How to enlighten adolescent boys: 1. Encourage and enlighten children more.
Every child has self-esteem, and the children in rebellious period have stronger self-esteem. No matter what they do or learn, they always want to do their best. Many parents mistakenly think that their children are too serious to compare. Parents should recognize their children more. If a child is encouraged to achieve something, then he will feel valuable, get the attention of others, and he will work harder to do everything well.
2. Understand the child's feelings.
Don't put children on the opposite side of yourself. Children are not enemies. Learn to look at problems from the standpoint of children and feel their feelings with your heart.
3. Find out why children resist.
Many times, children always resist what their parents say and the rules set by their parents. Parents should not "force" this rule, they can communicate with their children appropriately, find out the reasons for their resistance, and then communicate with them to solve the problem and work out the rules together.
4. Children will find an exit when they are emotional.
Children will deliberately do things that adults don't allow, but in fact, from the child's psychology, this is to vent bad emotions or anxiety. Parents should look for problems from themselves, think about what dissatisfaction their actions will cause their children, and try not to punish or corporal punishment when they lose their temper.
5. Find the child's good performance.
Praise can indirectly make children understand right and wrong, so we should pay more attention to some good performances of children and praise them in time.
6. Give children some autonomy.
As children are in a rebellious period, as mentioned above, children should participate in "making plans" with their parents. Some things should not be rigidly stipulated, but given certain autonomy conditionally, which can improve autonomy in the subconscious.
What are the characteristics of adolescent boys: 1. No longer believe in the authority of parents and teachers, and even take pride in challenging their authority. So from this stage on, they begin to evaluate their parents and teachers and have their own opinions.
With self-awareness, he realized that he was a unique individual and wanted to show it all the time.
3. Peer recognition is the most important. Primary school children attach great importance to the evaluation of their parents and teachers, while adolescent children pay more attention to the evaluation of their peers.
4. Have their own secrets. Children at this stage have their own secrets. They are worried that they don't want to be known and want independent space.
5. Impulse. During this period, the child's physical development is extremely rapid, followed by psychological changes, sensitivity, paranoia, impulsiveness, like an angry lion.
6. Start to be sensitive. Casual primary school time passed, they opened their ignorant eyes, observed people and things, looked at and evaluated their own psychology, and their feelings became rich, and sadness, anger and depression began to show.