Happiness depends on misfortune.
Although the night is long, there will always be dawn after the night.
Life is painful, but after the pain, you will meet the warmth of happiness.
Although life and death are life, wealth is in the sky,
But it is an extreme state of life to seek hard and never give up.
Heaven and earth are heartless, taking everything as grass dogs, saints are heartless, and taking people as grass dogs.
To sum up: happiness or misfortune has no door, but people call themselves.
Psychoanalysis of the fate of survivors.
Is it really "there must be a blessing if you survive"? Let me give you an answer to this question. My answer is not only from the perspective of psychology, but also from the perspective of cultural psychology to interpret this problem and phenomenon.
First of all, why does it never rains but it pours?
The first truth of "there must be a blessing after a great disaster" is that when we experience some major setbacks, sufferings and difficulties in life, our attitude towards life will change.
Is a person blessed-one is blessed and the other is happy.
Today, when we talk about happiness, we mean-blessing, blessing and blessing.
So what does this happiness and blessing mainly depend on? -mentality and mentality.
It is impossible not to encounter problems in life. After meeting them, what is our own mentality and mentality often determines the happiness that comes with it.
An important event often changes a person's mood and mentality.
A child who is not sensible suddenly has a major change in his life. For example, mom and dad, one of whom died. He suddenly became sensible. A person's mental state has changed because of a major external stimulus event-a bad stimulus event.
Therefore, our mentality determines our mentality, and our mentality determines our attitude towards life and ourselves.
The most obvious experience is that we survived when major events happened, such as car accidents. At this time, those parts that we didn't notice originally, the most precious things were noticed by us.
For example, we never think about life and death, which is very important in life and must be considered. A philosopher said: "There is no problem in philosophy except life and death. Only life and death are the real philosophical problems."
It can be seen that life and death are major issues that need to be considered in life.
We didn't think before, but after a major event (disaster), we began to think about life and life and death. Our thoughts shift our focus from superficial life experiences and concerns to the essence of life.
In this way, our hearts will sink, we can appreciate the true colors of life, and we can enjoy the fun of life. This is a blessing!
Secondly, major events and disasters happened, but we were not killed or suffered huge losses. Then we will be grateful.
It is difficult for us to cultivate gratitude at ordinary times. You tell a person:
"You have to be grateful. There are many people in this world who help you and are good to you. Life is not easy; How is our life now? "
The effect of these gratitude education is not obvious.
But we experienced great setbacks, and after the disaster, our gratitude came out.
So to sum up:
Our mental state; Our gratitude; Our understanding of life and death; Understanding of life.
After the catastrophe, our attitude towards life has changed greatly. It can be said to wake us up.
Usually, we are wandering around. After waking up, we can enjoy the state and excitement of life more easily in the next life.
So you say: Is this a blessing? Are you lucky to live?
This is a psychological change and an attitude towards life.
Second, treat the experience of life.
Life is made up of experiences.
I lived my whole life until I left this world and lay in a hospital bed. The children around me ask themselves:
"What is the most unforgettable thing in your life?"
We may remember a few negative experiences: great troubles and pains, what we have suffered, what we have suffered and what difficulties we have experienced. From these experiences.
Then I had a few positive experiences: I enjoyed some good news, I had some achievements to be proud of, and now that feeling has come out again.
That's all, about five negative experiences, about five positive experiences.
Life is nothing more than experience. If you don't have a deep understanding, it's usually a lot of small stimuli.
What kind of experience is it? -the feeling that the external environment stimulates our own body and mind.
Disasters are great experiences, those great experiences. The depth and thickness of this experience suddenly reached a peak. We have this experience at the bottom, other experiences in life, and some setbacks and difficult experiences. Is it worth mentioning? Not worth mentioning.
So, why do we say, "When we educate our children and treat life, we have such an attitude that we should not become rich too early. It is not a good thing that life is too smooth. "
We should have some bitter experiences and difficult experiences. With these experiences, our life is sweeter.
It's like asking you to drink a cup of bitter tea first and then giving you some sugar water. You don't need too much sugar, and you think it's sweet, even without sugar.
If there is no "bitter" bottom ahead, I'll get you a cup of white sugar water and brown sugar water, so you won't feel sweet after drinking it. Why? Because there is no empirical comparison, there is no reference.
Therefore, this experience of experiencing catastrophe has actually set a benchmark for our lives, and this benchmark is often painful, and other small things are simply not worth mentioning in the face of this catastrophe.
We should look at psychological trauma again and use the perspective of positive psychology.
Psychological trauma is a great disaster, a frustrating experience and a difficult experience. Its positive significance cannot be underestimated.
We used to focus only on its negative significance, you see:
This man has trauma, so he has defense and self-protection. He doesn't trust others.
However, we seldom pay attention to people with major trauma from a positive perspective.
There was no chance to evacuate from the trauma, but he survived. In fact, these people have a profound understanding of life. In the later life, he will not shut up because of a little setback experience.
We don't look at psychological trauma from this angle.
Traumatic experience, great disaster, let us have a foundation in the depth and thickness of life experience. So take life more seriously than the average person. After being serious, you will realize the colorful life more than others.
