Every adolescent boy and girl, with the gradual maturity of physiology, will begin to pay attention to the opposite sex students, hoping to get to know them and communicate with them. This is a normal psychological phenomenon. The key is how to correctly handle the relationship between puppy love and normal communication between boys and girls. Don't be overly sensitive, don't think that the opposite sex is in love with you, and don't always show love to others. As we all know, heterosexual communication is an indispensable part of human social life, and heterosexual communication is essential at all stages of individual growth. The opposite sex attraction of middle school students' psychological germination is the inevitable result of sexual psychological and physical maturity, and it is a normal natural expression. For middle school students, normal communication between students of the opposite sex is not only conducive to learning progress, but also to the all-round development of personality. Generally speaking, middle school students who have both same-sex friends and opposite-sex friends are often cheerful, sincere and enthusiastic, willing to help their classmates and have strong self-control; However, those who only make friends with classmates of the same sex often lack a sound emotional experience, have no social ability to communicate with the opposite sex, have a narrow social scope and life circle, and have an imperfect personality development. If the communication between boys and girls is not handled properly, it will also affect and hinder the study and physical and mental health of middle school students, and bring emotional and behavioral troubles. There are advantages and disadvantages in heterosexual communication between boys and girls. The key is how to establish a positive and healthy heterosexual relationship.
(1) Natural communication. In the process of communicating with the opposite sex, words, expressions, behaviors, feelings and thoughts should be natural and smooth, without exaggeration or avoidance; Neither blindly impulsive nor artificial. Eliminating the unnatural feeling in heterosexual communication is the premise of establishing normal heterosexual relations. The best embodiment of the natural principle is to treat opposite-sex students as same-sex students, establish opposite-sex relations as same-sex relations, and conduct opposite-sex exchanges as same-sex exchanges. The relationship between classmates should not be uncomfortable or unnatural because of the opposite sex.
(2) Moderate communication. The degree and way of heterosexual communication should be just right and accepted by most people. Love for the opposite sex will not germinate prematurely, nor will it cause mental harm to both sides by avoiding or rejecting the opposite sex. Of course, sometimes it is not easy to be accepted by most people. As long as it is natural and moderate, you don't have to worry too much.
(3) Truth and frankness. This refers to the attitude towards the opposite sex, and we should make real friends like friends of the same sex.
(4) Leave room. Although we are bosom friends, in heterosexual communication, we should leave room for everything we say and do and not be reckless. For example, some sensitive topics between the sexes should be avoided in conversation, and physical contact in communication should be measured. Especially in the long-term communication with a certain opposite sex, we should pay attention to the degree of the relationship between the two sides.