Direction → China's parents are hardworking and capable, but they are the most tired parents in the world, because the main purpose of being tired; Children and grandchildren enjoy happiness, but there are also directional errors. In pursuit of happiness, we should strive for it ourselves, not create too many conditions for our children. On the one hand, children's viability and fighting spirit are weakened. Ungrateful, don't understand the hard work of parents, is the biggest loss. It's no use giving him 10 million. You need to think carefully about the direction of your life and career, and you will be freed from the hard burden, otherwise you will be doomed to work in the fields all your life.
Planning → The longer the planning time, the shorter the working time. Prepare to visit the scenic spots in several cities, plan the walking route in advance, what to pay attention to on the road and what necessary items to bring, so that the trip will be relaxed and enjoyable, saving time and money.
Action → I was a little abnormal, but I didn't go to the doctor in time and finally lost my life in vain. Such examples abound. Many people like to procrastinate. They didn't do what they were doing well, but they didn't do it in time. This is the biggest vice. Once you make a decision, don't delay, act immediately, and form the good habit of "acting immediately", which is a fortune. Once you have it, you will benefit for life.
Learning a lesson → Ideas and theories are one thing, but in practice it is another. We must constantly learn from failures and setbacks, including adjusting our direction and plans. Note: remind those successful people who are too practical that theory is not preaching, but pointing out the general direction rather than denying the importance of theory, so that you can avoid many detours.
It is a man's responsibility to keep healthy.
Schopenhauer-The biggest mistake that human beings can make is to exchange health for something other than the body. Good health is very important. As we all know, it is mainly to take some time to prevent it, so as not to make it too late. When a person is sick, especially when he is seriously ill, it is not only painful, but the whole family bears great mental pressure and heavy economic burden, so taking good care of your body is not only for yourself, but also for your family.
3, the prophet three days, ten years of wealth → three days and three nights to think about important things, bring you long-term wealth.
Investing in a project, due to immature consideration, is likely to make you heavily in debt and run out of life. Important things must take enough time to think, be long-term and meticulous, don't be eager for quick success, maybe it takes more time, but the final result; The advantages outweigh the disadvantages and even bring incalculable benefits. Give another example; With the rapid economic development in many areas, the government debt has surged, especially the ecological environment has been seriously polluted, and the number of cancer patients has increased sharply. People's right to health is not guaranteed at all. The result is, of course, more harm than good. On the other hand, local leaders can make comprehensive considerations when formulating various policies at the beginning, preferring slow economic development and solving people's livelihood problems such as ecological environment. Then the local people are really blessed.
4. Learn to control risks and prepare for the worst.
Warren Buffett's basic strategy of investing in stocks: I will study carefully before buying any stocks. After buying it, I have always assumed that the company will close down tomorrow and eventually lose everything, but I still have enough money to support my family and prepare for the next investment plan. Why do many millionaires and billionaires go bankrupt or get into debt? They all made fatal mistakes. The risk is too great. We have put all our savings on it. Nothing can happen before the last moment. We must take adequate measures to deal with it. For example, if you have 1 million, the more reliable scheme is; Take 500,000-600,000 of them to take risks (invest), and the rest will not move, just in case something happens. After making money, you can continue to follow this model step by step, and don't be greedy. For an adventure with a retreat, the mental stress will not be so great at first, but the relaxation of mentality will make you more likely to succeed.
5. success covered up the next disaster.
Success is the easiest to get carried away, ignoring some fatal defects, which often appear in the following events. As many tens of millions and billionaires have just said, why are they bankrupt or even in debt? The previous aura made the ego over-inflated, ignoring the existence of risks and directly leading to bankruptcy.
6. The most fundamental difference between humans and animals: humans have ideological and spiritual pursuits, while most of animals' behaviors are survival instincts.
One of Jobs' sincere words: "I found that all the social fame and fortune that once made me feel infinitely proud became dim and meaningless in the face of the coming death. Now I understand that as long as a person has enough wealth in his life, he should pursue other things that have nothing to do with wealth and should be more important.
