Children are generally around 10 years old, and their self-awareness begins to rise. They need the respect of their parents very much, and they also need their parents to treat them as big children. But many parents don't understand their children's psychology and still treat them as children. Therefore, children in this period often deliberately oppose their parents because they cannot get their parents' respect and understanding. Parents should not think that children are deliberately targeting you, but simply disobedient behavior. In fact, there are deep reasons behind their children's desire for your understanding and respect.
Self-awareness is in the formative stage. They have their own views and opinions on things, and they always stubbornly believe that they are right. However, due to the lack of life and social experience, children's views and opinions are often incomplete or wrong. Therefore, the gap between ideal and reality will also make children's emotions and emotions change greatly. Faced with this situation, how should parents guide their children?
Method 1: Identify the causes of children's emotional changes.
Children will have words like "annoying" and "annoying", and the number of such words will continue to rise.
For example, the practice content of Unit 2 this semester is "Speaking from the Heart". I ask my children not to talk about their studies, but about their personal troubles.
A child said, "The clothes my mother told me to wear are always something I don't like;" I like long hair, but my mother asked me to cut it short ... Mom, this is a sign of disrespect for me. "
Another classmate said, "My parents won't let me play with my classmates or read my favorite extracurricular books. They never seem to believe me. "
In fact, children's troubles are not only aimed at toys, clothes, hairstyles, or extracurricular reading materials. What they need is the understanding and respect of their parents. When a child truly understands and respects, all his negative and rebellious emotions will disappear.
For example, in the face of his son's unsatisfactory report card, one
Xxx didn't do well in the math exam, so I'm going home to get a "board". When he got home, he threw his report card on the coffee table in the living room and went back to his room. Dinner was also spent in fear. After dinner, mom and dad said nothing and went back to the bedroom to watch TV. Wang Jun really can't sit still. He thought, is it because mom and dad didn't find my report card? So he quietly came to the living room. His parents left him a note next to his report card.
Son:
Mom and dad are very sad to know that you didn't do well in the exam this time. You need not be nervous. Mom and dad won't punish you, because punishing children is never an end.
Mom and dad believe that you will not give up your efforts. Therefore, in the next exam, we don't ask you to get good grades, as long as you make a little progress than this one, we will be satisfied.
Always support your parents.
After reading mom and dad's note, the little man wrote in his diary:
I don't cry easily, but I was moved to tears by my parents' understanding and respect. I was ready to quarrel with my parents the moment I entered the house with my report card. But now I know it's unnecessary. My parents know their children best in the world! Are the best parents in the world!
They are in a period of sudden emotional change, easy to get angry and angry, but also easy to be moved. Parents' understanding and respect can impress them more than giving them expensive gifts.