Bao Dai's love tragedy is not only a tragedy of personality, love and fate, but also a tragedy of the times and society. The reasons for their love tragedy are not only social environment, times and families, but also personal reasons, which have created the love between Bao Dai and become an enduring swan song.
First of all, in terms of times and society. Lin Daiyu and Jia Baoyu were born in a declining feudal society.
Their love bears a heavy burden of the times and history. Because of the deep-rooted feudal ethics, marriage should be observed? Parents' orders, matchmaker's words? . Young men and women have no freedom of marriage and love in that environment. Due to the limitation of historical development conditions, it is not enough to get rid of the democratic personality of feudal forces, especially the bondage, oppression and cruel strangulation of marital autonomy, and the love between Baodai and Daiyu has become a victim of the limitations of this era. Their situation and ability at that time, coupled with their own loneliness, loneliness and weakness, were far from being able to compete with feudal ethics. What was their marriage and love like in the traditional ethics at that time? Great rebellion? Yes Stubborn feudal ethics do not allow love between them.
What? Happy marriage? , I say? Marriage of wood and stone? . It vividly and concretely shows the inevitability of Bao Dai's love being strangled. Their love was bound by feudal ethics at that time, and it was an inevitable product in such a society that violated and destroyed human nature, trampled on human dignity and value, and finally went to ruin.
Secondly, as far as the family is concerned, the Jia family in A Dream of Red Mansions is a typical feudal family.
Zhumenli in Guo Rongfu is a closed feudal kingdom, and the traditional feudal consciousness has soaked the flesh and blood of every member of this family, even penetrated into deep carved columns, quaint bricks and elegant porcelain. [4] It stipulates the unequal relationship between the upper, lower and left sides. Jia Mu was the supreme parent of this feudal family. She is a caring, kind-hearted person with high expectations? Ancestors? Not as ruthless as Jia Zheng and his wife, nor as violent and fierce as Feng, but generous and kind? Old bodhisattva? . But in the love marriage between Baoyu and Daiyu, she refused to give in at all. With trembling hands, she personally destroyed this icy love, not only depriving them of their bodies, but also hurting their spiritual life. [5] Jia, as the representative of feudal family parents, chose the marriage of the next generation. Although she said that she didn't care about each other's family background, as long as Zhou Zheng was involved, she still had to stand in her own position and think carefully.
At first, Jia Mu wandered between Lin Daiyu and Xue Baochai. She compared Lin Daiyu and Xue Baochai: Miss Lin's child has just fallen, but her heart has been rewritten, so she is not very strong. She wants to gamble. She is no different from Miss Bao. She wanted to gamble and be generous, but it didn't help Sister Bao, so she had to give up. ? But the most important thing is that Daiyu's parents died, and her family's power has become a thing of the past. And Xue Baochai is the golden branch of the Xue family. Is the Xue family one of the four big families? Pearls are like earth, and gold is like iron? It is famous, although it has no political achievements, but it is very rich. The pawnbrokers of the Xue family still account for 70% in the capital, which shows that it is a hero. This is of great help to the Jia family, who is strong outside and hollow inside. The Xue family is a big family, and the Jia family is married to them. It can not only consolidate its position, but also maintain the past scenery of the Jia family. Therefore, as the ancestor of Jia family, Shan will rationally choose Xue Baochai from this aspect. With her strong family background as the support and backing, develop Jia's power. It was also her decision that killed the beautiful love between Lin Daiyu and Jia Baoyu and turned their love into a family marriage? Figs? .
Although Lin Daiyu is loved by Jia Mu, as a member of the China Housing Society, Jia Mu's family interests are above everything else. Her helplessness to Lin Daiyu, her responsibility to Jia Baoyu and her loyalty to family interests are also inevitable results.
Finally, I personally think that Lin Daiyu is not suitable for Jia Baoyu.