Endless greed for wealth or busy eating, drinking and having fun all day (lack of spiritual pursuit) is no different from animals. Greed, excessive enjoyment, spiritual emptiness, people need to enrich themselves in a healthy way, help others, read books, think about problems and so on. To be more advanced, the exploration of life philosophy depends entirely on personal understanding.
7. True honor transcends vanity.
Those brave people who saved children from drowning, their motivation is to save people, not to win praise from all walks of life. Similarly, being an official in politics is not for glorifying ancestors or going down in history. The main purpose of politics is to save the country from dire straits and let the people live a happy life. Really don't treat being an official as a boss as sacred. Being an official is also a profession, as necessary as other industries. Just like without sanitation workers, every city will stink. No matter what your wealth and status are, as long as you do something beneficial to society, you should be respected.
Many people care about fame, status, other people's opinions and whether the leaders value me. These are all caused by human vanity. Even if they are satisfied, people will soon forget you. What ordinary people really care about is their own destiny and future, and the rest is after dinner. The pride of death, the misery of life, and vanity harm others and themselves. Put it down and underestimate yourself, and you will get more freedom and happiness.
8. Kindness is the most precious wealth.
It is reported that a boy of about 10 is playing with his companions at the construction site. Due to negligence, a steel bar was deeply inserted into his lower body, and his lower body was stuck. The little boy can't move, and he is in pain. People around him used various ways to alleviate his pain, and finally the boy was successfully rescued by firefighters. What I want to say is; If this little boy is everyone here, you can feel the taste of purgatory at the moment. Getting rid of pain, especially those extreme pains, is everyone's most instinctive reaction. Perhaps at this moment, you will find how terrible the lack of goodness in human nature is.
Nowadays, people emphasize ability, and ability is of course important, but if virtue is corrupted, the stronger his ability, the greater the harm to society. In ancient times, many military generals who were able to enlist for good warfare, because of their low moral level, slaughtered people, robbed property and raped women everywhere, which was simply a hell on earth. It would be better if such talents didn't exist. So kindness is the soul, and ability is just a tool to serve it. It doesn't matter if you don't have a house, a car, money or a girlfriend, but you can't live without kindness, as the French proverb says; Without love, our earth will become a grave.
No matter who is missing in the world, the sun will rise as usual tomorrow. But as individuals, without the help of everything, society and others, we can't live for a moment, or even die. Abandoning arrogance, everyone really needs gratitude and humility.
10, men's temper affects career, and women's temper affects marriage. Watch it once a day, and slowly you will change! Bai Longwang, a Thai legend, warned that as long as one has a good temper, everything will be fine. Many people come here and ask me: Is my career good? How's the family? How is the baby? How's the marriage? I just answered: Are you good-tempered? Good temper means that a person has a certain accomplishment. Getting along with such people will naturally feel relaxed and easy-going.
1 1. Knife wounds are easy to cure, but evil words are hard to get rid of. Bad words may never be forgotten. Please leave virtue in your mouth.
Give examples of ways of speaking that are easy to cause interpersonal tension; Strong language, language violence, obscene language, heavy tone, habitual fault-finding or obsession, and strong aggression. If you have these problems, please correct them immediately.
12, marriage philosophy
1, personality, cultivation → With this, there will be love and tolerance at home. Do you feel safe with tyrants? Even if you are as rich as an enemy, you can make people run away.
2. Economic independence is the best → flowers are not red for a hundred days, but people are not old for a thousand days. If you rely too much on each other economically, it is easy to make the other side strong, and the result of strength to the weak side is mental depression. Furthermore, what should I do if one day he doesn't want you? Carefully tell those gold diggers or gigolo that there is no such thing as a free lunch, and you must be able to stand on your own feet, otherwise the other party will look down on you, which is normal. People who have no ability to survive are often lazy and greedy for pleasure.
