In life, many people will worry and worry about some unpredictable things, such as whether it will rain tomorrow and affect the arranged trip; Whether the written plan will be rejected by the leaders and so on. In fact, the development of these things is out of personal control, and excessive worry will only make you nervous and increase your mental burden. People who worry too much often wrap themselves in a defensive inner world. Usually take part in group activities, communicate with people and cultivate a cheerful personality; Do more physical exercise or travel, strengthen your will and broaden your horizons. So you won't be tied down by worrying about small things.
Don't be a perfectionist.
Perfectionists are extremely demanding of themselves and want to be perfect in everything. Once something goes wrong, they will feel extremely guilty and can't let it go. For example, perfectionist students will be depressed for a long time because of a mistake in an exam, and perfectionist professionals will be depressed because of unsatisfactory work progress ... It is good to be strict with themselves, but if they are very demanding and always set high goals for themselves, they will inevitably fall into a psychological gap that often fails to reach their goals. Over time, they will lose confidence and interest in many things. We should all have an objective evaluation and orientation of ourselves, and do things in an urgent way and step by step. If things don't go as you wish, you should learn to forgive yourself and learn from the fall instead of blindly falling into it.
Find a job that interests you.
People usually have to study for many years before they can engage in professional work. Even if they later find that they don't like it, they don't want to live up to their previous efforts and continue to stick to it. Besides, most people regard work as a means to make a living. If there is any change, it means that their income will be reduced and their comfortable living conditions will be affected, so they are unwilling to change. However, inappropriate jobs can make people feel depressed all the time, leading to mental illness. Therefore, we should sincerely ask ourselves whether we love this job and whether we can bear the burden brought by it.
Don't be jealous or judge others.
In your opinion, some people seem to have everything, beauty, money and a perfect marriage, but in fact, the charm is only superficial, only they know it, and they are fighting all kinds of difficulties. In fact, most people are struggling to face life, but we often don't know what others have experienced, perhaps it is the distress of infirmity or the grief of losing loved ones. So keep a kind heart and try not to judge a book by its cover. The feelings between people are mutual, and you can get a friendship by being polite to others. If others talk to you about their sufferings, it is the best kindness to give help as much as you can.
Don't always try to change others.
No matter at home or in the workplace, when others disagree with us, many people always try to change each other, but a person's thinking and habits are the result of long-term education and environmental influence, which is difficult to shake. If we always get along with others by correcting their mentality, it will not only make us feel tired, but also affect our relationship. On the contrary, when we learn to accept others and change our views on others, we will find that things are getting better and the other person is not as bad as we thought.
6 express your true thoughts
Most problems in interpersonal communication stem from communication failure, either others don't express them correctly or we don't listen carefully. The complexity of communication often comes from "the mouth is not right." For example, although some people say "I'm fine", their hearts may be just the opposite, longing for your comfort and encouragement. If you don't find this situation and give an adequate response, you will feel sad and depressed about convenience. Why not make communication easier? Hiding your true feelings will not only help to improve your mood, but also make others feel puzzled, thus affecting the communication between the two sides. In communication, everyone bravely expresses their true thoughts and speaks them in an appropriate way. At the same time, they patiently listen to other people's views and opinions. Language understanding is the premise of spiritual communication.
Learn to say "no" politely and firmly.
Many people's pain often comes from a situation: although they don't want to do something, they dare not refuse because they are afraid of offending others or being called selfish. Do you really think that if you bite the bullet and do it, you will be grateful for convenience? In fact, if something makes you miserable or beyond your ability, you will not only wronged yourself, but also make the other person feel that you are unreliable once you can't keep your promise. Therefore, learning to say "no" politely and firmly is one of the best tools to ensure happiness.
Everyone should know their own boundaries and bottom lines, what to do and what not to do, and learn to politely express rejection so that others can accept it without embarrassment. For example, if someone invites you to a party, but you don't want to go, you should smile and thank them, and then explain the reason for not going, which may be physical fatigue or other arrangements. It is worth reminding that the refusal should be made early, not delayed, and the more delayed it is, the more difficult it is to speak. Timely response is also a respect for others.
Express your love from the heart.
Love plays an extremely important role in our life. From a psychological point of view, being loved is the driving force for us to keep moving forward, while losing love is the fear and anxiety in everyone's heart. However, most people hide their love all their lives. Telling others that we love will not only make them feel happy and valued, but also encourage them to give us more care in return. We can express our likes and misses through language, and we can also enhance intimacy through body language, such as hugging and holding hands. Learning to love and express love is an important compulsory course in life.