Judging from her physical condition, she once said: Although Lin's eccentricity is also her advantage, I don't agree with Lin's idea in my heart. Besides, Miss Lin is so weak that she may not live long. ? It can be seen that Lin Daiyu's own constitution is weak, and she has been taking medicine since she can eat, and she has never stopped. After many famous doctors, it has been ineffective. Severe insomnia and constant coughing. Eat five out of ten meals, and you can't even drink more tea. Eating a little crab meat will hurt your heart. Played the Grand View Garden twice? Overwork. God? Gross. Every year after the vernal equinox and autumnal equinox, I will suffer from an old disease, and I will never leave my sick bed and have to rest. Feudal families are the most particular about having many children and grandchildren. Whether a family is prosperous or not is one of the signs of its prosperity. In the seventy-fifth episode, Jia Fu enjoyed the moon in the Mid-Autumn Festival, and Jia Mu was deeply moved. I think back to those years. There are thirty or forty men and women tonight. How lively, today, no one is the heir and only child of the family. Jia Baoyu naturally shoulders the heavy responsibility of continuing the incense. The woman he married should also have the ability to raise children for the Jia family. It happened that Daiyu was in poor health, which made her call a spade a spade: I know my illness can't be cured, let alone my illness, but I only know how I was together when I was cured. ? This fact prevented Baoyu and Daiyu from combining.
At the same time, as Bao Er's grandmother, she is in charge of the internal and external family affairs of the whole Jia family and is an important social role. Jia's personnel are complicated, and interpersonal relationships and daily affairs should be taken care of as the housekeeper's grandmother. At the very least, she should have considerable physical strength and energy to bear this burden. If you don't have a strong body and the brute force to kick the door of Xifeng in Rainbow, you can't shoulder this heavy responsibility. Lin Daiyu is too weak to move a needle or thread, let alone deal with the heavy affairs of a big family. Although Daiyu is brilliant and clever, with her physical condition, it is impossible for her to undertake this? Housewife? Social role.
Judging from her own personality, because of her own experience, Lin Daiyu lived a life of dependence on others since she was a child. Make her temper appear sensitive and suspicious, unreasonable suspicion, sharp-tongued, narrow-minded, and prone to love.
Daiyu is frank, never hypocritical, always telling the truth and making no secret of it. This straightforward personality just wants to talk happily, regardless of other people's feelings, making it easy for her to offend others, which is unbearable for ordinary people. As Baoyu's wet nurse, Mammy Li, said: Really, Lin Jieer is not as good as a knife. ? Bitter words, like knives, hurt others, hurt themselves and hurt their image in others' hearts.
As the housekeeper of a big family, the authoritative figure, Grandma Bao Er, must have certain cohesion, appeal and good popularity in order to rule the whole family. It happened that Daiyu's temper and personality made many Jia people dislike her, let alone win people's hearts. Her self-pity, lofty, aloof, decided that she was not suitable to be the future Jia housekeeper, and her love with Baoyu naturally came to an end.
At the same time, because of her suspicious, capricious and narcissistic nature, her love life with Baoyu is seriously out of balance. The noble status of noble family, pure and refined noble temperament, and the noble character of being aloof from the world have all led to a sacred and inviolable morbid dignity. Lin Daiyu won't confess her love and infatuation for Baoyu, even if there is? I don't drink until there is 3 thousand weak water. Insist, but she doesn't allow Baoyu to offend her at all. Lin Daiyu once scolded Baoyu? Make obscene songs and learn stupid things to bully me? , Baoyu said 1? If * * * you miss the sentimental spend their honeymoons. /? Still want to be interpreted by her? I am a man's pastime? . This affectation restricts and limits Baoyu's way of expressing his feelings. [7] The troubles and misunderstandings between them are endless. In her love life, Daiyu vented all kinds of jealousy, paranoia, meanness and bitterness on her beloved Baoyu, making the original beautiful love more bitter, and finally she could only swallow the bitterness of this love by herself.
From Baoyu's point of view, Baoyu is a very emotional and secular aristocratic son with great thoughts and feelings of fraternity in his bones. On the one hand, she expressed her loyalty to love in the form of talking about Zen. On the other hand, he sincerely loves other girls and claims that he lives to play with his sisters. He sympathizes with and cherishes all the girls and thinks they are? Made of water? what's up Priceless treasure? He is considerate to all the girls and makes eyes at the village girl. [8] This kind of behavior is in conflict with Daiyu's paranoia and short temper. An affectionate son and a naturally jealous young lady will have more bumps and thorns in their love path.
