Parents should have a normal heart, because giving birth to a child is the most common thing. To have a normal mind is to let children be themselves happily and become "normal people", that is, people who have a peaceful mind and can live in harmony with others. If you want to train your child to be a great man, the most likely result is that the child is mediocre and even ordinary people can't do it well; And if you train your child according to the normal mode, maybe after a long or short experience, your child can really become a "character". Don't impose your wishes on your children, and don't let them realize your original wishes. Leave a space for children to grow freely and let them fully develop themselves.
(2) Lose the abnormal heart and find a normal heart.
It is a common problem for parents to look at their children with abnormal eyes. As long as you feel that your child is not as good as other children, you suspect that there is something wrong with your child. When parents learn to look at their children with a normal eye and a developmental eye, they will understand their children's psychology, forgive their mistakes and see their own advantages. Don't compare their children with others' children, but trust their children. Parents nowadays are more worried about their children and less surprised. The reason is that they don't appreciate their children and always stare at other people's children.
(3) Lose vanity and find a sense of responsibility.
Parents nowadays are so impatient with their children because of vanity. Your child didn't do well in the exam, which made you lose face and criticized; Children who have made some achievements or been admitted to a good school add luster to you, so they show off everywhere. It is vanity and irresponsibility to associate everything about children with their own honor. Many parents regard their children as tools. In order to realize their unfulfilled wishes, they blindly demand and force their children and don't respect them. This is a kind of destruction to their hearts, which has led to many tragedies. Xu Li, a middle school student in Jinhua, Zhejiang, was originally a good student in her class. He didn't come out top in an exam. His mother scolded him many times, and even called him worthless, not as good as other students. He can't stand this long-term psychological torture. After being scolded by his mother once, he killed her while she was unprepared.
(4) Lose fear and find protection.
Some parents are afraid of not studying well when they have boys, and they are afraid of being victimized when they have girls. They worry about their children every day. But no one can follow children all day, so we should cultivate children's brave and strong character and teach them the common sense of self-protection. A happy and harmonious family has a happy and harmonious living atmosphere, which is created by happy people.
It is important to show children the way, illuminate their lost way, and give them timely help when they need it, so that they can feel that their parents are the people they trust most, the people who can understand them best, and the psychological friends. Parents and they are just different in age, but they are equal in status and have the same spirit. For children, parents are not only protectors and caregivers, but also a living person, an example and hero they can see and touch.
Parents attach great importance to their own image and set an example. They believe that children must be educated and enjoy their innocence when they need it. When they have children, they must enjoy the responsibility and happiness of being parents. Many successful parents spend some time playing, talking and communicating with their children. They think this is the most important part of family life.