Therefore, from another perspective, it is a pity that there is no such great experience in life.
Third, "there must be good news after the disaster" and the cause and effect of Buddhism.
China's traditional Buddhist thought believes in evil consequences.
The difficulties and pains you experienced today are actually your original sins. If you don't dissolve it, it won't know when it will come.
The great events, difficulties, setbacks and difficulties that happened to you today are all aimed at repaying the crimes you committed at the beginning.
This is the value of Buddhist thought mode.
You didn't hurt the most fundamental essence when you returned it. You're not dead! You survived. Not only solved the original debt, but also did not pay a huge price. The debt you owe has been paid off, and you can live a plain, peaceful and smooth life in the future.
It is from this perspective that "there will be good news after the disaster." This also has some truth.
Fourthly, the relationship between China culture and this sentence.
The summary of "there will be good news after the disaster" is common in life, and it is the self-comfort and self-guidance that ordinary people take when they encounter difficulties.
There is also a corresponding word called "a blessing in disguise". Have the same effect.
Why does this summary appear in our culture?
They guide us how to sort out our own psychology when we encounter difficulties and setbacks, so as to get through psychological difficulties and get out of psychological difficulties.
This idiom is much more common. As a life guide for ordinary people, it reflects that we have a kind of thinking called mindfulness thinking in China.
In our thoughts and concepts, there is a positive concept-once something goes wrong and we encounter difficulties or setbacks, we will start mindfulness thinking training to face the interaction with the outside world and the disappointment and conflict we have.
From this perspective, this mindfulness thinking in China culture is precisely the embodiment of China people's collective cultural psychology.
Why are there such good cultural connotations and elements in our culture?
Because China has a long history.
In the long history, we have a prosperous time, ranking first in the world; Sometimes it is carved up and beaten by world powers.
This ups and downs of Chinese culture and history gives us something called "national normality" psychologically.
This normal mind is not the normal mind of one person or two people, but the unconscious mind of the whole nation and collective.
When the disaster comes, we have a kind of mindfulness thinking, which is called "after the disaster, there will be good news."
Not one person's thinking, but the thinking of the whole nation; It is not the thinking of this group of people, not the thinking of this era, but the way we think about problems throughout history.
In the 1970s, Dr. Tomby, a British philosopher and prophet, predicted:
If I want to be born again in my next life, I want to be born in China.
He said that the19th century is the century of the British, the 20th century is the century of the Americans, and the 2nd1century is the century of China.
Many people were surprised at that time. Now, looking at such a backward country and China, how can you conclude that 2 1 century is the century of China people? There is no sign at all!
A general said:
"Historians never look at what happened now, but what happened in history?"
In the dialogue, Adan reflected that he viewed the development trend of China from the historical and cultural evolution of the whole Chinese nation.
Disaster is our humiliation for more than a hundred years, and there will be happiness in the future. "After a catastrophe, there will be good news", which will rewrite our catastrophe, and our catastrophe will still pass. This is the thinking of historical philosophers.
A general said that only Confucianism and Buddhism in China can save 2 1 century from the difficulties encountered by human society. So 2 1 century is the century of China.
Toynbee said it from the perspective of cultural salvation.
Mankind will encounter great conflicts and difficulties in spiritual civilization when it develops to 2 1 century.
The harmonious culture in China culture, the mindfulness thinking formed by harmony, compassion, Confucianism, Buddhism and Taoism, and the national normality will all play a role.
China is the only major civilization that has not been cut off, but now the western powers have a short time and there have been no ups and downs in history.
In this way, the collective psychology of China people and China culture has a psychological cognition that "we will be blessed if we survive". When we encounter great hardships in real life, our psychological and cultural advantages are reflected, but the usual small things are not.
So I explain this problem from four aspects, called three plus one. The first three are mainly psychological; Or two plus two, the first two are about psychology and the last two are about culture.
I hope it will inspire you, and welcome to add anything that is not comprehensive.
Are you lucky to live?
I hope this is true, but there are few facts to prove it.
It can only be said that people want to get this desire, escape from the disasters in life, encourage the victims and wish them a healthy return at an early date.
In our life, we are clearly aware that personal disasters are inevitable. Some of them don't understand science, lead irregular lives, pay no attention to their health, and bring diseases and disasters to themselves. Some are disasters from outer space, with the help of relatives, social assistance and modern advanced medical technology. Disaster is not terrible, we need to be strong and face it correctly, as long as we believe.
As for whether there will be great happiness after the disaster is eliminated, there are two understandings o
First, it can be said that it is a blessing in itself to recover from the disaster and stop suffering. If it's serious, anyone can think of it, isn't it incorrect?
Second, although a person's disaster has been liberated through change, life and life have been extended, and gratitude to God can be said, but it is impossible to rely on destiny. From ancient times to the present, God has been fair to everyone for thousands of years, never dropping pies, and all people's lives are blessed, or they are all created by nature with their hardworking hands. The more they create, the more they are blessed.
Therefore, we believe that there is no basis for saying that there will be good news after the disaster. It is an unscientific and unrealistic argument, which deviates from the law of life and is the idea of desire.