As the heir of the feudal family, Jia Baoyu has a high cultural accomplishment. He is not satisfied with the social status quo and wants to get rid of the shackles of feudalism. He has always had doubts about realistic ethics and values. But his new anti-feudal thought is vague, which makes him lose his spiritual foundation and finally get lost? Psychic Baoyu? [9] Although he deeply loved Daiyu, he finally accepted the marriage arranged by the feudal family because of his resistance, compromise and weakness. He and Daiyu were originally a couple, but they were never together, which led to an extremely regrettable love tragedy.
The love between Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu is based on mutual understanding and consistent thoughts. The beauty, sadness, lingering and sadness of the story can be called a swan song. They have endless love and endless care. Laughter and tears are part of their love life, and they are all caused by deep and lingering love. These smiles and tears make their love appear delicate and delicate, and it is perfect and desolate because of the loyalty of both sides.
However, a good dream can't come true, and their love finally turned into a tragedy because of the wrong time, the wrong environment and the personal reasons of the hero and heroine.
The former alliance between Mu and Shi is only a legend, but it is a true portrayal of Baodai's love. They are destined to be inseparable. Even though they shed tears and exchanged souls, they didn't get the end of taking care of each other with their lives. Instead, it ended in a passing way. It strongly attacked the feudal ethics and traditional system that stifled their love fate, deepened the tragic significance of their love, and enriched the complex historical content, which was really regrettable and thought-provoking.
Baodai's Beauty of Love
First, Baodi's personality
Baoyu's most outstanding shining point is his rebellious spirit, which is not only manifested in his firm refusal to take the road of scientific research life, but also in his right? Men are superior to women? The feudal traditional concept boldly challenged, which was manifested in the special respect and love of the Grand View Garden for the girls. ? Daughters are made of water and men are made of mud. I feel refreshed when I see my daughter, but I stink when I see a man? . The love and marriage he pursues are also based on this rebellious thought. He shouted abuse in his dream? How to believe the words of monks and Taoists? What? Happy marriage. I am partial, good wood and stone marriage? .
Lin Daiyu is also another rebel image of the feudal aristocracy created by the author. The early death of her mother made her lose her maternal love at an early age, and at the same time she was not edified and cultivated by her mother's ethics and women's morality like an ordinary lady. Feudal ethics and secular utility have very limited influence on her. She maintains a pure nature, loves what she loves, hates what she hates, goes her own way, and rarely cares about the consequences. After Jia defected to her grandmother, the sinister environment cultivated her rebellious character. She is not only beautiful, but also elegant and elegant, and is famous for her poems. She despised the vulgarity of feudal ethics and cursed the hypocrisy of stereotyped writing, and never advised Baoyu to be an official, never used it? Professional economy? A kind? Fucking words? To persuade Baoyu, so he won Baoyu's respect and was valued by Baoyu? Confidante? . Their similarities became the same basis of their love.
Second, the love of bosom friends.
Baodai's love is based on mutual understanding and consistent thoughts. They live in the Grand View Garden and get along with each other day and night. At the beginning of Bao Dai's meeting, Dai Yu was shocked. She thought that the other party had met before, but Baoyu felt like parting and reunion, feeling strange joy and kindness. The first time we met, we planted the roots of love with each other.
But the story doesn't follow stereotypes? Love at first sight? Write it down, but let them experience growth together and experience countless tests. A lot of space is devoted to their inner communication, collision and conflict, from the ignorance, intimacy and friendship of two children to the silent love, and the deeper their love. Especially here? Good character and beautiful appearance, everyone says that Daiyu is inferior? After Baochai's death, their love went through a severe test.
Never advised Baoyu to go to the Grand View Garden? Professional economy? The way, never talk? Fucking words? Daiyu is the only one. Baochai wearing a golden lock and Shi Xiangyun of Jin Qilin are both outstanding women, but what did they persuade Baoyu to learn? Professional economy? For Abreu's future. They all misjudged Baoyu. Baoyu not only criticized them rudely, but also said to xiren? Sister Lin has never said such an asshole. If I said this, I would agree with her. ?
