First, find yourself.
Why do you want to find yourself? Finding yourself will provide the necessary direction for your future behavior. When I was addicted before, I used various excuses and lies to decorate my addiction. These excuses and lies are often covered by other excuses and lies Get rid of these excuses and lies, put down all kinds of masks and find your true self, so that you can live in the real world and really face your addiction.
Live according to your true self, instead of simply listening to your brain and psychological desires. Bad desires in the brain and psychology often give people illusions, often make people feel confused and contradictory, thus making people feel confused about what they really want. What do you really need? Listen to your true heartfelt voice, act according to the principle of sincerity, and understand what you really want and need.
Only by finding yourself correctly can we effectively pay attention to our own desires and their possible consequences, thus effectively curbing and eliminating bad desires. Leaving to find yourself is like the lack of necessary early warning system for desire, which will inevitably lead to various adverse consequences.
Second, adjust yourself.
Why should we adjust ourselves? The fundamental purpose of adjusting yourself is to correctly handle yourself now. When the past is addictive, it is buried in a set of addictive mentality and external relations. What is important now is to adjust your mentality and foreign relations.
Why should we adjust our mentality? Addicts used to live in an addictive negative state of mind. We always take the attitude of complaining about the harm caused by addiction, blaming ourselves, others, society and even complaining that addiction has not brought us good luck. Abstinence from addiction requires abandoning these negative complaints, adopting a positive attitude, acknowledging your past, accepting your imperfect self, believing in a bright future and being willing to accept new challenges. Adjusting one's mentality is helpful to stimulate the vitality of abstinence.
Why should we adjust our foreign relations? Addicts used to live in an addictive world, and their personal relationships often revolved around addictive circles. Quitting addiction now requires readjusting personnel relations. Adjusting external relations helps to keep yourself as safe as possible in the safe zone of people, things, places and times that are conducive to abstinence, and away from the dangerous zone of people, things, places and times that hinder abstinence.
When we slightly adjust our mentality and the relationship with the outside world, we can often readjust our future. The latest research results of neurology and psychology show that the experience gained in adjusting the relationship between one's mentality and the outside world will help to review the past from a new angle. Re-examine yourself, re-recognize yourself, re-frame or reconstruct yourself. The awakening and epiphany brought by this kind of reconstruction will often bring about changes far beyond people's expectations.
Third, change yourself.
The process of abstinence is a process of rebuilding and changing oneself. Everything in the world is changing anytime and anywhere, and each of us is no exception. Addicts have never been addicted to addiction in the past, but now they need to be addicted to it. When changing, the process of change itself is changing, not static. Your abstinence yesterday is different from your abstinence today.
If you don't want to change, it is difficult to change yourself. Even if it is a matter of life and death, we often fail in the face of change. Just like a smoker, when it comes to the danger of smoking, it is easy to get lost in the face of change.
How is addiction formed? It is precisely because of the negative, negative and harmful desires and behaviors of addiction that negative, negative and harmful results and situations are constantly superimposed. In order to effectively change this addiction, we need a kind of reverse programming, in which positive, positive and favorable desires and behaviors are constantly superimposed to produce positive, positive and favorable effects and situations.
Fourth, believe in yourself:
If you want to quit addiction successfully, you have to believe that you can quit addiction and quit addiction successfully. If you don't believe that you have the energy and confidence to quit addiction, even if the outside world pushes you to quit addiction, you can't succeed in quitting addiction. It may not be addictive temporarily or temporarily, but it will recur anytime and anywhere.
Believe that you can quit addiction, not just to cheer yourself up, there are many invisible and intangible things at work. When you believe that you can quit addiction, give full play to your subjective initiative and fully mobilize your positive psychology to quit addiction, you mobilize not only your inner energy, but also the surrounding atmosphere. Your external world has brought you the atmosphere, functions and conditions for abstinence, because you believe that you can quit addiction. On the other hand, if you don't believe that you can quit addiction, not only can you not mobilize your inner energy, but you are also creating and mobilizing an atmosphere around you that is impossible to quit addiction. Because you don't believe that you can quit addiction, your external world brings you an atmosphere, functions and conditions that are impossible to quit addiction.
Every time you successfully pursue abstinence, your abstinence effect will be superimposed on a new and higher dynamic correlation space, thus creating a new and higher success probability state, so that you can realize the success goal of abstinence step by step. If you have studied quantum theory, you will know the meanings of superposition, space, probability and state here. But it doesn't hurt not to understand. )