3, the ideological level is quite → People often say that personality disagreement often means different views on many things in life, and the ideological level determines his understanding of people and things, so it is difficult to be happy in a marriage with large differences in ideological level (affecting communication), just like philosophers and illiterate peasant women.
4, the appropriate distance → people are like hedgehogs in the cold winter, and they will feel stinging if they get too close; If you are too far away from each other, you will feel cold; Couples, including other relationships, must keep a proper distance to get along.
5. Love is always true and more reliable than love. → In 2006, Ms. Zhang and Mr. Liu formally divorced because of their incompatible personalities. Shortly after the divorce, Liu formed a new family, while his ex-wife Ms. Zhang has been single and has not been out of the shadow of divorce for a long time. A few years later, news came that his ex-wife had cancer and no one took care of her. Without saying anything, Liu immediately rushed to his ex-wife's residence, took good care of her and stayed with her for the last journey. This is a true story, telling people that love is only a personal feeling, which is easily influenced by various factors and is not so stable, while true love is unconditional and will abandon secular prejudice. At the same time, advise those divorced people that divorce is also a natural phenomenon and get out of the shadow of divorce as soon as possible. As long as there is love in the heart, happiness is everywhere.
13, the three key points that children need to grasp tightly have been grasped, and the others have come.
Help him find the right direction, including life direction, study direction and career direction.
2. Kindness and virtue, as mentioned above.
Three habits, some people are excellent at everything, because of the habit of serious concentration, some people like to play mobile phones while walking, and finally have not recovered. Everyone's achievements and disasters are actually formed by these seemingly insignificant habits. Therefore, from now on, let good habits become our second nature, let us habitually think, habitually be firm and habitually be friendly to others.
14 learn to cherish.
People who live a hard and even war life, once they get rid of the predicament and live with more dignity, cherish it more than anyone else. If you don't know if you are blessed, don't take everything you have for granted. Life is impermanent. Imagine that one day your eyes can't see the world clearly, and you will find how happy you are to have bright eyes.
Imagination is more important than knowledge.
Imagination is not an illusory fantasy, but a bold or clever combination of what you have learned and real life. Every great scientific invention is produced in this way. No matter how much knowledge a person absorbs, if he can't apply it to practice, he is a typical bookworm. If a person has no imagination, he is like a butcher with a blunt knife and an old scale.
16, the necessity of praise
Singers or athletes take part in the competition. If there is no applause from the audience, the contestants will lose their passion for the competition. Explain that everyone's talents and achievements need to be appreciated or affirmed by others at an appropriate time (don't care too much or aim at it), so that he will be more motivated to work or study.
17, four philosophies of a story.
The black boss of a city in Shandong, known as Hu Mazi, is ruthless and aggressive. On September 22nd, Hu and his friends ate at Qingshan Hotel. Because of a small collision, he quarreled with a stranger (Li) and had a big fight. Because Hu laid hands on him so hard, he even cut off the other person's hand. Later, I learned that Li had a big background and took the initiative to send 500,000 yuan to settle the matter. Li Jian will never accept it. Hu's worry about each other's blood may really be retribution. Soon, Li took advantage of his inattention. It's no use crying for mercy. It can be said that the wicked have their own grinding. Li smashed the five fingers of Hu's left hand with a hammer. The screams at that time were earth-shattering and earth-shattering. But this heavy punch really woke him up, and Hu decided to turn over a new leaf, quit the Jianghu and live a normal life. What does it tell us about philosophy?
Many people can't abandon evil and do good because they haven't suffered enough. Just like this brother Hu, his personal experience made him understand that the evil of human nature will bring extreme pain to others. Second, be a man and do things in moderation. You can't cripple others when they scold you. Ruthlessness does not mean courage. True courage must be based on justice and kindness. The heart of the wicked is timid. The so-called guilty conscience, people do something wrong, even if the conscience does not torture him, fear will inevitably torture him. 4. fear. No matter how tough your personality is, you are vulnerable to the laws of nature. Everyone should follow this path. If you have awe of justice and love, then you are really blessed.
