Facing up to past injuries can effectively enhance the "immunity" to potential emotional risks in the future.
Treat the past that has hurt you, don't escape, shake hands with them one by one and say goodbye.
2. Try what psychology calls "desensitization therapy".
The more I feel that getting along with people is always accompanied by an inexplicable tension and resistance, the more I need to get in touch with people. This is a way to help you quickly accept, adapt and eliminate negative emotions.
Forgive those who have hurt you and let go of yourself.
Try to explore and understand the reasons behind those things, such as:
The contrast between parents is mostly to stimulate your inner motivation and let you fly higher;
Parents are strict with you, mostly because they have higher expectations for you and hope you can have a better future;
Accompanying you negligently because of work is mostly because your parents want to give you a better material environment. When life is at a fork in the road, you can have more confidence and choices.
4. Give yourself more positive psychological hints.
Like others, you have the strength and ability to care about yourself and pursue beauty.
Don't always remind yourself that you had an unhappy childhood, and don't attribute your weakness or escape to "lack of love".
Don't deliberately amplify the negative emotions caused by lack of love, sometimes lack of love is not a bad thing.
People who lack love are often more rational, calm and objective when dealing with things.
Proper lack of love can bring you some tension and spur, push you to stay awake and make accurate and correct judgments.
6. Understand that the protagonist in life is yourself.
Don't have too high expectations and illusions about the salvation given by others, improve yourself externally and internally, make your heart stronger and realize self-satisfaction.
7. Give yourself what you want, others' filling should be icing on the cake, not giving charcoal in the snow.
8. Don't rely too much on the kindness of others.
While accepting the kindness of others, remind yourself that nothing is deserved.
This is the mutual affection of others, not the duty. You can give it at any time and take it away at any time.
9. Grasp the appropriate social scope.
Learn to distinguish between others' kindness to you, which are just polite expressions in social situations, and which are sincere between friends.
Think about what "good" you really need. Don't let others be nice to you, just show your heart to others directly.