? This reading club makes me feel that everyone's life story is very rich, so what is my special event? First of all, my younger brother, who I shared with you in the group, left this world forever, which made me understand the meaning of life and the importance of family. Especially after my parents were hit by this incident, I changed some original plans. When I was an intern in my senior year, I wanted to go to Guangdong to find a job. Teaching was the last choice at that time. I have always loved literature and wanted to work as a writer. However, my family had a gloomy winter vacation. After the winter vacation, I made a decision to stay in Hunan, so in February, I found a private school in Huaihua and signed a contract. Many people advised me to reconsider and not to worry so much. I remember when I went home to tell my parents after signing the contract, my mother said, "Huaihua is quite good, close to home." If you don't have time, we can visit you. " Because my mother gets carsick by car, I choose a place where I can get there by train from my hometown. At that time, I really understood what "parents are here, don't travel far, you must travel well." Another important reason why I have been teaching for so many years is that I want to have more holidays with my parents.
In those two years, whenever someone mentioned her brother, her mother couldn't help crying. It was not until her nephew was born that her attention was diverted. Life is so magical. When a new life is born in the family, it will alleviate the grief of losing loved ones. Later, my mother took my nephew and helped me with my daughter. I found that my parents completely pinned their feelings for my brother on their grandchildren. It can be said that the birth of my nephew is my second major event, and it is also a special event for the whole family.
The third event with special significance is the hospitalization experience of 20131kloc-0/acute pleurisy. During those days in the hospital, I thought about my life from beginning to end like watching a movie. I watched it many times and asked myself what kind of life I wanted. Suddenly, I have a feeling of great enlightenment. I feel that without good health, everything else is zero. After leaving the hospital, I seem to be a different person, no longer complaining and pessimistic as before, and my relationship with students has also improved. Many people can't understand that I seem to be a different person. People only cherish health when they are sick. Then, in May of 20 14, I took an examination of a psychological counselor and embarked on the road of studying psychology. In the future, I will go all the way to the dark, even if the road ahead is confused, I have no regrets.
2. What do you think of the content shared by sharers and observers and the changes in cognitive thinking of collaborators? What content affects you? Hit what?
? When I heard several teachers say that they didn't do their homework actively, found that they had defected and gradually allowed themselves to make such changes or confrontations, I was really happy for them and relieved that I couldn't finish my homework on time. I used to be anxious about everything. I am a perfectionist. I must finish the task on the same day, otherwise I won't be able to sleep. But although I remember that I have homework to finish during this time, I still choose to sleep when it is time to sleep. I also allow myself to slow down and not do things that I haven't thought about. For example, I can allow myself to postpone handing in my homework, which I used to blame myself. I will feel that I am not a good student and I have wasted my time and money.
Teacher Cao said that she found some changes in the communication between her school colleagues and her, and she dared to share them in public. Both Mr Xue and xu teacher are surprised that they have betrayed the past, and feel incredible that they are not in class on time. These are great changes. I have seen the changes of every teacher and myself. I am more and more glad that I chose this online reading club, just like I wrote 1 homework-to enter the narrative and have a new world! Every teacher is constantly healing himself in the process of learning. As Zhang Defen said, learning is a process of "awakening, healing and creating", and we will all find ourselves better.
3. If you are a listener, what is important to you (including your inner voice when listening) and why? What does this book club mean to you?
? At this reading meeting, I heard every teacher who came to share their permission and respect for life. I heard Mr. Wall's different instructions to everyone, and I thought, "Wow, this is great! Why can I keep asking questions and digging, and I can't hear so many different opinions when I consult or chat with my friends? When can I stick to the nearest visitor as enthusiastically as Mr. Hua Er? " Having said that, I began to realize whether I was too anxious again. As Mr Hua Er reminded me, learning narrative should be done slowly. That's true. A watched pot never boils. Talking to the teacher about constantly chasing classes and ignoring relatives, she began to reflect on the ultimate goal of learning. I used to be like this. Within three years after I got the qualification certificate of psychological counselor, I went to class everywhere like chicken blood. I have reported a lot of offline and online reports, and I can't help but buy good books when I see them. Ironically, I just found out that some books I bought a few years ago, which were wrapped in plastic, were still on the shelves. One day on 20 18, I read a sentence: before the age of 45, you should learn from older people and add to your life; After the age of 45, learn from young people and do subtraction in life. I remember my supervisor once said to me, "I'm more than I can chew." As Mr. Wall said, we study different courses, which is like ordering a good table, but the food is not enough.
4. Explain in your own words what is a special event?
? Special activities are decided by tourists themselves, not by consultants. Events of special significance may come from the past, present or future. They are the entrance to new stories. By being close to the story of the visitors, we can find the stories around us. This special event is the key point that leads to the story. For example, some of my changes may be the result of studying psychology in others' eyes, and I know that studying psychology is caused by those special events in my life. In the process of consultation, we can accompany the visitor to trace his lifeline through these special events and look at what happened in the past from a new angle. Events with special significance may have brought pain to the visitor in the past, which he didn't want to touch, or which he always ignored. By tracing the history and significance of special time and looking for stories around, visitors will see more possibilities and heal themselves through this special event. For example, in some people's eyes, my family may be a traumatic family, but it is precisely because I grew up in my parents' quarrel and my brother's departure that I was hit, which gave me a new thinking about life and a different way of managing marriage.
? I hope to put special events in the context of life stories through narration, so that everyone can bid farewell to the past and embrace the future!