Inferiority is the enemy of interpersonal communication. People with low self-esteem are pessimistic, melancholy and withdrawn, afraid to associate with others, think that they are inferior to others everywhere, are introverted, and always feel that others look down on them. This kind of people are mainly caused by the following reasons: too much self-denial, negative self-suggestion, the influence of frustration and psychological or physical deficiency. For example, some students are short in stature, ugly in appearance, from humble origins, poor in learning and so on. There are many such students in the school, which increases the difficulty of student management and school education management. How can students correct this kind of psychology? First of all, we should educate students to take a positive attitude to face it, so that they can correctly understand themselves and improve their self-evaluation. The formation of inferiority complex mainly comes from their inability to correctly understand and treat themselves in social communication. Secondly, we should guide students to adopt the "Ah Q" method of spiritual victory. No one is perfect and no one has enough money. Learn to actively associate with others and enhance self-confidence. No communication master is born.
Loneliness psychological loneliness is a kind of lonely psychological state in which people feel isolated from the world and have no emotional or ideological communication with them. Lonely people often show listlessness, produce unsociable sadness, and affect their normal study, communication and life. This kind of students are mainly caused by the following reasons: personality, overconfidence and self-esteem, frustration. There is a good saying: clear water has no fish, and people look at it without friends. Self-esteem, conceit and conceit will all cause loneliness; There is another kind of person who is more likely to be lonely, that is, "like to be a giant in language and a dwarf in action!" " How can we change this psychology? First of all, we should integrate ourselves into the collective. Marx said: only in the collective can individuals get the opportunity of all-round development! A person who refuses to integrate himself into the collective must be particularly interested in loneliness! Secondly, we should overcome the mentality of conceit, self-esteem and arrogance and actively participate in communication. When a person really feels psychologically integrated with others and understood and accepted by others, it is easy to get rid of this lonely misunderstanding!
Jealousy is an unpleasant, shameful, resentful and even destructive behavior caused by comparing with others in talent, study and reputation. The characteristics are: dissatisfaction with the strengths and achievements of others, and jealousy; Seeing that others are unwilling to take the lead, I always hope that others will fall behind me. Another feature of jealousy is that it has no courage to compete, and it often takes sarcasm, sarcasm, crackdown or even illegal behavior to cause harm to others. This situation seriously hinders college students' mental health and communication skills, and brings great difficulties to their adulthood and success, because jealousy will devour people's reason and soul, affect normal thinking and cause personality distortion! Jealous people should make more efforts to improve their self-cultivation, divert their attention, actively sublimate their disadvantages into advantages, and take appropriate, legal and rational measures to eliminate this psychology.
Revenge psychology The so-called revenge is to vent the dissatisfaction and resentment of those who bring setbacks to themselves through attacks in interpersonal communication. It is extremely aggressive and emotional. Revenge psychology and revenge behavior often occur when narrow-minded and bad-natured people are frustrated. According to the research of social psychologists, revenge psychology is not only related to personality characteristics, but also related to the attribution and environment of setbacks, and revenge is often carried out in a hidden form. Because revengers often appear as the weak, they don't have enough psychological endurance and public counterattack ability, so they have to take revenge in a hidden way! This kind of psychology has brought great resistance and pressure to the interpersonal communication of the revenger. In order to change this kind of psychology, we need to improve the self-control of the revenger, reflect on the harmfulness of the revenge result and learn to be tolerant. As the saying goes, "the prime minister can punt in his stomach"!
Confusion about heterosexual communication; Heterosexual communication is a normal social activity. At the same time, it is also a social obstacle that has been plaguing college students. Under the influence of bad psychological factors, some students always feel that it is more difficult to communicate with the opposite sex than with the same sex, so that they are afraid, unwilling or even unable to communicate with the opposite sex. These college students can't correctly distinguish and handle the relationship between friendship and love, and some college students can't distinguish the boundaries between friendship and love, thus turning friendship into love. The age of college students is the age of generation, and the desire for the opposite sex is normal. However, due to the influence of traditional ideas, especially the cultural tradition of "men and women give and receive without kissing" in feudal society, some college students think that there is nothing but love between men and women, which makes them fail to establish a correct "opposite sex friend view". This will inevitably have a negative impact on college students' heterosexual communication. Another is the influence of public opinion. Some schools, teachers and parents interfere in the communication between boys and girls, which will inevitably increase the difficulty of communication between the opposite sex. To get rid of the confusion of heterosexual communication, we should first get rid of the shackles of traditional ideas and carry out colorful group activities, because group activities are conducive to establishing natural, harmonious and pure interpersonal relationships between male and female students, and secondly, we should pay attention to discretion so as not to cause unnecessary misunderstandings!
Psychological obstacles in college students' interpersonal communication include social fear and suspicion. Here only talk about the above five aspects.