Third, implicit love.
While we appreciate Baodai's pure love for bosom friends, we often feel deep sympathy and sorrow for the way they communicate and express their love. As everyone knows, it is this moral that makes Baodai's love more unforgettable and more beautiful.
As a noble family, Daiyu's upbringing made it impossible for her to take bolder actions. She loves Baoyu passionately, but at the same time, she must bury this heart deeply as a daughter. Baoyu's side is love, and he has a lot to say; Yes, but it is often unclear, opaque, untimely and untimely, causing all kinds of misunderstandings. Because of this moral, their love is full of endless troubles, anger and pain. Quarrel has simply become an indispensable way for their love communication and a platform for each other's happiness. But what moves us is that every time they make trouble, their love becomes clearer and deeper; Daiyu's narrow-mindedness and sentimentality mainly focus on the fear that love will be hurt, and deeply feel the external pressure and its destructive power. In this respect, Baoyu knows the deepest and understands the deepest.
Fourth, persistent for love, crazy for love
Baoyu is a typical sentimental species. He is eager to take care of all the girls in the world and hopes that all the girls in the world will revolve around him. But with the growth of age, where did Baoyu come from? You forget your sister when you see her? Arrive? Weak water 3 thousand, I only take a gourd ladle to drink? Finally, I was crazy about love, and Baoyu finally matured. Although Daiyu is not as healthy as Baochai, what is hidden under her delicate body is a fiery heart, love for life and sincerity for love. She really loves Baoyu, who is the only one in her life. She focuses her life on love. Both of them regard this kind of love as more important than their own lives, and this persistence deeply touched us.
Bao Dai and his wife are together. Although there are many tears and troubles, you can deeply understand that they really love and hate each other. On the contrary, the realistic rationality and indifference between Baoyu and Baochai make it impossible for them to have a vigorous love.
No matter how we look at it today, we should be sure that the love between Bao and Dai described in A Dream of Red Mansions is indeed a kind of noble love with a combination of souls, and it is also the most vivid, successful, meaningful and far-reaching love story in the history of China literature. Because their love is not only two of a kind, but also the true love of tacit understanding, like-minded and mutual confidant. So this kind of love is particularly beautiful and moving.
Baodai's personality contradiction
The dual characters of Baochai and Daiyu determine the development of the relationship between the characters in the book and their respective tragic fates. Their dual personalities are contradictory everywhere in the story.
Emotionally: On the one hand, Baochai and Daiyu live in other people's houses and eat other people's banquets, which means they appreciate each other a little. On the other hand, Baochai is a utilitarian person. After the failure of the candidate, she took aim at Baoyu. She knew that Baoyu had a heart, but she still wanted to squeeze in, because as a foreign population of Jiafu, who became a manager? Grandma Bao er? Who is no longer an outsider? At this point, her pity for Daiyu was gone. At this point, Bao Dai and her husband showed great differences. Baochai's utilitarian heart drives her to win over the elders of the Jia family and cater to those sisters who are actually not close. Daiyu is an independent woman. She loves Baoyu, which is not right, so she thinks it is enough to get Baoyu's heart. So Baochai is generous and tolerant, and Daiyu is a repeated temptation to Baoyu.
In dealing with the environment: their adaptation methods are also very different. Baochai tried to blend in and make herself look like an outsider; Daiyu, on the other hand, was afraid that her arrival would disturb other people's lives and not interfere in anything. She is always worried about being rejected by others, so she has to overwhelm everyone in talent. However, Baochai is always more calculating, can show her feelings, and does not have too many expressions of joy and dislike; Daiyu, on the other hand, is straightforward and makes people feel unsociable.
In the attitude towards Baoyu: Baochai will better cater to the times and persuade Baoyu to make progress and strive for fame and profit. This has shown that her love is selfish. Baoyu has fame and office. Once she gets married, she will rise to the top. And Daiyu's love is obviously more sincere. She encouraged Baoyu to live according to his own wishes (except becoming a monk). It doesn't matter whether he reads or not, as long as he is talented and has the same language.