And those children who grow up in an environment full of violence, abuse and slapstick will certainly hide some unhealthy psychology in their hearts. Maybe they can't show it at ordinary times, but when they meet some things, some of their shortcomings will naturally be exposed.
Psychological research also shows that the harmony between parents determines children's mental health and academic performance. But there are always some people who don't believe it I wonder if we, as adults, will hate some behaviors of our parents, but think about it carefully, will things we hate inevitably be grafted on ourselves?
Yes, this is probably the importance of family. Even if you hate your parents' behavior because you have lived in that environment for a long time, you already have such a shadow on your body. In order to prevent our children from going back to the old ways, as parents, we must get rid of bad habits and create a warm and happy family for our children.
1, withdrawn and world-weary.
Some couples have been quarrelling since their wedding day. Even a newborn in the family failed to stop them. Friends and old people advise them to live a good life and not listen to divorce. It seems that only quarreling is the fun in their spare time.
Children can't understand what their parents are doing when they are one or two years old, but by the age of three or four, they are sensitive and fragile and need good guidance from their parents. At this time, if parents quarrel all the time, their personality will become more and more withdrawn.
At the same time, with the growth of age, children who grow up in such families tend to go to extremes, either not interacting with others or going on the road of breaking the law. Few children can step into the right path and become talents in society.
2, grumpy, impatient
Children will learn from their parents' behavior at home. Some parents think that what their children learn at school does not need them to teach anything, but it is not.
What is taught in school is knowledge from books. In the final analysis, it is a skill, which can be said to have little influence on the development of children's personality. What is more important in this respect is what parents do, what kind of parents children come into contact with at home and what kind of performance they will have in the future.
Some parents are at odds at home, and they will beat each other in addition to abusing each other. Every time we quarrel at home, chickens fly and dogs jump all over the yard. What will the children think? Maybe I will be afraid when I meet him for the first time, but I will get used to it and even learn it over time.
Children who grow up in such a family will show violent tendencies at school. Three days later, the teacher asked the parents. They still don't know why the child is so naughty, and they don't find out that the child has been taught badly until they grow up. At this time, it is too late to regret.
3, inner inferiority, but like to compare.
Often, the more a person lacks, the more he will show off. Children who grow up in a family where their parents are not harmonious will feel sad for a long time because of inferiority.
But in front of outsiders, they don't like to expose such shortcomings, and they are very vain. Because they know that without a happy family, others will gossip, and no one will look down on a family that always quarrels.
There are also some children who like to play outside in groups because there are always quarrels at home. Even though they are on holiday, they don't want to set foot in this house. When people ask, they will not admit that they don't want to go home, but look for various reasons. These children create the illusion of family happiness in front of others, but only they know what is going on.
Children from unhappy families have been looking for happiness all their lives, but they often can't get happiness all their lives. Do you blame yourself for seeing your parents here? Make up before it's too late.
1, communicate with each other and respect each other.
Communication is needed between husband and wife, parents and children, because only through communication can we know what the other party needs and what to do next. Going it alone won't solve any problems, and it will even make things worse.
In daily life, you might as well learn to communicate with your partner and children and become friends with each other. Adults will benefit from it and children will learn from it. It is not difficult to imagine that children who grow up in such a family will be very confident, not arrogant and impetuous in dealing with people, and are likely to achieve great things.
2, talk calmly, even if you are angry again, don't start work.
Presumably, we all know the idiom "making money with kindness". Everyone has done something wrong, whether adults or children. One party has done something wrong, so we must calm down and solve the problem. Speak calmly and tell them what's wrong, instead of yelling when he comes up.
Many people are grumpy under the influence of their family background. They want to throw things and hit people whenever something happens. We must avoid this kind of behavior. Even if you are angry again, you should hold back your anger and vent it reasonably, such as going out for a walk, calming down and going home to solve the problem.
We are not born good parents, but we can learn to be good parents for our children, can't we? Everything has a process. What is terrible is not the bad habit on us, but that we hate it and don't change it. For the future of children and the happiness of future generations, let's create a happy family environment from now on.