One of the root causes of human suffering is the failure of expectations and sincere mistakes.
In life, we always think that we have many intimate friends and friends in need.
But the more you value your relationship with your friends, the more painful it will be when your friends alienate you.
The writer Jia Pingwa is the best example.
At one time, he thought he was very popular and had friends everywhere.
It was not until he suffered from liver disease that this cognition completely changed.
Originally, those friends who often went to see him, after learning of his illness, all alienated him tacitly.
Even if a few people come occasionally, they are afraid of being infected and leave in a few minutes.
On one occasion, an acquaintance invited a guest to dinner, ostensibly showing enthusiasm, but all kinds of wriggling behaviors still exposed their scruples.
In order not to embarrass the other party, he volunteered to add an extra plate, and kindly reminded them to disinfect it carefully after eating.
The host just smiled and said, don't think too much.
But as soon as he walked out of the door, he heard a sound of breaking plates, followed by a roar at the cat.
He suddenly realized that the broken plate was just used by him, and the cat was kicked for greedy eating his leftovers.
Although I know that my liver disease makes me unpopular, such a fierce reaction is unbearable for him.
At that moment, he realized that after he was ill, only his family really didn't abandon him.
Those people were close to themselves before, not because they liked themselves, but because of their fame and talent.
The world is cold and fragile, but that's all.
Jia Pingwa's story is never a special case. Many people have had similar experiences.
The most common mistake we make in life is to overestimate our relationship with others.
When we are finally abandoned and alienated, it is ourselves who suffer.