Twenty-three years later, Casbi and other psychiatrists interviewed them again and investigated their friends and relatives. As a result, they were surprised to find that these children's personalities remained basically the same.
Based on this, Professor Casbi believes that children's personality characteristics have been basically stereotyped before the age of 3, although there are some changes in the later growth process, but it does not seem obvious. Therefore, Professor Casbi advocates that parents and kindergarten teachers should take all kinds of behaviors of infants under 3 years old seriously.
In the previous issues, we discussed the "mirror period" of children's growth in the parent-school edition, that is, learning things like looking in the mirror and accepting the external environment. When babies come into this world, the first environment they come into contact with is the family environment provided by our parents. The quality of family interpersonal environment created by parents directly affects the growth of children. Some people say that "no parents don't love their children", which is one of the biggest lies in the world, because if so, the world will be at least 100 times better than it is now. For example, if Hitler's father hadn't abused his son violently, there would be one less war maniac in the world ... so how can we avoid such a thing and create a harmonious and healthy family environment for the babies?
First of all, parents, as their children's first teachers, are the objects of behavior imitation in the process of children's growth. Parents must play a healthy role in family relations, care for each other in daily life, and let children learn to care for others from their parents. If there are differences of opinion between parents, sit down and communicate calmly. Don't yell and blame each other. This is extremely unfavorable to young children, who can easily imitate the behavior of adults and will adopt this inappropriate way to solve problems when they disagree with others in the future.
In addition, parents' educational concepts should be consistent. They don't want you to say one thing and he says another, which will make children at a loss, because they haven't the ability to distinguish and don't know who to listen to. Parents' exemplary role in family life is endless, and your attitude towards the elderly, relatives and friends will also be the object of his imitation, so the role of parents is very crucial when creating a good family interpersonal environment for children.
In normal life, don't imprison your child because of overindulgence, and don't let your child deal with the outside world. Instead, we should provide opportunities and conditions for children's communication, encourage children to communicate with their neighbors' children, and guide children to treat their wrong behaviors correctly when there are contradictions between children, first understand which behaviors are right and which behaviors are wrong, and then encourage children to correct those wrong behaviors. In addition, children should be guided to use polite language. When someone gives up their seat or helps them, we should teach them to say thank you! If other children invite them to play games together, teach them to get along with others warmly and generously and enjoy the fun of the game together.