18. Take a teacup and fill it with boiling hot water. If you insist on not letting go, the pain will last. Similarly, when you let go of unpleasant things, there will be no worries. This is an irresistible natural law.
19, the law of the jungle is an animal behavior. Humans should abandon this low-level law, improve their abilities and make themselves stronger. There is nothing wrong, but the strong should not oppress the weak and be indifferent to their suffering. On the contrary, they should undertake more social responsibilities morally, such as resisting aggression and upholding justice.
20. Being a man is by no means equal to noble character.
Chinese-style corrupt officials are often good at being human and even a little loyal, but money in luxury countries is never vague. They just use it to help. Therefore, corruption is essentially squeezing people's hard-earned money. Where can we talk about noble morality?
2 1, neither supercilious nor supercilious.
You have some money and look down on the poor. When you meet a real rich man one day, you are also poor in his eyes, and he looks at you with contempt. How do you feel?
22. One should be independent, but not stubborn.
Listen to other people's advice, no matter what most people or a few people think, don't affirm or deny it at once. The most important thing is to make a decision through your own serious thinking, so there will be fewer and fewer regrets.
23. Deep-seated causes of pain: Without enlightenment, you can't really believe in karma.
It happens in real life. Kind people are not necessarily safe and happy. The big bad guys who were corrupt and even killed and robbed didn't get the punishment they deserved. At this time, it is inevitable that some people will question whether God is blind and what goes around comes around is bullshit. This view makes many people find reasons to continue to make mistakes. I want to remind you. Don't jump to conclusions Of the 300 greatest scientists in the world, 242 believe in God. The Nobel Prize was awarded by 190 1. By 1996, 96.7% of Nobel Prize winners have religious beliefs and believe that people have souls or reincarnation. Are these scientists insane? Since ancient times, new cases with clear memories of past lives have never stopped. Is everyone making up stories? All these special events remind us of this possibility; People do evil, this life is not over, and there will be retribution in the afterlife. If you don't take your evil deeds seriously, you can only explain them with Buddhist philosophy, and you won't be enlightened. Pain is your only choice. With the development of science and technology, people are more and more tolerant of supernatural phenomena. See:/s/blog _ 5f7771760100edrp.html for details.
24. Influenced by traditional culture and education, people often have fixed views or concepts about things, that is, fixed thinking patterns. The continuous progress of human civilization has broken people's inherent understanding, and everyone can't be too sure of what he has learned and thought. The universe is really wonderful and deep. I can only say that I believe it now.
25. Some ideas about wisdom or ideas.
Cleverness and wisdom are two different concepts. Cleverness refers to flexible mind, many ideas and good memory, while wisdom embodies a mature outlook on life, such as understanding of life, love and kindness.
Smart people are not necessarily wise. Hitler was very capable and clever, but his thoughts were too extreme and fanatical, which doomed his failure. A wise man will never be stupid.
Second, kindness without thought may become the devil at any time.
Children are pure and kind by nature, but they are tortured and abused by inhuman people. If not enlightened or treated in time, the three views are likely to be destroyed by such experiences. He will think that being stronger than others and being cruel than others is king. Buddha said; Everything in the world has its inevitable reason. People who do evil in the world often have such painful experiences. The so-called hateful people must have bitterness.
Third, high academic qualifications do not represent ideas.
Many college students and even professors in China have low taste and moral standards. Can we say that they are considerate? Education helps to improve people's ideological level, and what plays a decisive role is continuous learning and understanding and thinking about life. Learning here refers to the study of philosophy.
Opinion polls do not represent opinions.
When Liu Xiang won the Olympic champion in Athens, he became the object of national worship. In 2008, he retired at home and became the target of many people. As a world-class hurdler, it is normal to be troubled by injuries and pains. The fundamental reasons are as follows: quite a few people are not rational and mature enough.