still disagree, don't be discouraged or angry. You can also seek help from other channels, such as:
Call some free or low-cost psychological hotlines, such as 12355 youth service desk and 12320 public health hotline. So you can get some timely and professional guidance and support. (Free psychological consultation calls in all provinces and cities are shown in pictures) Watch some articles or videos about mental health on some credible websites or platforms, such as Zhihu and TED. In this way, you can learn some methods and skills of self-repair and adjustment. Join some positive social groups or activities, such as volunteers, interest groups, sports clubs, etc. In this way, I can make some like-minded friends and increase my social support and sense of belonging. Exercise can secrete dopamine and sweat while exercising, which can effectively improve my mood (that's how I recovered from my lovelorn love). Remember, you have the right to ask for help, and the decision to consult or not is in your own hands!