How to control your emotions
Pay attention to transfer and avoid irritation. When sadness, sadness and anger occur, a strong focus of excitement often appears in the human cerebral cortex. If we can consciously control the process of brain excitement and inhibition, and turn the focus of excitement into a calm state of inhibition, we may maintain a psychological balance and free ourselves from negative emotions. For example, when you are depressed or upset, don't think about things that cause depression, try to avoid the stimulation of anxiety, and consciously listen to music, watch TV, turn over picture books and read novels. And force yourself to divert attention. This can turn negative emotions into positive emotions and dilute or even forget boredom. For another example, if you encounter a difficult thing, don't think about it first, so that your mind can grow wings and think freely and roam in a fantasy world; You can also talk to people aimlessly, so as not to get into trouble on difficult things and bring endless troubles to yourself. In this way, over time, we can calmly solve problems and resolve contradictions, and often get satisfactory results.
Rational control, self-cooling rational control refers to the intention and sense of accomplishment to control or alleviate the outbreak of bad emotions; Self-cooling refers to efforts to reduce anger to a peaceful state of suppression. In other words, any rational person can be aware of his emotional changes in time. When he is angry, he immediately realizes that something is wrong, can calm down quickly, take the initiative to control his emotions, reduce his anger with reason, and maintain emotional stability. Lin Zexu hangs a banner of "Controlling Anger" in the room to remind himself to control his emotions in time; Turgenev, a famous Russian writer, put the tip of his tongue in his mouth ten times before persuading people to quarrel. This is a fact.
Generosity and self-denial make people "selfless and broad-minded", and "the prime minister can punt in his stomach." People who are tolerant, open-minded, enterprising and team spirit; People with little endurance are full of bitterness and haggle over every ounce, which makes people lonely. Life will be all kinds, with joys and sorrows. Therefore, everyone should pay attention to self-restraint, eliminate depressed emotions and selfish distractions, deal with things that are easy to anger with an open-minded, optimistic and humorous attitude, stand up to setbacks and exercise self-restraint. This can often make the original tense things easier and make the embarrassing scenes dissolve in humor and laughter.
"Complaining is too much to prevent heartbroken, and the scenery is often appropriate." Mental health encourages people to get rid of negative emotions and have normal and healthy reaction emotions, so that they can solve themselves when they are sad and be detached when they are in adversity, which is beneficial to the physical and mental health of modern people.
Sublimation of goals: Anger is a powerful psychological energy. Improper use will hurt people and themselves, and sublimation will become a powerful driving force for success. It is necessary to cultivate a lofty goal in life, change the habit of calculating gains and losses with immediate trivial matters, and consider everything from the overall situation and the long term. Only by establishing a lofty ideal in life can a person tolerate others and have a greater sense of proportion. He will not tolerate his energy being entangled in trivial matters and hinder the pursuit of his ideal career.
Evaluation postponement method: Anger comes from the evaluation of "stimulus", perhaps it is a look from others, perhaps it is a sarcasm to others, or even a misunderstanding to others. You were "furious" at that time, but if you comment after an hour, a week or even a month, you may think it's "not worth it".
Give vent to your emotions reasonably. I don't know if the students have noticed the scene when watching TV movies: someone ran to the wilderness, the seaside and the mountains to shout freely, or desperately hit a tree, or ran wildly because of a bad mood. This is a reasonable way to vent emotions. Reasonable venting refers to relieving bad emotions in the heart in an appropriate way on appropriate occasions, and venting can prevent the harm of bad emotions to the human body.
1, crying-appropriate crying. From a scientific point of view, crying is a self-psychological protection measure, which can release the energy generated by bad emotions and adjust the balance of the body. Crying is a good way to relieve tension, trouble and pain. After many people cry, the pain and sadness will be much less.
2, shout-shout once. Don't cry piteously when you are troubled by bad emotions. It is also a way to vent one's inner depression through quick, powerful and unrestrained shouting.
3. v- Talk to friends and family. Telling friends is a good way to vent. Hiding unpleasant things in your heart will increase your psychological burden. Finding someone to talk about their troubles and their own feelings can not only make them feel comfortable, but also get comfort, inspiration and solutions from others. Please remember bacon's famous saying: tell a friend happiness and you will get two happiness; If you tell your sorrow to a friend, you will only be half sad. "
4. Move-do strenuous exercise. When a person is depressed, he is often inactive. The less active you are, the less likely you are to divert your attention, the lower your mood, and the more likely you are to form a vicious circle. Therefore, we can change the bad mood by running, playing ball and other sports activities. Venting will not only control bad emotions, but also cause bad consequences.