I called her husband and accused him of hitting people. He just said that W had been working against him. He can't stand it. If he doesn't vent his anger, he will get seriously ill.
Faced with such a psychological fallacy, I really want to say it.
People always think that venting anger is healthier than suppressing it. But have you ever found that the more people who tend to vent, the more times they get angry, and the more people who love to lose their temper, the higher their tendency to violence.
I admit that more and more media and educators tell us that anger is the source of evil, and we need to vent the devil in our hearts from time to time, otherwise it will also affect our health. So pillows, sandbags and plates became the targets of abuse, and the "screaming chicken" was born.
However, the latest psychological research shows that venting is easy to produce a series of "side effects", which makes the situation worse. Venting anger actually increases aggression. In an experiment, after being offended by others, people who knock on nails to vent their anger become more mean than those who don't knock on nails.
Anger is a signal that you have met something you don't want to happen. So the essence of the problem should be to solve the problem, not to vent their anger. Anger can only be vented through communication that reduces frustration. Therefore, if you are upset because your peers have repeatedly ignored your feelings, yelling at each other will not improve the situation. It is illegal to hit people to vent their anger.
Studies have shown that venting will produce certain compounds in the brain, which will make people feel happy for a short time. However, it is easy for people to rely on this kind of pleasure, and even deliberately seek trouble in order to vent again. People who are used to venting their anger will show much more aggression than ordinary people in some cases.
Psychologists believe that the best way to deal with anger is not to vent, but to learn to divert attention. When you are angry, you might as well do something relaxing and pleasant, such as listening to light music, walking or stroking your pet.
It's not as bad as you think. Unleashed anger is really harmful to others and yourself.